i479 Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I think this is in the right forum now... Long story short: I met this girl on vacation in Brazil (we both live in the U.S. but she lives across the country from me). We hung out for a few days together but nothing happened (she's pretty shy and it's hard to tell if there was any chemistry, I got a boatload of mixed signals and decided to leave it friendly as a result). We have been texting almost every day for two months ever since we parted (also lots of mixed signals). I asked her if she'd be interested in flying to and meeting me in Mexico for a week or so and spending some time there together. She replies she misses hanging out with me but can't, she's too busy to go for a week but can only go for a couple of days...but isn't sure if it's worth it for such a short time...and basically left the decision up to me to decide whether to go through with this or not as a result. What to make of this?
hasaquestion Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I think this is in the right forum now... Long story short: I met this girl on vacation in Brazil (we both live in the U.S. but she lives across the country from me). We hung out for a few days together but nothing happened (she's pretty shy and it's hard to tell if there was any chemistry, I got a boatload of mixed signals and decided to leave it friendly as a result). We have been texting almost every day for two months ever since we parted (also lots of mixed signals). I asked her if she'd be interested in flying to and meeting me in Mexico for a week or so and spending some time there together. She replies she misses hanging out with me but can't, she's too busy to go for a week but can only go for a couple of days...but isn't sure if it's worth it for such a short time...and basically left the decision up to me to decide whether to go through with this or not as a result. What to make of this? You need to pay attention to what she's trying to tell you (and likely has since the beginning).
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I think this is in the right forum now... Long story short: I met this girl on vacation in Brazil (we both live in the U.S. but she lives across the country from me). We hung out for a few days together but nothing happened (she's pretty shy and it's hard to tell if there was any chemistry, I got a boatload of mixed signals and decided to leave it friendly as a result). We have been texting almost every day for two months ever since we parted (also lots of mixed signals). I asked her if she'd be interested in flying to and meeting me in Mexico for a week or so and spending some time there together. She replies she misses hanging out with me but can't, she's too busy to go for a week but can only go for a couple of days...but isn't sure if it's worth it for such a short time...and basically left the decision up to me to decide whether to go through with this or not as a result. What to make of this? I think she thinks you're just looking for a hookup, thus she is unsure about what she should do. If a guy who lives miles away from me said "Let's spend a week in Mexico together" I would definitely think he only wants a hookup. She left the decision up to you basically because she wants to see how you behave and get to know you better. She wants to see if you just want a hookup or something else. Now, considering that she lives across the country, aren't you just looking for a hookup? Be honest
hasaquestion Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I don't get it OP. why do you think this girl is interested in you in the first place? What actions of hers make you think she's into you?
Author i479 Posted December 29, 2015 Author Posted December 29, 2015 @hasaquestion…I don’t know! That’s the problem is I’ve gotten mixed signals! Some seem to indicate she's interested in beign more than friends and others are anything but... @Gingervixen…honest to God no, I'm not. I really like this girl as far more than just that. I also had my chances to put my “moves” on her in Brazil but never did not only because of mixed signals on her part but also because I was afraid of her thinking precisely that...that we knew each other so little and I’m already doing that…so I decided to play it slowly...hence the months of text messages since then.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 @hasaquestion…I don’t know! That’s the problem is I’ve gotten mixed signals! Some seem to indicate she's interested in beign more than friends and others are anything but... @Gingervixen…honest to God no, I'm not. I really like this girl as far more than just that. I also had my chances to put my “moves” on her in Brazil but never did not only because of mixed signals on her part but also because I was afraid of her thinking precisely that...that we knew each other so little and I’m already doing that…so I decided to play it slowly...hence the months of text messages since then. Can you give some examples? I think that will help us better understand her mindset and guess whether there's any interest on her part
alicia59 Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I think she thinks you're just looking for a hookup, thus she is unsure about what she should do. If a guy who lives miles away from me said "Let's spend a week in Mexico together" I would definitely think he only wants a hookup. She left the decision up to you basically because she wants to see how you behave and get to know you better. She wants to see if you just want a hookup or something else. Now, considering that she lives across the country, aren't you just looking for a hookup? Be honest I agree with all of this!
Author i479 Posted December 29, 2015 Author Posted December 29, 2015 Let's say she is actually thinking I'm looking for a hook-up...then why in the world would she even entertain the possibility of meeting up for a couple of days (instead of the proposed week). Wouldn't she just have said "thank, but no thanks" in so many words instead?
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Let's say she is actually thinking I'm looking for a hook-up...then why in the world would she even entertain the possibility of meeting up for a couple of days (instead of the proposed week). Wouldn't she just have said "thank, but no thanks" in so many words instead? Well this is what you said about her: but can only go for a couple of days...but isn't sure if it's worth it for such a short time... So she created an obstacle so that the trip would never happen. I don't think she feels comfortable with the idea of travelling to Mexico with a guy she has just seen once.
hasaquestion Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 You're wasting your time. Move on. Unless he's looking for a pen pal.
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