Naively.Sensitive Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 If the Wayward Wife was "tricked" into an affair by a predatory man, but did experience a strong emotional and sexual connection (even if under tricked circumstances of manipulation), is it really possible for the WW to truly forget the affair and not think of the good and passionate feelings (even if under tricked circumstances) during the affair? For a woman, I have heard that emotional imprints of "feeling good" can be pretty deep. If the affair did not work out because her affair partner had simply tricked her into sex, what could the primary, predominant feelings be, in the present and future? One of hatred for the affair partner (and possibly a new appreciation for the betrayed husband), OR one of missing that emotional and sexual connection (even if under manipulated conditions)? The reason I ask this question is because I want to try to understand if psychologically, I may be the first choice or the backup choice for my wife, going forward? Will those feelings of excitement of intimate involvement with this other man always be on the mind of my wife and will I never have 100% of her attention, love and passion ever again? This is my original post of my experience with the affair (if it helps to answer the above questions): http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/561922-dealing-wife-s-affair
Whoknew30 Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 If the Wayward Wife was "tricked" into an affair by a predatory man, but did experience a strong emotional and sexual connection (even if under tricked circumstances of manipulation), is it really possible for the WW to truly forget the affair and not think of the good and passionate feelings (even if under tricked circumstances) during the affair? For a woman, I have heard that emotional imprints of "feeling good" can be pretty deep. If the affair did not work out because her affair partner had simply tricked her into sex, what could the primary, predominant feelings be, in the present and future? One of hatred for the affair partner (and possibly a new appreciation for the betrayed husband), OR one of missing that emotional and sexual connection (even if under manipulated conditions)? The reason I ask this question is because I want to try to understand if psychologically, I may be the first choice or the backup choice for my wife, going forward? Will those feelings of excitement of intimate involvement with this other man always be on the mind of my wife and will I never have 100% of her attention, love and passion ever again? This is my original post of my experience with the affair (if it helps to answer the above questions): http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/561922-dealing-wife-s-affair It depends how A ended & how he treated her. Some women I know that have had A can't stand their EXOM bc they realize once out of A fog the guy was a jerk & they're were played. In my case, my OM really cared about me & even though I don't pine for him & haven't really think about him (until I saw him before Xmas), in the last couple weeks, I have had thoughts about certain night together but that's it. I'm happy I chose my H & wouldn't go back to that. If your wife was played & she knows it, she probably feels terrible. A don't just hurt the BS, it really takes a toll on the WS too. I know a BS isn't always empathetic to that but none the less, it's true for the WS I know. If she (in your opinion) has changed & she's giving it her all, I would highly doubt she's sitting their thinking of OM, at times when I thought back, it wasn't bc I was particularly thinking of OM, I was thinking of the situation of A.
Mrs. John Adams Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Maybe you should read the threads written by very broken man....because your situations are very similar. 1
stillafool Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 (edited) The only way a woman can be tricked into an affair is if she is single thinking she's getting involved with a single man who turns out to be married. Otherwise she had sex with him because that's what she wanted no matter what she tells you. Edited December 30, 2015 by stillafool 1
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