tuxedo cat Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 (edited) In your dating experiences which personality types have you found yourself most and least compatible with? I know in some ways the MBTI is a little BS, so this is mostly for fun, but one thing I have found it often gets right in my own life is compatibility with partners. This didn't even occur to me until this morning but based on my dating experience as an INFP, knowing the MBTI of many of my partners because I had them take the test. , these are my observations. I've also included the speculations of the personality types of different celebrities that I gleaned online (to be taken with a grain of salt). Absolute worst dating experiences: INTJ and (to a somewhat lesser extend) ENTJ men - I find them to be cold, rigid, critical, and often humorless. The ones I've known were somewhat submissive, drifty and identity-less and wanted a loud, dominant woman who will take over their lives. They don't appreciate a woman who shares their introversion. I have a tendency to get initially reeled in by their analytical nature and their surface politeness (which I soon discover has more to do with following the rules than being kind). Later I end up disappointed and sometimes hurt when I realize that they are unable or impossibly slow to form a bond. Their lack of social graces can cause a lot of inadvertent damage to others. Because they don't understand many social norms, they will get highly defensive when someone tries to explain to them that their behavior is abnormal or unacceptable. Celebrities: Natalie Portman (INTJ), Stanley Kubrick (INTJ), Mark Zuckerberg (INTJ), Jodie Foster (INTJ), Jason Bateman (INTJ), Second worst dating experiences: INFJ Men - These guys seem great at first - fun, sexy, deep, intuitive and emotional. It's easy to form a instant connection to them that feels predestined and magical. They also appear to be reliable and loyal. And for a time they will treat you very well. But, at some point, whether a few weeks or a few months in, they will abruptly turn on you without warning. This is called "the INFJ door slam." Usually it's triggered by something small that suddenly shatters their image of you as a perfect creature. These guys are unable to live in the real world so as soon as they see you as a flawed, real person, their interest will fizzle. In my experience once the door is slammed it can never be reopened. No amount of reasoning, pleading, or even patience with them will ever change their minds back. Then, with stunning swiftness, they will be on to their next "victim." You will experience whiplash, as you watch them bombard a new woman with the same words and gestures of affection. I would caution ANY woman against getting involved with an INFJ, especially a young or inexperienced INFJ. I think they may be the most dangerous personality type. Celebrities: Al Pacino, Adam Driver (?), Gary Oldman, Hitler (according to a couple of websites, no joke ), Inbetween to Positive Dating Experiences - INFP - The INFP men I've dated have been loyal, honest, intuitive, giving and open-minded. They readily admit faults in their own behavior. Their weakness is their inability to take care of themselves. They sometimes have depressive tendencies and their apartments/offices are often a mess. I think I generally have the least conflict with them because I share their type, but I also lose patience with some of their bad habits that I share. Celebrities: River Phoenix, Kurt Cobain, Ian Curtis, Fiona Apple, Mia Wasikowska, Michael Cera, Kate Bush, David Bowie. ESFJ/ESFP - Open-minded, accepting, fun, and easy going. Loyal and consistent. The only downside is they sometimes lack depth and reflectiveness which can make it difficult to form a deep bond with them. Celebrities: Tom Hardy (ESFP), Bill Clinton (ESFP), Leonard DiCaprio (ESFP), Julian Casablancas (ESFP), Hugh Jackman (ESFJ), Randy Jackson (ESFJ). ESTJ/ESTP - Haven't dated, but I've been seeing this ESTJ guy for a bit so we'll see how that goes. Celebrities: Reese Witherspoon (ESTJ), ENFJ/ENFP? - No experience with. Celebrities: Natalie Dormer (ENFJ), Bono (ENJF) Edited December 31, 2015 by tuxedo cat
GingerVixen Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 As an INTJ woman I tend to get along better with other introverts. I usually try not to have misconceptions or label people according to their MBTI type, I just think introverts tend to get along with me better because tend to like deeper conversations and we are good observants. That doesn't mean I prefer SHY people, being an introvert according to MBTI is different from being shy. 3
SwordofFlame Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 ISTP myself and all of my successful relationships have been with extroverts...I think. I never had any of them take the test lol.
No_Go Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 I'm INTJ woman. I don't know the MB type of all the people that I've dated except 1 guy, who was ENFP and we got along swimmingly (well I thought so, he disappeared on me quickly)
FadedSign52 Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 I am an INFP male and I have always dated extremely extroverted women in the past who have required constant attention and companionship which does not suit me well. Probably because I have been somewhat passive in my dating game and they have been the ones to seek me out. When I first met my ex I remember being interested in her more quiet friend but my ex stepped in quickly and put an end to that This time I am going to go for the more introverted types, which I think is better suited to me and I have turned to OLD. It was kind of interesting how many details in the description of my type were accurate
carhill Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Introvert(12%) iNtuitive(25%) Feeling(28%) Judging(16%) Congratulations OP, stay away from me One of these days I'll get that infernal machine to return an error response. Heh. 1
Author tuxedo cat Posted December 31, 2015 Author Posted December 31, 2015 Introvert(12%) iNtuitive(25%) Feeling(28%) Judging(16%) Congratulations OP, stay away from me One of these days I'll get that infernal machine to return an error response. Heh. But I like you! (probably my downfall!)
xxoo Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 I'm an INFP married to an ESTJ. Opposites attract. It works for us; we complement each other in a yin/yang way. We are accepting of differences and, more importantly, often admire our differences. He gets close to me, but maybe only me (apart from our kids). FIne with that. It's actually kind of nice he's widely friendly and social with others in a way that I'm not. He's ok with that, too, and finds my introversion charming. I'm his, he's mine, each in our own way. 1
carhill Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 But I like you! (probably my downfall!) Ha, ha, I went back and read your description of your experiences with INFJ's and lulz because I'm the guy who's loved the basketcases, the alcoholics, some now deceased, for decades. The benefit of the doubt guy. The dope. Better to stay away. However, I do accept offerings of cat food for the cat and fish bait. The cat and the fish and I seem to get along OK. More seriously, my exW and I used to talk a lot about this stuff while dating. She especially focused on what she called 'masking', I guess meaning faking certain personality characteristics. Hmm, I should've been paying more attention I guess. That's how life goes sometimes.
introverted1 Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 As an INTJ woman I tend to get along better with other introverts. I usually try not to have misconceptions or label people according to their MBTI type, I just think introverts tend to get along with me better because tend to like deeper conversations and we are good observants. That doesn't mean I prefer SHY people, being an introvert according to MBTI is different from being shy. ^This. I am very social and when I tell people I am an introvert they always seem surprised because I am not shy. Grrr... shyness has nothing to do with introversion or extroversion! 1
Author tuxedo cat Posted December 31, 2015 Author Posted December 31, 2015 I'm an INFP married to an ESTJ. Opposites attract. It works for us; we complement each other in a yin/yang way. We are accepting of differences and, more importantly, often admire our differences. He gets close to me, but maybe only me (apart from our kids). FIne with that. It's actually kind of nice he's widely friendly and social with others in a way that I'm not. He's ok with that, too, and finds my introversion charming. I'm his, he's mine, each in our own way. No way, I'm also an INFP woman dating an ESTJ. I've heard this is a common match. Do you find him to be fairly open minded and non judgmental?
loveweary11 Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 These acronyms are getting harder and harder to keep track of. For a moment, I thought we were talking about a gasoline additive. 1
xxoo Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 No way, I'm also an INFP woman dating an ESTJ. I've heard this is a common match. Do you find him to be fairly open minded and non judgmental? He's judgmental, compared to me. But he's not judgmental of me. He's very decisive and trusts his judgment, which is great because I'm the opposite. That includes his judgment when he chose me. He's never given it a second thought. He is incredibly loyal and defends me even when I think I'm wrong. For instance, if I come home from work upset thinking I screwed up, he quickly explains how I was right and everyone else was wrong And he's completely serious. He's also trusts his judgment about people and situations in a way that makes him protective. While I'm more wishy-washy and don't want to offend people, he's quick to just say "no" to situations that he thinks are not safe for his kids or family. He's not worried at all about offending anyone. He'll be the "bad guy" for us. He taught me what true acceptance means by how he accepts me as I am. 1
hasaquestion Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I'm strongly ENTP. From what I've seen and read about the topic, the compatibility/incompatibility differences are weak with ENTP. Everyone else finds the ENTP simultaneously likeable and insufferable. And the ENTP can get along with everyone but has a harder time really connecting to anyone.
carhill Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 These acronyms are getting harder and harder to keep track of. For a moment, I thought we were talking about a gasoline additive. Ha, ha, MTBE. Most days I resemble more that. Man to be exploded. 1
Popsicle Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 I am ISFP sometimes ISFJ. I have always been with men who are ISTJ, ISTP. I seem to be inexplicable drawn and attracted to ISTx men, but I think I could easily find myself attracted to an ESTx man as well, that is, until I get tired of their Extroversion. (which may be fast) I would love to try dating a ISFJ male but he would have to be extremely masculine in looks and behavior.
callingyouuu Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 One of my friends (INTJ) is dating her exact opposite (ESFP) and they get along amazingly well. As an INTJ woman I tend to get along better with other introverts. I'm the same, an INTJ who gets along better with introverts. Go figure.
bluefeather Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 what the heck are these acronyms..? do you all take a test to figure that out? I've never heard of this stuff before.
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