emerald86 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I don't really know if I'm considered socially awkward. When I meet someone for the first time, a one-on-one conversation is easy--I smile, make eye contact, ask questions, and generally have a lot to say. I've gotten into very long conversations with complete strangers, and it's been great. But group settings are more difficult. When everyone else is talking, I sort of sit back and listen. I say something every now and then, but for the most part I'm quiet--perhaps a bit too quiet. I'm just not crazy like everyone else, and many times, I appear timid and shy in group settings. I also have a quiet voice, which is why I hardly speak when in a group. I'm afraid no one will hear me, lol. There are exceptions though--in a professional environment where I have to speak up in a group, I will definitely do so. This isn't to say that I don't like being social--I attend social events all the time, but I usually end up having one-on-one conversations with people, because that's a lot easier for me. Would you ever date someone like this? I've always heard that socially awkward people have a more difficult time with dating. 1
kendahke Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I would think that you were more introspective and quiet, not socially awkward. I don't see that as a problem, but then again, I'm probably old enough to be your mom, so my opinion may not count. 2
oberkeat Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 (edited) You see people with all kinds of flaws in relationships, including socially awkward people. The only thing that will hold you back is your insecurity and lack of confidence in yourself, which is evident in many of your threads. You seem always to be second guessing yourself. You need to work on talking nicely to yourself. Edited January 1, 2016 by oberkeat
Author emerald86 Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 You see people with all kinds of flaws in relationships, including socially awkward people. The only thing that will hold you back is your insecurity and lack of confidence in yourself, which is evident in many of your threads. You seem always to be second guessing yourself. You need to work on talking nicely to yourself. You are probably right about this
No_Go Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I am exactly as what you described, 1 to 1. I started dating late, but ever since never had a problem (most people that I went on dates on wanted a relationship, 3/10 or so became bfs, one is the current one). Also, I love people like you. If I was single, that'd be my preferred type. Just group conversations do not give me the sufficient depth that I crave. I think people like you make the best friends too. So - no worries Happy 2016! I don't really know if I'm considered socially awkward. When I meet someone for the first time, a one-on-one conversation is easy--I smile, make eye contact, ask questions, and generally have a lot to say. I've gotten into very long conversations with complete strangers, and it's been great. But group settings are more difficult. When everyone else is talking, I sort of sit back and listen. I say something every now and then, but for the most part I'm quiet--perhaps a bit too quiet. I'm just not crazy like everyone else, and many times, I appear timid and shy in group settings. I also have a quiet voice, which is why I hardly speak when in a group. I'm afraid no one will hear me, lol. There are exceptions though--in a professional environment where I have to speak up in a group, I will definitely do so. This isn't to say that I don't like being social--I attend social events all the time, but I usually end up having one-on-one conversations with people, because that's a lot easier for me. Would you ever date someone like this? I've always heard that socially awkward people have a more difficult time with dating.
bluefeather Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 A lot of men will look through anything if the girl is hot enough. What you are describing isn't even anything bad, though. You just seem quiet among crowds.
basil67 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Your social skills are just like mine - and I've never had a problem finding a partner. You'll be fine
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I would think that you were more introspective and quiet, not socially awkward. I don't see that as a problem, I'll second this. As long as you're able to carry a meaningful conversation one-on-one with me, it's all good. I have dated introverted men and they have usually been the better experiences in my dating career. 1
JGirl83 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I don't really know if I'm considered socially awkward. When I meet someone for the first time, a one-on-one conversation is easy--I smile, make eye contact, ask questions, and generally have a lot to say. I've gotten into very long conversations with complete strangers, and it's been great. But group settings are more difficult. When everyone else is talking, I sort of sit back and listen. I say something every now and then, but for the most part I'm quiet--perhaps a bit too quiet. I'm just not crazy like everyone else, and many times, I appear timid and shy in group settings. I also have a quiet voice, which is why I hardly speak when in a group. I'm afraid no one will hear me, lol. There are exceptions though--in a professional environment where I have to speak up in a group, I will definitely do so. This isn't to say that I don't like being social--I attend social events all the time, but I usually end up having one-on-one conversations with people, because that's a lot easier for me. Would you ever date someone like this? I've always heard that socially awkward people have a more difficult time with dating. Im exactly like this too. One on one convos are fine. The bigger the group the quieter i get. I had an ex who said he wished i was more outspoken in group settings because it looks like im bored when i add nothing to the convo. But this wasnt the reason for our breakup. I dont think this is considered socially awkward though. I call myself reserved I dont think it is a big deal unless the guy you are dating is really into spending time with big groups of people or something.
Leucine Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 You're not socially awkward at all according to the description. And most guys won't care about it. It may actually be a plus that you're more into him than everyone else in the room. As for real awkwardness, been there done that, never again.
WaitingForBardot Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Your social skills are just like mine - and I've never had a problem finding a partner. You'll be fine Ditto for me. I just didn't find them at clubs, large gatherings, etc.
Brapting Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 You have nothing to worry about my dear. I too prefer 1 on 1 chats and go quite quiet and sheepish in a group. I think a lot of the time, speaking in a group almost feels like I am publicly speaking and I feel a lot more tense, defensive and guarded. I think people are more likely to show off and challenge me in a group setting, while this is not the case 1 on 1. 1 on 1 chats are often deeper and they tend to follow a set format which I find easier to deal with. It is probably introversion and this personality trait is just as valid and valuable as extroversion. I would try and accept and cherish it as part of who you are, but maybe practise contributing in a group. Like anything else, it is a skill that can be developed for your own toolbox and it doesn't mean that you have to enjoy it, do it all the time and pretend that you are something that you are not. For what it is worth, you will probably have an easier time being a woman, because introversion is not something that is normally associated with attractive alpha males. As long as you are still putting yourself in enough situations, you can come across as all quiet, shy and cute and guys will love it! If anything, this may put some guys at ease, because you will be less intimidating.
ZA Dater Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 For what its worth based on your description I don't think there is anything awkward about you at all. Group dynamics are always complicated, I myself don't enjoy groups unless there is some common interest because if there isn't and the people are apathetic the conversation becomes about as interesting as a white wall. My advice is to try be confident in your own way, contribute to the group but pay no attention to the person who contributes the most because contributing the most doesn't mean they are contributing the most value. I will say this, based on my observation group mentality tends to pick on people who don't fit into that group and you end up feeling very left out, I know this happens to me. 1
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