Bi Polar GF . Anyone had similar experiences. I need on this .

[GuitarMan1984]

ok this is a repost and collection from a previous post . It clearly states everything that went on in my current relationship . I really dont feel like rewriting the whole entire thing out again so here it is . Please if you can relate or have advice it would be strongly recommended . I am at a very hard part in my life right now with all this . To many years invested and not willing to throw it away that fast and start again . Please comment if you can relate or know someone that has had similar experiences . It would strongly help and troubled mind be more of ease , I am very very broken right

Thank you for reading .

 

Hi hello , I am writing this cause I have no other option . I feel helpless as no one will help or understand . I will let you know what happen .

 

3 years ago . I was involved with at the time a separated woman although she was still married legally . We moved in together over those 2 1/2 years we grew apart cause she could not manage money and handle keeping a job . long story short when it came close to me moving out she wanted to talk and I didnt she ended up assaulting me cause I refused to speak . I moved out july 2015and we still kept in contact . 2 months around October he husband was in jail for allegedly beating up his gf . She ran to him and comforted him and I felt something was going on . So I told her I think Im going to date cause I felt she was becoming closer to him . I found out later she ended up having sex with him and I was right after all . He became staying with her and eventually moved in and then they moved into a apartment and he is paying her way because she got injured and cant work .

 

I feel sick and feel like I want to keep fighting cause I love her . There are signs that she shows me that she loves me too , but she is living with him . He is seeing a woman as well but I feel like there is no hope cause he controls the situation cause he is paying the bills has her there etc . I dont know what to do . I love her so much and feel very uneasy about starting completely over after having such history with this woman I love . Maybe I am just a fool but I strongly believe it will work . Has anyone ever been in this situation or know anyone who went threw similar situation ? I need advice or something or someone to give me hope . Perhaps there is someone who dealt with the same scenario .

 

If so please someone respond .

 

Thank you ,

 

Some one who is suffering

 

Part 2 :

 

To your reply . The assault was pretty serious . It started when I began moving my stuff out over a few days . I began separating my belongings because I was getting ready to move in the next few weeks . As I explained before . I became very upset in the fact that I was having to take care of everything , having to pawn my guitars just for extra money and the fact was she was horrible at managing money . I became very frustrated and had enough and told her . I going to move out . I warned her months prior and it didnt change . What happened is the 2nd day . I came home from work after working a very long day . She had to go to work and was already getting ready to go to work within 30 mins . I explained , I didnt want to talk about it lets do it some other time . Im tired and your going to work etc . She began to push it and finally . I just said nothing and said . Im not going to say anything I dont want to talk about it right now . She lunged at me and started to throw punches and slaps . I put my arms up to cover my face but before I got to that , she either close fisted or slapped my right right and I immediately felt air go into my ear and I could hear anything . Became very dizzy and disoriented . I am a very big but one thing I will not do is hit a woman . I just took it got up and eventually got my phone and called police and they came . Once there she began to tell them I pushed her and made up a bunch of lies to save herself for implication. I immediately requested to go to ER . I know in these situations the guy no matter what is always at fault . I was later scene and the doctor examined me said he could see the redness and based on my pain and symptoms said the I probably ruptured my eardrum . He wanted a follow up but I didnt have insurance at the time so I didnt go . That being said I still have constant ringing still hurts etc . Charges were eventually dropped very recently as they were filed in July . I hope this answered your questions etc .

 

That being said and people say Im insane but Im still with her trying to work on things with her . I find myself asking why . Perhaps a fool for love . Spent 3 years with her . The main problem I have is that . When I moved out she found her way back to her abusive husband . He was placed in Jail for beating and assaulting his gf . She ran to him , I told her I know your seeing him she denied it . I told her I think Im going to start dating . I did I told her she quickly moved him in stating that she needed help . Which I claimed was nonsense cause she could have got a roommate background check etc . She eventually lost her apartment they were living and he helped her get a new apartment . So he is seeing someone else they are still married she is seeing me claims they have a living arrangement etc . I have a hard time believing it . Im at the point where enough is enough and Im tired of being and feeling like a fool . Maybe someone out there is going thru this or knows of someone who had similar situation . I feel helpless , I know I deserve so much better but I have invested so much time I dont feel like giving up quite yet . More and more its beginning to sound like a better option. Well there ya go . I hope this wasnt too much of a reply . If anything I got it out .

 

Thanks for reading

 

PART 3 Finally

 

There is one thing I left out . She has bi Polar disorder which I don't know if I mentioned . I know you said borderline personality disorder . I saw the abbreviation and thought you meant bi Polar . Guess not , fact is I havnt really read up on her mental state still perhaps I will . It still bothers me to the core , cause I moved out initially on purpose after the assault law said spilt up . stayed with family and eventually got myself into a apartment with a great roommate . I love her so much ,and keep fighting even know lately she's showing me more and more distance . I'm stuck in this for hope of reunited love . My friends tell I'm crazy wtf you staying for she's still married even know he's doing his thing its still marriage . I have come to point where I keep trying to show her and tell her to show me and prove her love by more communication and she just gets angry and tells me I'm stressing her out . At this point I'm hoping someone has felt with a similar situation or even someone who has bi Polar . I feel like I don't deserve to be treated this way but I keep holding out hope for love . Please someone respond and help me understand in a different way , cause I strongly need affirmation of someone that has been where I been . So I can finally understand its ok to move on even know you love the person so deeply

[Mobi]

Hi, first of of, I understand what it's like to love a mentally ill person no matter what they do to you and no matter how bad they treat you. My ex had many issues, and he had multi-personality disorder. You talk lots about how she's married, has her issues, and how her husband treats her bad.

 

How she treats you is abusive. She should have never struck you and left you with no option but to call the police. Women can abuse men too. You say you have invested too much time with her, I say you have wasted too much time on her. You need to learn when to call it quits. I left my abusive ex of 10 years and we had children together.

 

When it gets bad, get out! Cut your losses and say goodbye to her. Otherwise, you are going to miss out of something more special. If she's the right one for you, wait for her to divorce, clean up her act, and start treating you good. But while you are waiting, live your life and you never know who you will meet.

 

I wish you the best of luck, especially in 2016!