Flozfzx Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 My ex contacted me we starting seeing each other she said she broke up with the current guy she was with when we broke up. We been broking up for a 15 months the last time she lied to me she was going to break up with the guy and never did so i just started moving on. Dated etc.. Nc for 2 months ..all the good stuff. I even set up counseuling for the both of us with a local pastor in 2 weeks. The thing is that the guy moved in and hasnt moved out supposely she says hes moving out on the first I just dont believe she broke up i have a gut feeling shes lying to me and just wants to eat her cut too. The reason i dont believe her she constantly lied to me. 3 weeks ago when i met her we went out for coffee and talked and kissed for a while she asked me if i can get her ciggrettes for her friend that she needed to visit. When i was going to get the cigrettes she miss texted me the text goes like. "Are you home yet?" "Tell me when you get home" "i told them i have to get back when you get there" im like wtf agian she came up with all type of excuses. I did fight but it bother me that samw night i asked her if i can come over so i can see if shes not lying she said sure but i didnt. I tested her so many ways to see if she honestly broke up with that guy but i still dont trust her as long as he has stuff there. She unfriend him in fb then fb not to long ago so my question is should i go back in moving on or ? She just lies so much ...
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I think you already know the answer to this. You can't continue to put your life on hold for such a deceitful person, it will only make you unhappy. New year, new start!
Draper Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 I have to say, if there's anything I learned from my last relationship - trust that gut feeling. It's the logical part of your brain trying to getting through to you, regardless of what your heart wants to believe.
cupcakebunny Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Trust is paramount. Even if she's doing NONE of these things, she's given you reason to distrust her and the relationship is dust. Trust can be rebuilt but it takes a lot of work and the onus is on HER to build it. She should be doing everything in her power to do that and recognizing that she screwed up. She's done none of that. Move on.
NoLeafClover Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 (edited) My ex contacted me we starting seeing each other she said she broke up with the current guy she was with when we broke up. We been broking up for a 15 months the last time she lied to me she was going to break up with the guy and never did so i just started moving on. Dated etc.. Nc for 2 months ..all the good stuff. I even set up counseuling for the both of us with a local pastor in 2 weeks. The thing is that the guy moved in and hasnt moved out supposely she says hes moving out on the first I just dont believe she broke up i have a gut feeling shes lying to me and just wants to eat her cut too. The reason i dont believe her she constantly lied to me. 3 weeks ago when i met her we went out for coffee and talked and kissed for a while she asked me if i can get her ciggrettes for her friend that she needed to visit. When i was going to get the cigrettes she miss texted me the text goes like. "Are you home yet?" "Tell me when you get home" "i told them i have to get back when you get there" im like wtf agian she came up with all type of excuses. I did fight but it bother me that samw night i asked her if i can come over so i can see if shes not lying she said sure but i didnt. I tested her so many ways to see if she honestly broke up with that guy but i still dont trust her as long as he has stuff there. She unfriend him in fb then fb not to long ago so my question is should i go back in moving on or ? She just lies so much ... I dated a woman like that. They do not change, ALWAYS trust your gut feeling. People like this are compulsive liars. They are pro at it and they will do anything...ANYTHING to make themselves look like they are telling the truth even when they are lying face to face. The ex of mine who did this to me, was always making me feel like something else was up. One time, she got a facebook message from 'this friend'. She was like " this guy friend of mine said this funny joke", waving her phone at me as if I could read the message. I told her to stop waving it around...I grabbed her hand and scrolled her conversation down. There it was , talking about touching each other's genitals and things they would do to each other. I caught her lying on a lot of things. Everytime I had that feeling something else was up and tried to prove myself wrong ...I would find out my gut feeling was right. I was with her for 5 months and it was hell. Prior to that I was with someone for 7 years and I never once doubted the person I was with for 7 years. There is something about people that make you feel like there is more to the story and you find out they are compulsive liars. It is actually a sickness some people can't help but be like that. If you are in a relationship where you feel like you are being lied to, cheated on then YOU SHOULDNT be with that person. Don't be in this situation. I am speaking from personal experience first hand. They will lie and lie and make your life a living hell. You will drive yourself crazy and always walk on egg shells. They will lie to you even if you were to walk in on them with another guy/girl..they will always make up a reason for cheating, lying and even blame you for their mistakes. I am not telling you because that's what people say on here because it's easier, this is something I have lived and experienced. Just like you, I have received texts that were not meant to go to me, and I could not connect the dots together. Once everything was over, all the mistaken texts I received made complete sense. Trust me on this. She sounds just like the girl I dated. They also don't have the decency to leave you alone. They find other people and when that relationship doesn't work out , they message you like everything is fine. DO NOT DO THIS TO YOURSELF PLEASE FOR YOUR SAKE. Edited December 30, 2015 by NoLeafClover
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