how should I handle this situation?

[Ordinaryday]

happy new year guys! a weird uncomfortable situation happened to me tonite and since this board gives such good advice I am looking for some guidance.

 

two days ago a casual female friend of mine messaged me on facebook asking if I would likkr to go out with her for new years eve celebrations (I live in Australia where it is now 2016). I said yes. I met this girl in 2008 at university and we have been casual friends for years. she has NEVER shown any interest in me romantically and I have respected that. hypothetically if she were to make it known that she wanted a romantic relationship with me my answer would be yes but I respect her boundaries. we have been out a few times as friends and I was cool with it just being friends.

 

anyway we met up at 8pm and went to a few bars and had fun for hours and then at about 11:59pm when everyone was getting ready for the new year countdown she says to me 'dont try to kiss me ok?'. I wasnt sure I heard her correctly so I said 'what?' and she said 'dont try to kiss me when it turns midnight'.

 

this comment REALLY hurt me. I hadn't even made a move to kiss her, had no intention to and perfectly respected her friendship boundaries and she messaged me asking to go out on NYE not the other way round.

 

it hurt. I have been rejected heaps of times before but here I was being rejected by a girl I didbt even make a move on! i know she didn't mean it to hurt me but it did, being rejected without even making a move!

 

anyway we were supposed to go to another bar after midnight but her comment really upset me and i was having trouble talking to her. she picked up on this and asked what was wrong and I told her that the comment hurt me. we basically just mumbled a halfassed 'see ya' to each other and left.

 

now I am not even sure if we are on speaking terms anymore. what should I do? as I said, she is a casual friend so if I never hear from her again I will be sad but not TOO SAD, i will cope.

 

should i send her an apology? wait for her to apologise to me? let it go and forget about her? I know she did nothin majorly wrong but ALL rejection hurts and to be rejectes by her when I haadnt even made a move on her stung. it felt like she was saying i wasnt good enough to be her boyfriend. I know she didnt mean that but that's how it felt!

 

advice please

[BC1980]

As far as an apology, what would you be apologizing for? I don't see that you did anything wrong.

 

Here is my take: she has probably known for some time that you have a crush on her. She told you not to kiss her because she thought you might try to kiss her. I think she didn't have anyone else on New Year's, and she knew you would be up for going out because you like her. She's just a casual friend, and she randomly asked you to go out for New Year's. That's kind of weird to me since it wasn't in a group, and you don't see her that often. I really and truly think she just didn't want to be alone on New Year's, and she knew you would be up for doing something. I would just let the entire thing be and don't contact her.