Gingerlocks Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Hey guys. 7 months ago my very first girlfriend broke up with me, and I was heartbroken. Gosh, the first couple of days, i hardly ate or anything. Was put on medication and so on. Really had a rough time. Couldn't focus on work, everything I did reminded me of her.... I found this forum, and read about the NO-CONTACT rule, and my god am I pleased I found it. I've been in no contact with my ex-girlfriend for 7 months now. I followed the rules step by step. Blocked her all over, blocked all of her family members all over, I've thrown all of her stuff away, And I can tell you, it REALLY WORKS. Yeah, sure its hard, and you get your ups and downs. But my goodness, I'm so much better than before. It gives you time to think about the relationship. In my case, it was pure toxic, but I was so much in love, I couldn't see that. It gives you time to better your self, and just take care of your self. I've read about many people who goes to the gym and so on. For me, I had the time to focus on my music. I've become such a better guitar player and singer. I'm still not looking into dating or anything at the moment, I don't feel im ready at all. But I really REALLY can't thank you guys enough. One big thanks. And a happy new year! x 8
Draper Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Glad to hear you're doing well, good on you for starting NC and sticking to it. It's really the only way to go for people that want to recover IMO. The only to separate the logical parts of your mind and the parts that were in love.
Chronotrgr Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Thankyou for posting this, it's nice to see a light in the dark, I have been through rough breakups before, and no contact really was the only way to go for healing, it's hard at the start but once it becomes routine you see the benefit of maintaining it, unfortunately I am down the no contact road again, after going this route twice, I feel like it should be easier by now, especially for the third time, but nah, it's as difficult as it has always been, hoping for faster results for this time though, I feel like I'm started to accepting the end of my relationship and once I have accepted that, there's no looking back.
Author Gingerlocks Posted December 31, 2015 Author Posted December 31, 2015 Thankyou for posting this, it's nice to see a light in the dark, I have been through rough breakups before, and no contact really was the only way to go for healing, it's hard at the start but once it becomes routine you see the benefit of maintaining it, unfortunately I am down the no contact road again, after going this route twice, I feel like it should be easier by now, especially for the third time, but nah, it's as difficult as it has always been, hoping for faster results for this time though, I feel like I'm started to accepting the end of my relationship and once I have accepted that, there's no looking back. Yeah! In the beginning I was like; She is the only girl for me, I will find no-one like her... I guess that is a normal thought. After some time, you realize that its all BS. Makes me laugh that I could think that.
Chronotrgr Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Yeah! In the beginning I was like; She is the only girl for me, I will find no-one like her... I guess that is a normal thought. After some time, you realize that its all BS. Makes me laugh that I could think that. Lol I'm still like that, but from past experience, I know better than to force myself to try and find somebody else, sometimes it's best just to be alone and it's probably the most fair thing to do for your future partner, after all, they aren't going to want the scraps on the table that your ex partner left, I hope at some point in the future I can look at a picture of my ex like I have done with everyone else and just smile, feeling no pain, it's ridiculous what your mind will tell you when your heart is falling through your ass.
Wewon Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 It gives you time to think about the relationship. In my case, it was pure toxic, but I was so much in love, I couldn't see that. It gives you time to better your self, and just take care of your self. This is really awesome. In my opinion, the above is the true benefit of NC. Glad that its working out for you.
ExtraSpice Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 That is awesome to hear! I am in the no contact boat right now and though I have been here before as well, it definitely is not any easier. But I am wiser than I was before. I know the value of no contact, I know the value of trying things even if they seem hopeless at the time. It is a gradual process of healing. Happens little by little. Good to know you are in a better place!
D.r.e Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Thanks for this, I am at about 19 days. I am a wreak going through so many ups and downs as new things seem to be processing everyday. Sucks because I am starting to realize how little I actually mean to her. Meanwhile, she was the world to me. Feel embarrassed and stupid about it. This gives me a boost to keep going.
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