Bravo6 Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Hello everyone, I never thought of myself as someone who would be telling the world about this but I guess I am in deep trouble this time and I found this forum while looking for some advice. It will be a long posr but please stick with me. I have always been investing time in myself and doing good things in the world. The happiest chap and always the person to go to if you need Help. There was always a problem though. No matter how many women I dated I was never emotionally attracted to build a relationship with any of them. Till I met her. Age 31 and I was in love at first sight for the first time. This one last year together has been amazing but when I met her she was a broken person and still is. I felt that I want to show her a better way of life which to most of us would be considered normal but she never had so far. It did not take long to realise that something was wrong as she would start flipping the happiest moments to the saddest in seconds. Then she mentioned one day she is taking meds for panic disorder. I felt I love her so I will put up with it as I want her to have a happier life. Things started getting worse since last month though. Out of the blue I would get messages that said to me that I should leave her and I can find someone better. I thought she was testing me and I passed the test every time. Problem is the more I passed the tests the more frequent it became. She must have told me goodbye about 10 times in the last month only get back a few days later acting like we are completely normal. I was very surprised at how she would never say sorry and I would be dumb enough to let her back in every single time. Last week after having a great night she tells me suddenly I need to change and stop being angry. I have never been visibly angry to her so told her where was all this coming from. I am very confused by all this as I committed a lot to her as she needs constant attention. I always believe that sticking to your loved ones and helping them in time of need is the out most priority but now as I am writing this I realise that she always trying to pick a fight out of nothing. Conversations near our breakup would go like this. You are angry. I am not. But you are. I am not. You are angry I am telling you you are angry and need to change. And so on and so forth. I know what I would do if she came from a loving family or had great friend or even a work place she loves. But... Problem is she has none of the above. Mother has a bf Father has a Gf Brother just divorced None of the above have been in her life since childhood Add on top of that a job for minimum wage and her medical condition and go figure. Situation now is she eventually dumped the only person who ever have a crap about her a week ago by emotionally taking me to pieces part by part. Texted me two days ago saying I hope you have a happy holiday. I did not reply. Texted me yesterday saying I know you would leave me because of my condition but that's for the best and thank you for everything till now. Signaling yet again another good bye. I did not reply. Frankly speaking she has a heart of gold but I am very worried about her. I need to take a stance now. Lose her for good or take the abuse for longer hoping she will realize that emotionally I am drained. Sorry for the long post and many thanks in advance to constructive feedback from the community.
Waynester Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 It's a difficult and sad situation op, but it sounds like you have done all you can to help her, and that you genuinely love her.. But, she clearly needs more help than you can give. She seems to be deliberately pushing away anyone who shows her true affection and kindness. Maybe something in her past has taught her she can trust no one? I would say that a relationship is probably not the best idea for you or her, but maybe just be there for her as a friend? Tell her that even though you are not together anymore, you will always be there for her as a friend..if she needs you. It's this that she may need more than anything, knowing you won't abandon her. Not sure what else you can really do. Good luck with it anyway, I hope things improve for both of you.
LostOnes05 Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 I only had to read that and I couldn't take it. Let her go and date someone that needs less meds.
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