hopn Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 So this guy and I are texting each other back and forth throughout the day (one or two texts per hour). Then I text him something..he answers back..and then immediately follows that up with "Have a good rest of your day"...when nowhere did it seem like the conversation was winding down and there's another 9 hours left to the day. What the? Am I reading into things or did I just get completely blown off?
ExpatInItaly Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 So this guy and I are texting each other back and forth throughout the day (one or two texts per hour). Then I text him something..he answers back..and then immediately follows that up with "Have a good rest of your day"...when nowhere did it seem like the conversation was winding down and there's another 9 hours left to the day. What the? Am I reading into things or did I just get completely blown off? You're overthinking it. Not because it's necessarily a "blow-off" but because there shouldn't be a problem if someone needs to wrap up a conversation. People get busy and don't want to necessarily be on their phones all the time. Texting can also be rather boring and tedious when the conversation isn't all that important. He is signalling to you that he needed to tie up the conversation. Would you have preferred he said nothing and have you wondering where he went? 3
Easyguy14 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 So this guy and I are texting each other back and forth throughout the day (one or two texts per hour). Then I text him something..he answers back..and then immediately follows that up with "Have a good rest of your day"...when nowhere did it seem like the conversation was winding down and there's another 9 hours left to the day. What the? Am I reading into things or did I just get completely blown off? Maybe he thought the conversation was done so he closed it out for the both of you. Why don't you just text him back in a bit to see what's up.
Author hopn Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 Woops! The comment was actually ""Have a good rest of your week"...sorry... Does that change your opinion?
Versacehottie Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Woops! The comment was actually ""Have a good rest of your week"...sorry... Does that change your opinion? Oops. A bit. I agree with the others that it was courtesy wrap up to basically let you know he wasn't going to go back and forth all day. That's cool, like expat said that's better than just disappearing. A week could be a blow off. Here's the real question: have you guys met and/or ever been on a first date? If you haven't, he's just being smart and not overdoing it before you've even met. That will benefit you both. If you've been dating, it's probably not the best thing for him to have said. wonder if he meant week as in the next 2.5 days? Which would be fair enough. I got the feeling from what you said that you haven't met yet or are very newly dating.
xcupid Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 What's the backstory? Are you dating him? Did you just meet him? What?!
MzLady Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 He was letting you know in a nice way that he was done with the conversation. Not dumping you. I've had to do the same to guys who will text me throughout the day while I am at work. I don't want to be on the hook for replys and whatnot all day long. Remember when people used to talk on the phone and to end the call.. They'd say something like "talk to you later" or "Hey.. Gotta go. Call you later" That's what he was doing. 2
basil67 Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 My response completely depends on the circumstance. If it's a casual thing, it's completely normal. I've got friends (and my mum!) who I talk with (by voice - not text, but the idea is the same) and I'll say "OK, I'll talk with you later in the week" or "talk next week". It's not a blow off - it's just how you say goodbye if you know you won't be in contact for a few days. If it's a guy you're keen on, then it's a sign that he only sees you as a platonic friend - or a FWB - depending on what type of relationship you have. However, if he's your official boyfriend and he's not planning on seeing you over the weekend, then you might want to start looking for someone who wants to spend weekend time with you. Edited to add: talking by text all day is really time consuming. Even if the conversation hasn't finished, it's wrong to expect a person to hang by the phone waiting for texts. If the topic is important, then pick up the phone and have a voice discussion in a fraction of the time texting takes.
Author hopn Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 “wonder if he meant week as in the next 2.5 days?” -I’m pretty sure that’s what he meant. “What's the backstory? Are you dating him? Did you just meet him? What?!” “have you guys met and/or ever been on a first date?” So…we’ve been friends for a few months now and have hung out a few times. We’ve just recently decided to go on an actual date a couple of weeks from now. We live far away and are both real busy with work so that’s why the first date was so hard to figure out.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 “wonder if he meant week as in the next 2.5 days?” -I’m pretty sure that’s what he meant. “What's the backstory? Are you dating him? Did you just meet him? What?!” “have you guys met and/or ever been on a first date?” So…we’ve been friends for a few months now and have hung out a few times. We’ve just recently decided to go on an actual date a couple of weeks from now. We live far away and are both real busy with work so that’s why the first date was so hard to figure out. Hm. How far away? He might be hesitant to invest if it's a long-distance scenario and it was hard just to plan the first date. It doesn't sound like a very convenient situation I would step back and let him re-initiate contact closer to the date. 2
Versacehottie Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 “wonder if he meant week as in the next 2.5 days?” -I’m pretty sure that’s what he meant. “What's the backstory? Are you dating him? Did you just meet him? What?!” “have you guys met and/or ever been on a first date?” So…we’ve been friends for a few months now and have hung out a few times. We’ve just recently decided to go on an actual date a couple of weeks from now. We live far away and are both real busy with work so that’s why the first date was so hard to figure out. Well, 2.5 days off in the context of the circumstances is not so bad. Maybe he has a busy weekend planned. With a lot of people I don't like to be on the hook all day for replying to texts. I do like to text a lot even. I don't like it to mess with the flow of the rest of what I'm doing. I would take the little sign that your behavior might just be perceived as the littlest bit clingy or needy by him. Just match his pace. Make sure you show in your actions that you have your own life going on--it's more attractive. Texting all day doesn't really convey that. Even if the text only takes a moment to send or since girls are better at multi-tasking, it still conveys that you are "right there". Let him have some space so he wants to talk to you rather than feels obligated. Sometime you have to create that "artificially" when in reality you'd be up for texting all day long. I think what he is doing is healthy. He is managing expectations so make sure you "get" the message. Don't come on too strong--you probably wouldn't like the guy if a guy did the same to you and was right there. Good luck with your upcoming date!!
Gaeta Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 If you exchange THAT much on text than just reply back: Rest of the week? He will clarify it. Why is everyone trying to interpret what it means. Just ask him what it means.
Erik30 Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 One or two texts per hour throughout the day would be way too much for me. It's fine when we're still just getting to know each other, but for me it becomes a problem if it would happen daily. A girl I was dating did the same thing once, and I got tired of it real quick. I couldn't even watch a tv show without being interupted by her texts. Maybe this guy is thinking the same way.
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