sambolini Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 How sad that wanting a strong protective masculine man is thought to be unrealistic! To be fair, men have no control over their height. It's written into their genetic code. This statement is akin to saying "how sad that wanting a thin full-breasted feminine woman is thought to be unrealistic!". Everything is a two-way street.
LookAtThisPOst Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 That's pretty silly especially since she knew your height and saw you in person. Being overly picky about things like that can keep people perpetually single or cause someone to miss out on an otherwise great match. I think it should be more of a preference than a deal breaker (unless there's a huge difference). I just roll my eyes when I see a woman online who's barely over 5' who's minimum height in a match is 6'. She's been on Tinder before but just recently got back on. She said she's dated a couple of guys from it. Since she's been on there before she should know to list her height preference or ask before agreeing to a date if it's that critical to her. The last picture I sent wasn't much different from the others since they're all fairly recent. I guess people can't help what they feel, but I don't think an inch or two difference in height should be the only determining factor in whether someone feels feminine or masculine around someone else. I even had SHORTER women...shorter than me, and I'm 5'8", say I was too short for them when they wear heels. The could be 5'4" and still think I'm too short. I mean, I can understand if you're tall...for a woman. But if you're a shorter woman, and the man is taller than you, isn't that enough? Oh right..you wear heels *eyeroll*
sambolini Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 I even had SHORTER women...shorter than me, and I'm 5'8", say I was too short for them when they wear heels. The could be 5'4" and still think I'm too short. I mean, I can understand if you're tall...for a woman. But if you're a shorter woman, and the man is taller than you, isn't that enough? Oh right..you wear heels *eyeroll* Let them have their preferences. I have zero desire to be with a woman who isn't perfectly okay with how I am physically, especially when it deals with something I have absolutely no control over (like my height). If she's even slightly on the fence about my height, I'll move on. I've had girlfriends from 4'11" to 5'5"; not a single one of them cared about my height, and all were highly attracted to me. I will never settle for lackluster sex. EDIT: I will also never try to convince a woman I'm worth "overlooking" her height preferences. That's just a recipe for disaster. Take me as I am, height and all. If she can't do that, then I'm not interested. 2
beyond Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 To be fair, men have no control over their height. It's written into their genetic code. This statement is akin to saying "how sad that wanting a thin full-breasted feminine woman is thought to be unrealistic!". Everything is a two-way street. Of course men have no control over their height, just as men and women have no control what attracts them. To want the stereotype masculine male is actually very primal - going back to the strongest/biggest males siring offspring more likely to survive, better able to warn off danger etc. Also, as you mentioned it, I AM a slim full breasted feminine woman and I don't consider my body type unrealistic. Some men will be attracted to my body type, so wont.
thecrucible Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 I even had SHORTER women...shorter than me, and I'm 5'8", say I was too short for them when they wear heels. The could be 5'4" and still think I'm too short. I mean, I can understand if you're tall...for a woman. But if you're a shorter woman, and the man is taller than you, isn't that enough? Oh right..you wear heels *eyeroll* Well that sounds incredibly fussy. But I don't think the majority of women would be like that so don't let it get to you. I prefer to date men who are taller than me and bigger than me in general but I don't mean they have to be massively tall. I'm 5ft 5" myself. It's a lot of window dressing anyway. I've met guys who are short but it didn't make them less attractive in my eyes because they were confident. I wasn't interested in those particular for reasons other than their height. The more experience I get, the more my attraction towards a guy is based on personal preference rather than how I think the guy might be perceived by the outside world. But I also think it's better to be honest with yourself about what you're looking for and let a guy find someone who really appreciates him. I would want a man to be the same with me. I wouldn't want to be with someone who was compromising too much with me. 1
thecrucible Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 Also, as you mentioned it, I AM a slim full breasted feminine woman and I don't consider my body type unrealistic. Some men will be attracted to my body type, so wont. Same here. The best you can do is be proud of what you can offer. My body type is more akin to Kim Kardashian than what some men might prefer and I've had men tell me to their face that I am not their' ideal body type. That wasn't very gentlemanly but it made me realise that there's no point in agonising over what I don't have and better just to present myself as well as I can. I think the same about guys. We've all just put our best forward because no one looks perfect. It also can be quite unattractive to be very insecure about what you look like and will turn off others more than your objective looks anyway.
xxoo Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 Focus on the ones who DO like you. That piece of advice alone will save so much angst over dating. 2
Radio_Religion Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 As a 5'7 man myself who has dated girls ranging from 5'0 to 6'0, trust me, you're better off saying "**** it" and moving along. It's not worth your time worrying about something you have no control over. I used to get frustrated as hell when some girl barely 5'0" told me she would only date guys over 6'2". My first thoughts were "wow, an unattractive troll who is delusional about her own appearance". But you know what, it doesn't matter. If you have to convince a woman to look past your height, it's only going to be a huge pain in the ass for you when she eventually decides she wants someone taller. Is it superficial? Absolutely. But to some women that is a must have trait in a man. However the good news is, it's definitely not all women. I dated a 5'10" blonde for almost a year and quite frankly, it was a real turn on for me. I used to loathe the idea of choosing a partner on superficial things like height. But honestly, this idea of thinking caused me to sell myself short (pun) and date girls who had physical traits that I weren't attracted to (overweight, super Short, etc.). I always told myself "it's on the inside that counts, don't be a shallow loser". As I grew older though, I've come to realize that even though Some desires In a partner are superficial, they are also still important on some level. Now a days if a girl says, no thanks you're yoo short. I simply pass em on without a word said. P.S. Tinder is about as shallow as you can get in my experience. Of the girls I dated taller than me, all of them were met through friends or setups via a coworker or something like that. Much easier to sell yourself on your charm in person rather than online where you'll be judged on your pictures and listed height. 2
LookAtThisPOst Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 As a 5'7 man myself who has dated girls ranging from 5'0 to 6'0, trust me, you're better off saying "**** it" and moving along. It's not worth your time worrying about something you have no control over. I used to get frustrated as hell when some girl barely 5'0" told me she would only date guys over 6'2". My first thoughts were "wow, an unattractive troll who is delusional about her own appearance". But you know what, it doesn't matter. If you have to convince a woman to look past your height, it's only going to be a huge pain in the ass for you when she eventually decides she wants someone taller. Is it superficial? Absolutely. But to some women that is a must have trait in a man. However the good news is, it's definitely not all women. I dated a 5'10" blonde for almost a year and quite frankly, it was a real turn on for me. I used to loathe the idea of choosing a partner on superficial things like height. But honestly, this idea of thinking caused me to sell myself short (pun) and date girls who had physical traits that I weren't attracted to (overweight, super Short, etc.). I always told myself "it's on the inside that counts, don't be a shallow loser". As I grew older though, I've come to realize that even though Some desires In a partner are superficial, they are also still important on some level. Now a days if a girl says, no thanks you're yoo short. I simply pass em on without a word said. P.S. Tinder is about as shallow as you can get in my experience. Of the girls I dated taller than me, all of them were met through friends or setups via a coworker or something like that. Much easier to sell yourself on your charm in person rather than online where you'll be judged on your pictures and listed height. Radio Religion, I know what you mean, man. I've even heard women that used the line, "I tried dating shorter men, but they seem rather insecure in dating a taller woman." Apparently, even though the guy WANTED to date them, they "claimed" he had a problem with her height. I sometimes don't buy this line. He would not have asked her out if he had a problem with her height. So some of these women kind of "spin in it" on to the man as sweeping generalization of how they attempted to date a short guy and then claim he had a "napolean complex" And thus concluding, "I won't date short men, because all short men have Napoleon complex's" when really...she is just not attracted to short men. Tinder is about as shallow as you can get in my experience. Of the girls I dated taller than me, all of them were met through friends or setups via a coworker or something like that. Much easier to sell yourself on your charm in person rather than online where you'll be judged on your pictures and listed height. Yep, if you want to be weeded out like poop goin' through a goose, height is usually the first thing a woman looks at as part of the weeding out process.
xxoo Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 And thus concluding, "I won't date short men, because all short men have Napoleon complex's" when really...she is just not attracted to short men. Does it matter if she doesn't like the chicken or she doesn't like the egg? Just focus on women who like your chicken and eggs.
road Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 The point is if the Amazons do not want to date us mere mortals. That is their right. I have my deal breakers for women. We all have deal breakers. The 10's don't want 9's and so on all the way to the 2's don't want any 1's. The 1's are the nicest people for they do not discriminate, for they are willing to date anyone from fellow 1's all the way up to the 10's. Moral of the story everyone wants to have a deal breaker/s yet will not accept that they are a deal breaker for others. Solution: grow up, stop crying into your beer, and just keep casting until you find the best you can. Marry, lots of fun having sex, having lots, err lets change that to a few kids, grow old together.
sambolini Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Just focus on women who like your chicken and eggs. Will bacon also be involved?
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