chooch Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 4 months now. We met at school and eventually after a long time of hanging out made everything official. We ended up going to prom together and at the end of the night promised each other that no matter what, we would be together all summer because we probably wont see each other much when fall comes around (going to different schools). The night of prom she told me she loved me and that she would give up anything to be with me, but its been 2 weeks since we have last been together. She doesn't call me anymore and whenever I call her to ask if she wants to do something, she tells me she is going out with her friends later and she cant do anything with me. I finally realized that she may not love me anymore yesterday. It was her 18th birthday, and I had gone all out on everything because I wanted the day to be special for her. I got dinner reservations at this very nice restaurant and bought her a a really expensive gift that I knew she had wanted for a very long time. I had been telling her about my plans for a while and she promised to go. I was getting all ready to go pick her up when my friend called me and asked why I wasn't with her. I told him I was on the way to pick her up at her house and he told me that she was over at some other guys house having a party. A party which she didn't even tell me about. A party which she didn't invite me to. I called her this morning and asked why she wasn't at her house yesterday and she said she was out with her parents. I just need some advice on what I should do next. I love her and this is all breaking my heart but should I just come out and ask her if we are over? I don't want to give her the impression that I want it to be over but I also don't want to keep thinking about her because I feel horrible right now. Thanks for reading.
sanne Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 ok not only is this girl clearly not in love with you anymore, she's a grade A bitch to boot. Tell her to go fsck herself, cut your losses, and initiate complete NC and move on. Ok seriously, don't tell her to go fsck herself. But let her know that what she has done is completely messed up and cold hearted. You can ask her to tell you the truth, but do you really need to hear it from her. This relationship is over, but don't fret over it. Women are fickle, one moment they love you, the next they can't wait to get away from you. Just try to move on and not think too much of it. Your still young and you've got a lot to learn, and hopefully not too much heartbreak ahead of you. Good luck.
suegail Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 What she did was terribly inconsiderate. When one is young and thoughless and stupid, they sometimes don't realize how they affect people in ways like this - - they don't grasp it at all until something like that happens to them, and then the light goes on. Wow! That hurt! And then they remember that they once hurt someone exactly the same way. Don't ask her if it's over. Don't ask her anything. When you feel you are ready, find yourself a sweet girl, someone to date, someone to be with, someone who cares about your feelings.
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