My ex asked if i wanted to keep in contact and I said no, how do i reverse this?

[LucidNightmare]

I am not sure if anyone is familiar with the "Relationship Rewind" program, but I have been reading it, and there was a chapter on what to do if you ex still wants to keep in contact with you after the breakup and how it is actually a good thing. ... but the problem I have is that she DID contact me a few weeks after she brokeup with me and asked me if i thought that it was a good idea to still talk... but this was before I started reading the "Relationship Rewind"... and I responded by saying "no i think it would be better that we do not stay in contact,to give us time to get over eachother and figure out what we really want,so unless you feel that you want me back you can contact me, if you feel like you dont want me in your life anymore, than dont." Now im not sure how to reverse what I said and let her know that I changed my mind... it says to let her imitate contact again, but she already has and i rejected her... it says getting in contact with her is a very important step.....so what do i do now if I want to let her know i changed my mind??

[PegNosePete]

What is your objective here? Are you trying to get her back, or what?

 

I wouldn't put too much faith in this kind of book. They are mostly useful only for wiping your behind.

[NVO]

You contact her or you don't. It's that simple I guess. You see, I've read some of these book too and tried some of the techniques. Didn't work. Now I'm not saying that those books do not contain valuable insight or advice, just don't take them to literally. They are written by people who exploit insecurities or pain.

 

Just do whatever feels good man. If some book tells me to stay in contact with my ex because it will increase the chance of getting back together, but contact f'ing hurts, well, I'd rather walk away. Like I did.

 

These situations depend so much on how you two were together, how you broke up. Hell, sometimes I feel somewhat guilty staying NC because you will read some people that it's childish and immature to block someone out of your life. Maybe it is, but no contact makes me feel better, so why would I keep the source of pain in my life? I'm 24, we've got our whole lives to be friends... just not now.

 

Sorry, bit drifting of your question here haha. What you could do is simply contact her, thank her for the space she has been giving you and say that you are ready to stay in contact now. Don't make a big deal out of it. I think saying this is the easy part. Staying in contact and making progress is the hard part that will follow. Keep that in mind.