TopCop15 Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Lately, I've noticed a platonic friend of mine who is married has been acting weird as of late. I get vibes that she's looking into more with me or someone else. Wondering if i should pick up on certain signs that indeed she isnt happy in her current married state. Examples... She hardly ever wears her wedding ring anymore. Her attire has shifted drastically from normal jeans and sneakers, to short dresses with knee high socks and boots and constantly is asking me her thoughts on her appearances. When we talk about her husband, there is always a kind of sarcastic response about something he does that previously she liked about him. Almost everything has a rolling eye kind of feel to it. She's gone through a lot of mood swings, beginning of the day chipper, then middle to the end of the day cold and withdrawn. I'm friends with some of her coworkers and they say she's been taking long lunches with a male coworker there's no crime in that, I understand, but normally she never takes long lunches and the guy she goes to lunch with is a known flirt who has no objections if a woman is married, engaged, or dating someone else and has a tendency to brag or embellish about his 'conquests'. In regards to me, she has been a little more flirtatious with me talking more about sexual things and again asking me about her appearance. Im not sure what to do without sounding judgmental or accusing her of anything, especially regarding the male bimbo she's been going to lunch with.
hippychick3 Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Honestly, it's none of your business. Since she's married, just stay away. 4
d0nnivain Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Agree. It's none of your concern. If she point blank asks to sleep with you or kisses you, feel free to decline but until then keep your suspicions to yourself & allow her to live her own life.
katielee Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 (edited) When we talk about her husband, stop this... and tell her that people in a mature, loving relationships do not talk to members of the opposite sex about their marriage. If she has a problem with her husband she should talk to him. And then remove yourself from this friendship while the train runs off the tracks. Edited December 30, 2015 by katielee 2
Marc878 Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 stop this... and tell her that people in a mature, loving relationships do not talk to members of the opposite sex about their marriage. If she has a problem with her husband she should talk to him. And then remove yourself from this friendship while the train runs off the tracks. Excellent advice. Get away from this immediately.
Samhain Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 I've looked through a couple of your other threads and you mentioned knee high socks and boots in every single one I read, and the question was usually "does she like me". And also, every woman you asked "does she like me" happened to be married. I find it difficult to believe that all of these women (your co worker, your boss etc) are all trying to indicate to you that they are attracted to you just because you have a fetish for something they happen to wear from time to time. But I agree with what the others have said. It's not your business who she goes to lunch with and you shouldn't encourage somebody to speak to you about their spouse in a negative way, especially when you seem to take false hope from every look a member of the opposite sex flashes at you (particularly if she's wearing knee high socks). 1
Mr. Lucky Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Im not sure what to do without sounding judgmental or accusing her of anything, especially regarding the male bimbo she's been going to lunch with. Assuming your username implies affiliation with a law enforcement organization, the last thing you'd want would be drama centerstage, a harassment allegation or worse. I'd avoid her if only for that reason... Mr. Lucky 1
Lois_Griffin Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 LOL. Going back in the OP's posting history, he's going on about knee high socks and boots in a post from 2008. I find it difficult to believe that all of these women (your co worker, your boss etc) are all trying to indicate to you that they are attracted to you just because you have a fetish for something they happen to wear from time to time. Agreed. OP, you're a grown adult and need to ask a bunch of strangers on a message board what to do about some loose co-worker whose throwing herself at everyone? 1
Mr Mind of Shazam Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Sounds to me like she's shopping for a new man in her life.
VeveCakes Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Sounds to me like she's shopping for a new man in her life. Maybe one who can take her shopping for knee high socks and boots This is entertaining, because I always wear high boots and leggings to work, I hope people don't think I am coming onto them lol 1
RightThere Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 It certainly could be heading in that direction. Warning signs are there. If she's a friend, I would definitely have the conversation with her of "What's going on with you?" Point out what you're observing. But don't make any connections to anything you don't know at this point. And no disrespect, but if you are in law enforcement, that environment is ripe with infidelity due to job stress, etc. So it's not unusual that someone would start treading down that path.
HereNorThere Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Maybe you can give us some insight into your fetish for married women? Is it the taboo nature of the whole thing or just lack of opportunity with available women? When I was younger, I truly thought women in their 20s were mostly likely to cheat. As I get older, I realize that women over 35 are the ones you really have to watch out for. Besides the just INSANE libido, a lot of them have dulled the emotional attachment to sex over the years. Add that in with a tired, beat down husband and it's like the perfect storm. Sleeping with married chicks is much, much easier than sleeping with single girls. Single girls have all the options in the world, but married ones need someone who lacks morals and is easily accessible. By nature they have to lower their standards to find a guy that dirty. A truly high value male wouldn't sleep with a married woman because he doesn't need to. Why deal with any sort of drama when he doesn't have to? Why share bodily fluids with some other man? Desperate men and opportunists sleep with married women because they don't have a lot of other options. They are willing to put up with a certain amount of drama because it's the only way they can get laid. I think you need to decide which type of male you are. 1
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