Superman2024 Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 So I matched with this gorgeous girl on Tinder recently. We chatted a bit and when I asked for her number she gave it to me. The next day we exchanged a few texts and I asked her out. She said yes for this Saturday but wasn't sure on the time yet and would let me know. After she agreed to go out, she asked me for a picture so I sent her one. She then asked how tall I was (never been asked this before) and I told her I was 5'8". She told me she was a couple of inches taller. I said I've always dated girls shorter than me but that it wasn't a deal breaker for me. I asked how she felt about it and she said she's dated shorter than her before but not under 5'9". We both kind of laughed it off and continued talking about something else. Now she hasn't got back with me on a time and isn't responding. It seems she's flaking on me because I'm two inches shorter than her, which I think is pretty superficial. Oh well, her loss. I guess that's what I should expect on Tinder.
soph-walker Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 So I matched with this gorgeous girl on Tinder recently. We chatted a bit and when I asked for her number she gave it to me. The next day we exchanged a few texts and I asked her out. She said yes for this Saturday but wasn't sure on the time yet and would let me know. After she agreed to go out, she asked me for a picture so I sent her one. She then asked how tall I was (never been asked this before) and I told her I was 5'8". She told me she was a couple of inches taller. I said I've always dated girls shorter than me but that it wasn't a deal breaker for me. I asked how she felt about it and she said she's dated shorter than her before but not under 5'9". We both kind of laughed it off and continued talking about something else. Now she hasn't got back with me on a time and isn't responding. It seems she's flaking on me because I'm two inches shorter than her, which I think is pretty superficial. Oh well, her loss. I guess that's what I should expect on Tinder. It may be superficial, but you shouldn't pay it any mind, you'd not even met in real life. Had you met 'irl', there may have been a habit or attitude of hers that you didn't find so appealing. Keep your horizons open, you will meet someone who you click with 1
Maggie4 Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Two things here a bit awkward: 1. she cares how you look but she doesn't ask for a photo before agreeing to go out with you. 2. she cares about a man's height but she doesn't ask your height until after she sees your photo, and she's a couple of inches taller than 5'8", which makes her taller or same height as the average american man. Don't believe everything on dating sites.
dobielover Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 It seems she's flaking on me because I'm two inches shorter than her, which I think is pretty superficial. Oh well, her loss. I guess that's what I should expect on Tinder. Nah. Whether on Tinder or any other way of meeting, regardless of the specific heights involved, I think most women would feel the same way in not wanting to date a guy who's shorter than us.
Author Superman2024 Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 She had already seen several pictures of me from the dating site so I'm not sure why she asked for another one. It did seem odd for her to ask for a picture and about my height after accepting a date. After two days I finally got a text from her this evening but she still hasn't told me what time to meet her after work tomorrow! I totally understand most women want a guy taller than them and most guys want a girl shorter than them. I typically search for and date girls shorter than me too. I guess it was the way she handled it that didn't seem quite right. Saying something up front or on her profile would've been better, especially before accepting a date! We'll see what happens though...
SwordofFlame Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 She had already seen several pictures of me from the dating site so I'm not sure why she asked for another one. It did seem odd for her to ask for a picture and about my height after accepting a date. After two days I finally got a text from her this evening but she still hasn't told me what time to meet her after work tomorrow! I totally understand most women want a guy taller than them and most guys want a girl shorter than them. I typically search for and date girls shorter than me too. I guess it was the way she handled it that didn't seem quite right. Saying something up front or on her profile would've been better, especially before accepting a date! We'll see what happens though... Odds are she's probably brand new to Tinder and isn't really sure what to do. 1
bluefeather Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 it sounds a little more that she didn't find your pic that appealing. I would bet that's why she asked how tall you were. strike 1 was the pic, but strike 2 was the height. I'm confused though - isn't tinder just a place for sex? I'm not tall either, but I would think that doesn't matter as much when you are both horizontal. Height is just how long your legs are =) edit: just missed your post saying you already gave her pics.. well I don't know. Maybe your more recent pic was different..? Also this might make sense: Odds are she's probably brand new to Tinder and isn't really sure what to do.
longjohn Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 If it makes you feel any better I had a woman tell me I wasn't tall enough for her before. This was after we talked on a site which listed my height and what's worse this is after we met in the flesh! I'm 5,11 and I took that to mean "your not what I want and I don't want to be honest or think up a better lie". You'd better believe after she said that I said thanks.. and left her sitting. Then again I've had a lady poke fun at my (then new) car because it was a smaller car, she must have been hoping for an AUDI. All the while she was driving a rusted PoS? The list of crap I've heard from some people I've met on dating websites has made me think it's best to just do it the old fashioned way.
Ami1uwant Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 There are a good number of women who just wont date a guy the same height or shorter than her. These also usually want a man who is big and strong and will protect her and other unrealistic expectations.
dobielover Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 She had already seen several pictures of me from the dating site so I'm not sure why she asked for another one. It did seem odd for her to ask for a picture and about my height after accepting a date. After two days I finally got a text from her this evening but she still hasn't told me what time to meet her after work tomorrow! I totally understand most women want a guy taller than them and most guys want a girl shorter than them. I typically search for and date girls shorter than me too. I guess it was the way she handled it that didn't seem quite right. Saying something up front or on her profile would've been better, especially before accepting a date! We'll see what happens though... I don't think it's that odd at all. I went on a Tinder date over the summer with a guy who looked a lot taller in his pictures than he actually was. I was new to Tinder and didn't know to ask his height since he didn't list it.
dobielover Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 There are a good number of women who just wont date a guy the same height or shorter than her. These also usually want a man who is big and strong and will protect her and other unrealistic expectations. Yes, that she should have a desire to feel feminine and him masculine, totally unrealistic expectations. 1
Author Superman2024 Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 If it makes you feel any better I had a woman tell me I wasn't tall enough for her before. This was after we talked on a site which listed my height and what's worse this is after we met in the flesh! I'm 5,11 and I took that to mean "your not what I want and I don't want to be honest or think up a better lie". You'd better believe after she said that I said thanks.. and left her sitting. Then again I've had a lady poke fun at my (then new) car because it was a smaller car, she must have been hoping for an AUDI. All the while she was driving a rusted PoS? The list of crap I've heard from some people I've met on dating websites has made me think it's best to just do it the old fashioned way. That's pretty silly especially since she knew your height and saw you in person. Being overly picky about things like that can keep people perpetually single or cause someone to miss out on an otherwise great match. I think it should be more of a preference than a deal breaker (unless there's a huge difference). I just roll my eyes when I see a woman online who's barely over 5' who's minimum height in a match is 6'. She's been on Tinder before but just recently got back on. She said she's dated a couple of guys from it. Since she's been on there before she should know to list her height preference or ask before agreeing to a date if it's that critical to her. The last picture I sent wasn't much different from the others since they're all fairly recent. Yes, that she should have a desire to feel feminine and him masculine, totally unrealistic expectations. I guess people can't help what they feel, but I don't think an inch or two difference in height should be the only determining factor in whether someone feels feminine or masculine around someone else.
basil67 Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 I've been the same height as or taller than every guy I've seriously dated. I think women who judge men on their height are just shallow. There are better women out there - go find them. 3
TheFinalWord Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 So I matched with this gorgeous girl on Tinder recently. That's really all you had to say Some women are really picky about height. Nothing you can do, so just forget it and move on.
Shining One Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 It's better to find out now rather than later. Even at 5'11", I've been too short for some women who were still shorter than me in heels.
road Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Tell her that you are hoping she wears her tallest heels on your date, looking forward to picking her up, so lets said the date.
Sunlight72 Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Since she's been on there before she should know to list her height preference or ask before agreeing to a date if it's that critical to her.You're taking this awfully personally. We (me included, you included) don't get to make rules about exactly how other people behave.... or rather we only get to make rules if we expect to be aggravated often. We get to observe how people behave, and then decideif we care to involve them in our lives or not. I guess people can't help what they feel, but I don't think an inch or two difference in height should be the only determining factor in whether someone feels feminine or masculine around someone else.The reality is, it does not matter how you (or I) wish she chooses her boyfriend. So do yourself a favor and don't even frame it this way in your mind. She did you a favor by identifying herself as someone you should be wary of. Say thank you, and don't get invested in her based on her actions so far. 1
PPan Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 I've been the same height as or taller than every guy I've seriously dated. I think women who judge men on their height are just shallow. There are better women out there - go find them. I've been with very attractive women who were much taller than me. i've even dated a 6'2'' girl who wore heels because I asked her to, so she'd be 6'6'', it was hilarious and it made my ego-swell so much when guys close to her height asked her what she saw in me 1
stillafool Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 So I matched with this gorgeous girl on Tinder recently. We chatted a bit and when I asked for her number she gave it to me. The next day we exchanged a few texts and I asked her out. She said yes for this Saturday but wasn't sure on the time yet and would let me know. After she agreed to go out, she asked me for a picture so I sent her one. She then asked how tall I was (never been asked this before) and I told her I was 5'8". She told me she was a couple of inches taller. I said I've always dated girls shorter than me but that it wasn't a deal breaker for me. I asked how she felt about it and she said she's dated shorter than her before but not under 5'9". We both kind of laughed it off and continued talking about something else. Now she hasn't got back with me on a time and isn't responding. It seems she's flaking on me because I'm two inches shorter than her, which I think is pretty superficial. Oh well, her loss. I guess that's what I should expect on Tinder. Don't let it bother you. Luckily there are plenty of short women to date. I think there are more short women than tall ones.
beyond Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 There are a good number of women who just wont date a guy the same height or shorter than her. These also usually want a man who is big and strong and will protect her and other unrealistic expectations. How sad that wanting a strong protective masculine man is thought to be unrealistic! OP - you say she has been back in touch with you - so you could just say 'what time shall I pick you up'. If she flounders or doesn't get back to you then you will know to move on. It could just be, she is in two minds about your height but has decided to give it a go. You being upfront and confident with her may just sway her. Nothing ventured, nothing gained
seekingluck Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 It's better to find out now rather than later. Even at 5'11", I've been too short for some women who were still shorter than me in heels. I have an acquaintance who is not even 5'0" and she only likes 6-footers. Makes me laugh. I prefer men who are taller than me for a variety of reasons. That doesn't mean height is a disqualifier immediately either. Attraction is about far more than height.
Buddhist Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 So I matched with this gorgeous girl on Tinder recently. It seems she's flaking on me because I'm two inches shorter than her, which I think is pretty superficial. Seems like you two are a perfect match then. You're attracted to her looks, she's unattracted to yours. No point getting sour about it, I'm certain you've dismissed plenty of women based on something they also can't help much (the way they look) so what's the big deal here? It seems to me a lot of sour men on LS are miffed that someone would dismiss them over something they can't help but they merrily do the same to others. Same rules apply, everyone's allowed to have preferences. You can prefer what you find attractive and so can she. 1
sambolini Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 This is one area where I don't have much sympathy for my fellow men. I'm also 5'8", and have been rejected by women because of it. Doesn't bother me. I don't date women who weigh more than me, and since I'm fairly skinny, it doesn't take much for a woman to exceed my weight. Last summer I went on a date with a woman who was taller than me. The height difference didn't bother either of us. But she definitely outweighed me. She didn't get a second date. We all have physical preferences. 1
basil67 Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 How sad that wanting a strong protective masculine man is thought to be unrealistic! Hehe, I thought it was sarcasm. I'm pushing 50 and have never needed a man to come protect me. Don't know why it would be a requirement of a woman. 1
basil67 Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 This is one area where I don't have much sympathy for my fellow men. I'm also 5'8", and have been rejected by women because of it. Doesn't bother me. I don't date women who weigh more than me, and since I'm fairly skinny, it doesn't take much for a woman to exceed my weight. Last summer I went on a date with a woman who was taller than me. The height difference didn't bother either of us. But she definitely outweighed me. She didn't get a second date. We all have physical preferences. I tend to agree. I find the idea of simply not being with someone who doesn't meet physical preferences far more palatable than many of the other suggestions which have been made so far. The whole thing about discussing it with her, teaching her, supporting her, etc etc sits badly with me. Unless a person *asks* for our help, we shouldn't be pushing a person to change to fit our desires. 2
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