Does a guy know from the start if he wants to be with a girl?

[brightstars]

If a guy meets a girl and they get to know each other and they start dating does the guy know from the start if he wants to be in a relationship with a girl or he might need some time to decide if he wants to be together? I would be interested to read your opinions about this.

[d0nnivain]

The initial evaluation is usually superficial: the person knows if they do or don't want to kiss / have sex with the other.

 

 

Then based on that they know if they do or don't want a date & to get to know them better.

 

 

Only from there, over time, does the decision to have a relationship come into play.

[Triface Janus]

If a guy meets a girl and they get to know each other and they start dating does the guy know from the start if he wants to be in a relationship with a girl or he might need some time to decide if he wants to be together? I would be interested to read your opinions about this.

 

I can relate to this question as I'm sort of in the same boat. But to answer your question fully I would need some other details like the guys age and how long they have been dating, but the hard and fast answer is "No" he does not know if he wants to be in a "relationship" with the girl.

 

Usually guys just go with the flow of dating a girl exclusively and may not want to "seal the deal" for a while. This is not to say that he is out seeing other girls, but if he is happy with her, they have a good sexual and non-sexual relationship and he has no reason to look elsewhere for companionship then he will stay with her, and when she asks to become exclusive he may look at her like "I though we already were?".

 

Bottom line if you want him, let him know that you want to be with him and don't try to pressure him to reciprocate. Let the choice be his and in the mean time don't be "weird" about it and enjoy the ride.

[BrianSmith]

I would say a guy knows from a start if he's just going to have sex with her or if she's the relationship type. Now beyond that, at least I have no clue if it will be a long-lasting one or not.

[basil67]

It's a question which would be constantly in flux during the whole 'getting to know you' process. For example, he might want a relationship with her at first, but then as he gets to know her better then he decides she's not the girl for him.

[Bobbi7]

Yeah, everything for me is based in physical attraction. If I'm sitting across my date and I feel that I'm willing to bang him then and there then yes, I would be interested in getting to know him. If I get approached by some guy that I don't find physically attractive, or that I'm not willing to have sex, then I won't bother. Everything for me is based on sex.