Annie3580 Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Started dating a new guy at the end of November, going fantastically. We were dating a coup of times a week & we're very loved up. I felt no pressure really to ask where things were going. Then I've just had to go away for 2 weeks, when I left he said "I may miss you a little". First week I was away he was quite chatty, even on Christmas. This week, maybe I'm missing him more & feeling it as I'm about to go home, he isn't chatty at all. I am a worrier & do over analyse, but is this something to be worried about. He's so laid back I don't think I can say anything while I'm away. He did say last week we'll do something when I get back, but that was a week ago & what if he's changed his mind.
TaraMaiden2 Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 If Effort shows signs of disparity, question commitment. You may be in it for the long-haul. He may be in it for the ride.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Relax, girl. I wouldn't worry yet. It's the holidays, people get busy doing other things. Keep focused on your return. See where it goes when you get back.
Terry8889 Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Something similar happened to me with my ex of 2 and half years. I went away for a month and he graduallywent cold, to the point we eventuallybroke up. To this day I am not sure if going away was what sparked the reaction. Anyways that is now the past. I think you should ask him, he is the only one who can give you the answer as to why he is behavinglike that. Tell him how you feel and that you're not happy about it and you also have a say in the relationship, if he gives you a valid reason proceed with caution if he continues to get cold just end the relationship.
Zippy2000 Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Hard to say with limited information and what was agreed before you went away. Did you mention what date you were back instead of just saying 2 weeks? If you give a date for example "I ll be back on 14th January" then that would give him a way of sending you a text or call to say welcome home or It could mean he wants you to have a good time if your on holiday. It depends on the person. When I was in a relationship with one girl. She chose to contact me while she was away. Other girls I dated just wanted their own time and woulnt want to talk until they got back. Its possible he`s thinking the latter. Why not send a message or call to say when you `ll be back.
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 You are away for 3 weeks over the holidays. Your communication will be different during this period. There is no concrete indication that he has lost interest. Stop worrying unnecessarily. Enjoy your holiday. Wish him a Happy New Year & then go on a date when you get home. Perhaps get him a small trinket / present from your trip.
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