jade_98765 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Hello all, So I’ve been dating this guy for 3 months (I'm 20 and he's 24, uni students) and in this last month things have really heated up. He gives me incredible compliments, he’s supportive of my dreams and he makes me feel absolutely adored. Before I went home for the holidays, he asked me if I had been seeing anyone other than him (I hadn’t) and he told me he hadn’t seen anyone else either. He also asked me if I had told my mom about 'us' (I hadn't). I would say he’s giving me the boyfriend treatment now – I had a stressful day at work (during holiday vacations) so I texted him about this and he was very supportive and caring. He then texted me the next day before work began making sure I was alright and then texted me after that shift asking if my day went okay. (We only text because of hearing problems – we're from different parts of the world, so our accents sometimes make it difficult to understand each other and in person its easier to figure it out, but not over the phone – so texting works for us!) He cares for me, I care for him. I think he wants a relationship, or in the very least, exclusivity. During the “have you or are you seeing anyone else” talk probably would have been a good time to bring it up, but I can’t go back now! So what do you guys think I should do? Wait for him to ask? Bring it up myself when I get back from holidays? What should I say? (this is most definitely my first ‘typical’ relationship, I’ve really only had/wanted FWB so I want to know if I’m reading the signs right and moving the relationship forward in a natural way) Thanks!
Xiomn Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Sounds like he might be interested in making it official OP. I suggest bringing it up yourself when you see him again if you feel the same way.
Gaeta Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 You're from different parts of the world? Do you mean you are living in same city but from different cultures OR this is a virtual relationship and you never met?
Author jade_98765 Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 We're from different parts of the world (Canada/Nigeria) but go to the same school, in the same city. It's not a virtual relationship, however, it's only confined to texting right now because we've been apart!
Gaeta Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 We're from different parts of the world (Canada/Nigeria) but go to the same school, in the same city. It's not a virtual relationship, however, it's only confined to texting right now because we've been apart! You're apart for the holidays? When is he coming back? He sounds like a good guy that is interested in making it exclusive with you. If you have no other worries then I don't see the rush in solving this on text. About you wait till you are back in school?
Author jade_98765 Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 You're apart for the holidays? When is he coming back? He sounds like a good guy that is interested in making it exclusive with you. If you have no other worries then I don't see the rush in solving this on text. About you wait till you are back in school? He's still in the uni city, I left to my hometown. Yeah, I do think it's a conversation that should happen in person. Only a few more days left and then I'll be back! Can't wait!
Author jade_98765 Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 Sounds like he might be interested in making it official OP. I suggest bringing it up yourself when you see him again if you feel the same way. Thanks! I think I will do that!
Gaeta Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 He's still in the uni city, I left to my hometown. Yeah, I do think it's a conversation that should happen in person. Only a few more days left and then I'll be back! Can't wait! I am happy this morning I am getting to read a happy story! I wish you both all the best for 2016. Don't worry about the exclusivity talk, this man is already twirled around your little finger :-) 2
xcupid Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 I am happy this morning I am getting to read a happy story! I wish you both all the best for 2016. Don't worry about the exclusivity talk, this man is already twirled around your little finger :-) With respect to Gaeta, I don't think you should assume exclusivity. It's easy to bring up the topic now since he's alluded to it in the past. But he should actually be confirming you and he are exclusive IMO.
Author jade_98765 Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 Just an update: he initiated the 'talk' when I came back. We are now in a relationship. I'm looking forward to this experience to see where it goes. Thanks for the help all, this has definitely been an easy, but surprisingly scary and vulnerable situation (not used to intimacy like this) so it always helps for me to seek outside opinions. 2
Gaeta Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Just an update: he initiated the 'talk' when I came back. We are now in a relationship. I'm looking forward to this experience to see where it goes. Thanks for the help all, this has definitely been an easy, but surprisingly scary and vulnerable situation (not used to intimacy like this) so it always helps for me to seek outside opinions. Yay !!! Thanks for updating us! good luck with everything !
Redhead14 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Hello all, So I’ve been dating this guy for 3 months (I'm 20 and he's 24, uni students) and in this last month things have really heated up. He gives me incredible compliments, he’s supportive of my dreams and he makes me feel absolutely adored. Before I went home for the holidays, he asked me if I had been seeing anyone other than him (I hadn’t) and he told me he hadn’t seen anyone else either. He also asked me if I had told my mom about 'us' (I hadn't). I would say he’s giving me the boyfriend treatment now – I had a stressful day at work (during holiday vacations) so I texted him about this and he was very supportive and caring. He then texted me the next day before work began making sure I was alright and then texted me after that shift asking if my day went okay. (We only text because of hearing problems – we're from different parts of the world, so our accents sometimes make it difficult to understand each other and in person its easier to figure it out, but not over the phone – so texting works for us!) He cares for me, I care for him. I think he wants a relationship, or in the very least, exclusivity. During the “have you or are you seeing anyone else” talk probably would have been a good time to bring it up, but I can’t go back now! So what do you guys think I should do? Wait for him to ask? Bring it up myself when I get back from holidays? What should I say? (this is most definitely my first ‘typical’ relationship, I’ve really only had/wanted FWB so I want to know if I’m reading the signs right and moving the relationship forward in a natural way) Thanks! If you want to open that conversation don't ask him the question. Make a statement -- "I have been enjoying the time we spend together and I am looking for a relationship for myself with someone. I am not interested in dating anyone else now". And, then, let him talk.
smackie9 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 If you want to open that conversation don't ask him the question. Make a statement -- "I have been enjoying the time we spend together and I am looking for a relationship for myself with someone. I am not interested in dating anyone else now". And, then, let him talk. Please read post #10.
Redhead14 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Please read post #10. Oops, sorry. It's easy to miss stuff sometimes . . .
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