SmartDude Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I have a problem: I will get matches who are instantly flirty. I might asume she want's to meet that night if she is being this way. Sometimes I am very wrong and she is looking to date, rather than have a casual encounter. So I blow it and she stops talking to me. Then I will get other's matches who seem like they are not into casual anything, and I try to go through a slower paced dating ritual with them. But then it turns out that all they wanted was to have some fun, and they disappear because it is not happening fast enough. What is the answer to this? I don't want to keep blowing good oportunities as I have lately. I want to be open to both casual encounters and serious dating. I sometimes feel like there is a secret etiquette that everyone knows about, except for me..and that I am "using tinder wrong".
oberkeat Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I don't do online dating in any form, but it seems to me that instead of trying to decipher or match yourself to what you think these women want, you need to decide for yourself what it is that you want, be upfront about that, and screen for girls who want that same thing. Me, I'm not really looking for a relationship, I just want sex and to have fun. So in my case, I would focus my efforts on finding women who want that. 1
JGirl83 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Tinder can be a bit of a minefield like that. Having said that i dint believe that it is only for hookups as i know people who met their partner on the app. I put it in my profile "im looking to date". I think you should ask what they are looking for if there is nothing on their profile. 1
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