JustAnotherLostLove Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Been almost 4 months now since she left. Started feeling better as of recent, but the holidays brought it all back. So here I am, probably gonna sit at home all night. Not that I wanna pout, I just don't wanna be reminded of it all, on the one day where every couple decides to kiss at the same time. Feel me? What are you guys up to?
justanotherguy1 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I prayed. im thankful for all i have and this year will be a blessed year because im alive. Its sad and hurts that we dont have the people we want or need at these times. but thats life, soon there will be someone .. im gonna chill, crank up some music and have a good sleep tonight. For today is a new day in a new year and i am blessed. Happy new year buddy.
Sar112 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Yup, the holidays brought it all back for me too - it's been two months (just over now) and though I wasn't making any huge progress, I was taking each day slowly and starting to manage those moments of panic I had been having using different coping strategies that seemed to be working. I guess I was at that 'what will be will be' stage. Christmas and New Year meant more panic and a lot of tears. I spent the day yesterday with my best friend talking it over and it made me feel a lot better, but then I received a message from his mother wishing me and my family happy NY and it brought it all back again! I spent the evening at home with my Mom - took a long bath, watched TV, just relaxed and got a good nights sleep as you say. I don't think getting wasted would have helped my situation - I just would've felt terrible this morning! Let's hope next year will be better for us all 2
Protec Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Been almost 4 months now since she left. Started feeling better as of recent, but the holidays brought it all back. So here I am, probably gonna sit at home all night. Not that I wanna pout, I just don't wanna be reminded of it all, on the one day where every couple decides to kiss at the same time. Feel me? What are you guys up to? I was dumped at new years eve. "We cannot see each other anymore, i am taking my ex back". Yeah. Happy new year
Draper Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I don't think getting wasted would have helped my situation - I just would've felt terrible this morning! Confirmed feeling terrible this morning. Glad to hear I'm not the only one who struggled a bit over the holiday season. Hopefully now that it's all done we can all get back on track with our healing.
NopeNah Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I was going to,but a client sent a limo to pick me up and went to a strip club,vip table,blah,blah...It was fun,but I had the driver bring me home before the new year. Was kinda cool 'reflecting' on life from the back of a free limo though!
Blanco Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I spent the afternoon with family, had a heart-to-heart with my mom, then went home and allotted myself about 30 minutes to sit in my quiet apartment, reflecting on this year and filling the last page of the notebook I started after finally going NC with my ex last spring. Then I threw on a nice overcoat and got together with some friends and made it a point to mentally be present throughout the night, enjoying the company of people who have been there for me this year. As the midnight countdown began, I looked around the room at these people who were oblivious to how much they've helped me through this time; unaware even then as they joked around that I was thinking of how crucial they've been to my recovery process. Of course, my mind drifted to my ex often during this holiday season, but I don't think I could've asked for more from friends and family than I've experienced in the last week and a half. I drunkenly laid my head down on the pillow at bout 4:30 this morning, got some rest, and woke up, ready to hit the ground running in 2016.
Author JustAnotherLostLove Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 I spent the afternoon with family, had a heart-to-heart with my mom, then went home and allotted myself about 30 minutes to sit in my quiet apartment, reflecting on this year and filling the last page of the notebook I started after finally going NC with my ex last spring. Then I threw on a nice overcoat and got together with some friends and made it a point to mentally be present throughout the night, enjoying the company of people who have been there for me this year. As the midnight countdown began, I looked around the room at these people who were oblivious to how much they've helped me through this time; unaware even then as they joked around that I was thinking of how crucial they've been to my recovery process. Of course, my mind drifted to my ex often during this holiday season, but I don't think I could've asked for more from friends and family than I've experienced in the last week and a half. I drunkenly laid my head down on the pillow at bout 4:30 this morning, got some rest, and woke up, ready to hit the ground running in 2016. Nicely written, very eloquent. At 11pm last night, I eventually decided to go out as well. Met up with some friends at a small house party, took down a couple shots of Whiskey, and sat under the stars alone during the countdown. Again, not to be a pout. Just wanted to hear the rest of the world celebrate. It wasn't bad.
Author JustAnotherLostLove Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 I was dumped at new years eve. "We cannot see each other anymore, i am taking my ex back". Yeah. Happy new year What, like, last night new years eve? How long were you guys together?
bitterlemon Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 Similar situation, 3 months for me. I decided to stay alone at home in my work city as I didn't go back to my hometown for the holidays. I felt fine being alone for NYC actually, like the poster had said, better not to be around all the couples who decide to kiss at the same time haha. One thing I've decided I must do in this new year is that I will be nice to myself. I figured I was in a relationship that was more toxic than anything, and my ex made me feel inadequate/ugly/not enough etc. So this is my new year's resolution - me happy new year people!
K2z Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 I went to a party. It was mildly distracting. Mine left in April and was married to another guy by November. I've gotten used to the harpoon in my chest; it doesn't hurt so much anymore. Now the big problem is ennui in my own life, and wondering about her-- with a liberal helping of recrimination and abandonment. I go through the motions... I'm going out several times this week. But I can't stop feeling like the biggest horse's ass for losing her.
theredpill Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 There's absolutely no point sitting at home and pining over someone who doesn't want you in their life, it's a complete waste of your time along with the harsh reality of everyday you do this, is another 24 hours closer to the day you die - going out is absolutely the right thing to do. Sometimes I want to shout from the ramparts "Guy's & Gal's get a f'kin grip of yourselves!" You learned to walk, you learned to talk when you were a baby.. why is it now as an adult you are letting someone else's actions hurt you emotionally, to quote Leo from Actualized.org "How can someone else's thoughts, i.e. a figment of their imagination have any impact on your life whatsoever, unless you allow it?" He or she isn't actually hurting you at all, it's you doing it to yourself. Time to grab the world by the balls (or boobies) stop making excuses and sort yourself out, become the best version of you and everything will fall into place. You'll look back on these days like "What the **** was I thinking?!!" if.... and I mean if you do the work, on you!
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