Author zera Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 It sounded like he too - quickly agreed to your conclusion, OP. Do you think he was so quick to admit that what he was doing was jacking off because the truth about what he was really doing was worse? I'd be breathing a sigh of relief if my girlfriend not only caught me, but also provided me with an excuse I could use that I know she would believe. He wasnt so quick to admit to it, he said he was just looking around and told me to drop the subject, so i did. But there was a feeling i just couldnt shake, it didnt add up so i confronted him agian a few days later and told him i knew what he was doing when he looked up those girls. He told me i was crazy and it was nothing but i then realized he had sent me a dirty picture around the same time he was searching for said girls. I told him i had proof and if he lied to me i would know. He then admitted that yeah he had done it, and it was merely a mistake. He even gave me the excuse of i didnt cum on their pictures i came while looking at you. Im pretty much mortified by his actions. How can you accidently pull ur dick out and jack off to your ex and other girls you liked? Thats not an accident... im more so just concerned if theres more to this than getting off...
Author zera Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 I will concede that this is only problem if it's effecting OP's sex life negatively. But if they're having great sex consistently, I really don't see a problem. lol really.? my sex life is the only concern with what hes doing, so as long as the sex is good all the rest doesnt matter? if hes not emotionally happy or connected to me but when we **** its great, then theres no problem? He could be having more than just sexual fantasies about these said girls, how do i know when to draw the line at it was merely just a means of sexual stimulant?
WaitingForBardot Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 In a nutshell, you were wrong and he is/was not. He doesn't masturbate to pictures of you because it's not as rewarding as playing with you IRL. His imagining things with these other girls, regardless of whether they are known personally to him or not, are just that, figments of his imagination.
WaitingForBardot Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 lol really.? my sex life is the only concern with what hes doing, so as long as the sex is good all the rest doesnt matter? if hes not emotionally happy or connected to me but when we **** its great, then theres no problem? He could be having more than just sexual fantasies about these said girls, how do i know when to draw the line at it was merely just a means of sexual stimulant? It's a leap to think that a man fantasizing about another woman means he's not happy emotionally with or connected to you. And where you draw the line has already been stated: by his actions.
Author zera Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 Many (I would argue most) people cannot separate their feelings from sex once they already have had emotional entanglement with them. because he has a connection to those photos and those women. To many people that is crossing a line. Personally, I could understand thinking about it while jerking off, but using photos to do so i would say is crossing a line?. I wouldn't expect memories to go away, or for him to never think about it, but once you start using tangible things to aid you in reliving yourself it's no longer okay.
Giggle Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Ahhh, just bored and looking around and got turned on. He accidentally had a boner. That he shared with you the only way he could at the time. Searching his Facebook history of who he looked at, really?
Wewon Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Many (I would argue most) people cannot separate their feelings from sex once they already have had emotional entanglement with them. because he has a connection to those photos and those women. To many people that is crossing a line. Personally, I could understand thinking about it while jerking off, but using photos to do so i would say is crossing a line?. I wouldn't expect memories to go away, or for him to never think about it, but once you start using tangible things to aid you in reliving yourself it's no longer okay. Honestly, I think that you may be projecting a little. Most guys typically start jerking off at about 12 years old and usually they aren't looking at some deep emotional connection, just stimulation. 1
WaitingForBardot Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Many (I would argue most) people cannot separate their feelings from sex once they already have had emotional entanglement with them. because he has a connection to those photos and those women. To many people that is crossing a line. I don't totally disagree with you here, perhaps it is crossing a line. However, (most) men are primarily visually driven, esp. wrt sex, so I still think it's a stretch to say he's imagining his past emotional connections with these girls while masturbating. Personally, I could understand thinking about it while jerking off, but using photos to do so i would say is crossing a line?. I wouldn't expect memories to go away, or for him to never think about it, but once you start using tangible things to aid you in reliving yourself it's no longer okay.It is up to you to decide/feel what actions involve crossing a line for you. I don't necessarily agree with your line here, but I'm not saying it's wrong.
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