theseaofred1982 Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 A friend of mine went on a vacation to Germany for two weeks. She met a 49 year old business man whom she spend the whole two weeks with. She's only 23 and very immature, but an eye candy. She claimed to have fallen in love with him. She's coming back today, to put in her two weeks noticed for both of her job to move back in with him. I asked her what he thought of it, apparently he told her to go home but she insisted and somehow able to talk him into living with him and working for his bistro. I told her she's being crazy! Based on her past relationship, she's known to 1. Have sex on the first date and move way way fast then within less than a month she gets tired of the guy. She said he's different. I told her the age gap and the maturity level will kill this "relationship" before it can even start. She's throwing everything away to move in with someone she met for two weeks. Will anything good come from this?
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 A friend of mine went on a vacation to Germany for two weeks. She met a 49 year old business man whom she spend the whole two weeks with. She's only 23 and very immature, but an eye candy. She claimed to have fallen in love with him. She's coming back today, to put in her two weeks noticed for both of her job to move back in with him. I asked her what he thought of it, apparently he told her to go home but she insisted and somehow able to talk him into living with him and working for his bistro. I told her she's being crazy! Based on her past relationship, she's known to 1. Have sex on the first date and move way way fast then within less than a month she gets tired of the guy. She said he's different. I told her the age gap and the maturity level will kill this "relationship" before it can even start. She's throwing everything away to move in with someone she met for two weeks. Will anything good come from this? Definitely not. Is she trying to find a sugar daddy or something like that? Because that's what it seems so.
Samhain Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Most probably not. But it's a lesson she has to learn for herself. Living in a foreign country is a lot different to a 2 week vacation. Throw into the mix a guy she hardly knows, who is more than twice her age. My guess is she'll come running back like a bat out of hell when the novelty wears off.
Author theseaofred1982 Posted December 29, 2015 Author Posted December 29, 2015 Definitely not. Is she trying to find a sugar daddy or something like that? Because that's what it seems so. No. For the past year, she's had over 20 partners. She's the type of person who loves being with someone new. But she moves so fast with every man she meets that she ends up running for the hills when the honeymoon phase is over. I'm trying to make her see her destructive pattern but her mind is set. I'm just scared that once she gets there and she gets tired of the guy, she would have no way out. I told her, more than likely this 49 year old business savy guy will grow tired of her because of maturity differences. At the moment of her life shes all about party and sex. Just last week she said she will never settle and be in a relationship, now she wants to move all the way to Germany for some guy she hardly knows.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 First, the logistics: is your friend from an EU-member state? If not, she is going to have some very serious wake-up calls trying to secure a work permit especially now that restrictions are tightening up everywhere. Does she speak any German? Second, the reality: he told her not to come. That's all she needs to know about his interest in her. It's very low and she's going to embarrass herself. I imagine he doesn't expect her to actually go through with this. Third, this is her battle to fight. She's going to learn the hard way that a lack of impulse control can have very negative consequences.
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 No. For the past year, she's had over 20 partners. She's the type of person who loves being with someone new. But she moves so fast with every man she meets that she ends up running for the hills when the honeymoon phase is over. I'm trying to make her see her destructive pattern but her mind is set. I'm just scared that once she gets there and she gets tired of the guy, she would have no way out. I told her, more than likely this 49 year old business savy guy will grow tired of her because of maturity differences. At the moment of her life shes all about party and sex. Just last week she said she will never settle and be in a relationship, now she wants to move all the way to Germany for some guy she hardly knows. This guy probably paid her for everything, showed extravagant, luxury things she could never have. She was amazed and she wants more of this "extravagant' life. He is probably married and only used her for sex. Open her eyes
Author theseaofred1982 Posted December 29, 2015 Author Posted December 29, 2015 This guy probably paid her for everything, showed extravagant, luxury things she could never have. She was amazed and she wants more of this "extravagant' life. He is probably married and only used her for sex. Open her eyes He bought her a perfume for Christmas. That's it. When I asked her why she think she " loves" this guy, her reply was, he smells so good and he did things nobody else has. I told her she needs to see a therapist because pretty sure she has some kind of personality disorder. I don't know what else to do but to sit and watch this train wreck
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 He bought her a perfume for Christmas. That's it. When I asked her why she think she " loves" this guy, her reply was, he smells so good and he did things nobody else has. I told her she needs to see a therapist because pretty sure she has some kind of personality disorder. I don't know what else to do but to sit and watch this train wreck Well you're not her mother. You can give her a piece of advice but if she wants to be dumb there's nothing you can do about that.
smackie9 Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 who cares really...it's her life, let her enjoy the experience. So what if it doesn't work out....a lot of relationships don't work out, no matter what the age gap.
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