aries girl Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I met this Capricorn guy through an online dating site 2 months back. I thought he was really good looking and I was interested in knowing more about him. He told me that his last relationship of 7 years ended when his ex gf cheated on him for 1 year plus and be was really hurt that he can't trust anyone. But still we met. Our first date - we went for movies and dinner. Although I thought that it went well, the second date only came 2 weeks later and we went to karaoke. After which, we met up frequently, about 3 to 4 times a week. After some time, he asked me if I was interested to go Bangkok with him since both of us could click well. And I asked if his friends would be joining because I wouldn't mind travelling as a group. Much later, he came over my place a couple of times and we spend time cooking for each other and watched movies together. I'm not sure if it's joking or a figure of speech. During the whole time when I was him, he keep saying that he is very good looking. And I was a little turn off but did not deny his looks. He hinted me that I am suppose to treat him as a VERY IMPORTANT PERSON and he said that texting someone everyday means you are interested on the person (actually he was indicating that I'm interested because I texted him everyday) so I answered "I don't know. because texting is just common. the person may be bored" One day, while watching movie at home with him, he held my hands because it was a horror movie. And I felt strange. So after he went home, I asked him if he was interested in me and he said he is interested in me but he can't commit because he has trust issues. A week later, when he came over my place to play L4D, he wanted to stay over to sleep at the sofa (he stay about 10 mins away from me), I agreed. After some time, I felt uncomfortable and I asked him to sleep beside me. We had an intimate encounter in the morning and nothing was being said. We continued to have sex on another 3 occasions and I mentioned to him that I did not want to be FWB but I don't think I'm ready to be in a relationship either. I told him that I'm confused and I asked him how he felt. He said he still can't commit cause he has trust issues. I still see him logging into the site and constantly active. We didn't talk about this after that and we went abroad together. Before we went, he told me that he always visit this place with his ex and he is afraid that there will be flashbacks. So I told him not to mention his ex when we are there. While we were there, he didn't hug me to sleep. Left me alone to club and told me that I can't meet his friends. I felt hurt and angry because he could have introduced me as a friend. The last night of the vacation, we had sex again. This time I initiated because I felt that it should be the last and I was prepared. I fell sick and he did not take care of me on the last day and after we came back, he stopped messaging me. After 6 days, he came by to pass me a gift he bought for me and no talks..nothing. And I was really upset so I asked him what was wrong and if he wants to be like this at least have the guts to let me know (actually I was looking for a closure to ease the pain). He said that he has been very moody and does not want to share anything. so I told him that I was very very sick after the trip but he ignored me and I felt used. and he said he didn't used me and was angry that I use such a word to describe him. so I continued and said that II wanted to end our 'fling' relationship. He didn't reply. After 4 days, he passed me a gift which he promised that he will buy for me. It was christmas and I bought him a gift so I said I will pass it to him. He replied saying he will come by my hse to collect it. And nothing happened. I reminded him 2 days ago to collect his present if not I can courier to his place and he said he is really busy. The reason why I titled it Capricorn Indecisiveness is because it's not the first time I'm facing a Capricorn being this way. Previously I was involved with a Capricorn too and he was cheated and had trust issues. I just want to know if all Capricorn guys are like that or maybe I was the one who ended things so he felt taken aback? Is he still interested in me? Or does he still want to be friends?
GR4 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 He sounds like a dick. It has nothing to do with star signs though, astrology is absolute nonsense. 5
kendahke Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I asked him if he was interested in me and he said he is interested in me but he can't commit because he has trust issues. Don't waste your time. He is trying to punish you for something someone else did to him. He is not ready to be in any relationship and you should not waste your time and youth on someone who hasn't resolved his issues. 2
smackie9 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I'm an Aries girl and my husband is a Capricorn. He is very loyal, honest and hard working. He was cheated on but he had no issues wanting to commit to me. I have dated Capricorns in the past, but they varied in personality so zodiac stuff is hokey. Most people have been cheated on at one time or another and for a time will have trust issues so it's not just a Capricorn thing. You are attracted to guys whom are emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, self centered. I feel people tend to see these traits as being confident, or see this as a challenge to tame the beast. This guy told you right from the start, he didn't want to commit to anything because of his trust issues. It may or may not be the truth. But anyways if he wasn't interested in any thing serious with you, why would he "take care", or even "care" about you. Your expectations are pretty high for this guy. Get it? My question is, if you didn't want a FWB, why in the hell did you sleep with him, or agree to travel with him? Take accountability for the choices you make and learn you can't turn a turd into gold. 3
kendahke Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 The reason why I titled it Capricorn Indecisiveness is because it's not the first time I'm facing a Capricorn being this way. Previously I was involved with a Capricorn too and he was cheated and had trust issues. This has nothing to do with the time of year he was born. This all has to do with the fact that he is incapable of the kind of relationship you wish to be in and he's been telling you this, but you've been ignoring it because you want what you want. They both made bad choices in the women they decided to throw in with previously. No, what they're really saying is that they can't trust their own judgment to know when they're being waxed to a high gloss by some chick they just have to be with. That has nothing to do with you. I know a lot of guys who are born this time of year who do not act like this. 2
kendahke Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 if you didn't want a FWB, why in the hell did you sleep with him, or agree to travel with him? Take accountability for the choices you make and learn you can't turn a turd into gold. ^^^this right here
Gaeta Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I just want to know if all Capricorn guys are like that or maybe I was the one who ended things so he felt taken aback? Is he still interested in me? Or does he still want to be friends? Absolutely not. This has nothing to do with zodiac signs. He told you from day 1 he had trust issues and you decided to ignore every single red flag coming at you. Really you should not be analyzing this man's behavior but your behavior. Why did you ignore the fact he's recently out of a relationship, why did you ignore his lack of trust, why did you ignore every little alarm that went off inside of you. 4
Amelie1980 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 (edited) I sometimes look at astrology for a laugh. My birth chart can be pretty accurate. if you want insight into dating a particular star sign...[there are resources on the internet] Edited January 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Remove link to external site and language regarding its content
introverted1 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Oh brother. None of this has anything to do with the guy's birthdate. It had train wreck written on it from the start. Your picker is off in a big way if you have met multiple guys like this one. 2
PogoStick Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I can't believe all of you are saying the zodiac has nothing to do with this. Let me guess, you think genetics and parenting had an influence on his behavior. RUBBISH! Without astrology we would have never figured out who killed JFK, and the internet would have never been created. Chemtrails have warped your sheeple minds!
GR4 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I can't believe all of you are saying the zodiac has nothing to do with this. Let me guess, you think genetics and parenting had an influence on his behavior. RUBBISH! Without astrology we would have never figured out who killed JFK, and the internet would have never been created. Chemtrails have warped your sheeple minds! Haha. Ahh chemtrails, I've not heard that for a while! Some people really are morons.
stillafool Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Astrology? I though Aries girls are supposed to be best with Aries men.
Author aries girl Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 Absolutely not. This has nothing to do with zodiac signs. He told you from day 1 he had trust issues and you decided to ignore every single red flag coming at you. Really you should not be analyzing this man's behavior but your behavior. Why did you ignore the fact he's recently out of a relationship, why did you ignore his lack of trust, why did you ignore every little alarm that went off inside of you. He was out of a relationship for 1 year plus.
Author aries girl Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 I can't believe all of you are saying the zodiac has nothing to do with this. Let me guess, you think genetics and parenting had an influence on his behavior. RUBBISH! Without astrology we would have never figured out who killed JFK, and the internet would have never been created. Chemtrails have warped your sheeple minds! I would like to hear you view on this.
phineas Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 I'm a Capricorn. I don't act anything like this guy. It isn't their sign. It's where you are meeting them & your decision to seek their company after you realize how they are.
lilmissjava Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 (edited) Being a Capricorn doesn't mean much. It is actually the first sign that is used when you sign up on dating sites. I don't put much thought into astrology until way later. I have met many guys whose birth dates aren't used authentically just to get through the sign up process as many no doubt use January 1st as a birthdate. Mr OLD ghost that came back twice asking for a date *used to be* a Taurus but is now a Capricorn on the site Edited January 2, 2016 by lilmissjava Typo
bathtub-row Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Regardless of his sign, he's an ass and you need to just exit his life completely. Don't ever put up with this kind of behavior!
Author aries girl Posted January 23, 2016 Author Posted January 23, 2016 I'm sure he is a Capricorn because I have seen his passport details before. Anyway, he came back recently wanting things to go the same way and I told him off saying that he can't MIA and expect things to be the same again. He said he was facing some difficultiesand found himself not focus on what he was doing. And he also explained that he has not spoken to any online dating girls for the past 6 months except me. what do you guys think? is he trying to go into an exclusive relationship.
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