SixxChick Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Well, my story has been told. He used me and he owes me over $5,000. I have him SO scared of me that he has actually been paying me $200/month at my insistence. He was late this month and I demanded December's payment by the end of the year. The problem is, I won't accept his checks anymore (because they are not worth the paper they are written on), so he delivers cash under my mat. It was there this morning, plus the $25 late fee that I charge (I know, I know). But this still keeps me in contact with him. Do I need the money? Well, who doesn't? I don't know anymore. I think that I could walk away from the debt. But at this point, I've kind of got him where I want him. But is it to my own NC peril? You be the judge.
NopeNah Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Not sure where you live,but maybe a money order,western union, or something similar would work better.
Author SixxChick Posted December 29, 2015 Author Posted December 29, 2015 (edited) Good idea. Thank you. Except I can see him, as a narcissist, using this as an excuse for not paying in the future. Kind of like, "Thanks a lot. I bring you cash, and now that's not enough." Guess I just need to bite the bullet and continue getting paid, or walk away with the full NC thing. That's my dilemma. Edited December 29, 2015 by SixxChick
NopeNah Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 Of course you want and deserve your money. I'm actually in a smaller situation as him from our past trip.. She paid it with a won travel voucher and our agreement was that I'd pay the out of pocket cash things, baggage, airport transport,tipping and general expenses.. However since our most recent split,she feels I owe $2K on top of the $1000+ I spent for this $1149,all inclusive trip.. I have no problem giving her the cash,but...really? She paid $1200...where's the other $800 coming from? This isn't your case(I'm assuming rent,ect... Is what you're owed),but..When you think you honestly have an honest 'forver'(Ha!) relationship with someone...to me $$ shouldn't be an issue,until the point you are obviously being taken advantage of,,Just saying.
Author SixxChick Posted December 30, 2015 Author Posted December 30, 2015 Thank you, Praying4Daylight. I'm so sorry for your situation. In mine, I WAS taken advantage of. But I take responsiblity for it because I totally allowed it to happen. All of the red flags were there, but I thought with my heart, not with my head. Plus, I believe in people. But you can't help people who won't help themselves. Therefore, I guess I have to battle and weigh my cohersement for payment (which, miraculously, he is coming through with) against my desire to leave this guy entirely in the dust with NC. Guess I'll be around in these forums whining about this. At least until the balance is paid in full!
NopeNah Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 I'm fine..Thanks for the concern though! You might also want to consider if the time of collecting is worth it.. I'd wager that in the 2+ years you could use the effort,emotions and nonsense, by taking the $$ he's already given you and invest it.. Possible more ROI and no BS..Just saying..If he still mails in a money order..cool,toss it in the mutual fund,or whatever...If he never pays another cent..You'll be ok. 1
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