jgreen1990 Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Hi, I have been going out with/texting this girl I met online for almost two month now. She is a bit concerned with her appearance as she was trying to slim down a bit. When we initially met she mentioned that she was in an open relationship some other guy. As a caution is asked about the situation and was told be her that things were not going to work out between them.I was just rejected by them reason being that things got more complicated between them and that I didn't deserve to be dragged into it. Based on how it was said to me I saw that this was not the real reason for the rejection because because for the whole time of us talking(other than the start) the situation between them never seemed like a big deal. I asked her for an honest opinion of me and she felt that I was too attractive for her which made here feel self conscious. She also thought that we had nothing in common which made no sense based on or conversations. Can anyone shed some light on the real reason I was rejected from this person. The situation disturbs me.
hhatesboys Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 My gut reaction is that she is probably in love with him and he does not reciprocate. If she is making weird excuses about not wanting to date you there is certainly SOMETHING going on. The fact that she is involved in some other guy, in any capacity, would cause me to want to back off. Maybe back off, but stay open. See if she comes to you at all. If she does not I would let it go. Sorry 1
Author jgreen1990 Posted December 31, 2015 Author Posted December 31, 2015 Looking back I do think that is the case. There were big things they did not agree upon as far as a future together goes. She is probably hoping to change his mind. I will back off and give her space. Thank You.
hhatesboys Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Sorry! Maybe once she gets over the breakup and is in a healthy place you could pursue a relationship with her.
Author jgreen1990 Posted December 31, 2015 Author Posted December 31, 2015 I honestly don't know if this person will ever talk to me again. They were not upset with me but I just have a feeling.
SugarLips72 Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 This woman is confused and just playing games with you. The "you are too attractive" is a cop out. Move on. She is not over this guy she is with. 1
oberkeat Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 She is obviously flakey. I wouldn't waste another second thinking about her. Next!
Myragal Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 She is obviously flakey. I wouldn't waste another second thinking about her. Next! From the first line of the OP post I think 'flaky' applies all around.
Author jgreen1990 Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 Yeah it is flakey. Beacuse everything was fine up until now. The whole thing was left field. Even when she was telling me she started of with "So remember when we first started talking how I told you about my complicated situation."
Buddhist Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 (edited) She is a bit concerned with her appearance as she was trying to slim down a bit. I asked her for an honest opinion of me and she felt that I was too attractive for her which made here feel self conscious. This really can be the reason. If she is self conscious now then she probably doesn't want to be in a situation where her partner has many options. She knows she will be constantly fighting her insecurities and will not be able to feel secure in the relationship. Regardless of any reassurances you might give. My guess is she isn't happy in her open relationship and only agreed to it, hoping that status would change. It's very likely that situation has stirred up her body issues and shaken her belief in being able to attract a committed relationship. I very nearly passed up a relationship for this exact reason. It's legitimate if the woman is self aware. Edited January 2, 2016 by Buddhist
Author jgreen1990 Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 Well I guess that's it. I hope she can get over that issue in the future. Its hard being a nice genuine guy when people don't really see it.
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