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Am I the one who's wrong?

 

 

No your friend is.

 

 

As a man, well I still am though not young and being married not dating. Though if I was dating I would be asking her out because I am very attracted to her.

 

 

I would want a relationship and to have sex. Though when I would go out with her on that first date I would not expect anything though I would be hoping to get a second date and build a relationship.

 

 

So in short I would not expect anything though hope she would like me enough to at least get to 1st base though more importantly get a second date.

 

 

It is wrong for men and women to use each other.

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I would have told him to get lost as well.

 

I would have told him sth along the lines of:

-what if we get 3 men involved?-

-I would love to watch you have sex with another man-

etc.

 

See how much was he willing to do to you or let you do to him. Haha :laugh:

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GingerVixen Established Member

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I would have told him sth along the lines of:

-what if we get 3 men involved?-

-I would love to watch you have sex with another man-

etc.

 

See how much was he willing to do to you or let you do to him. Haha :laugh:

 

LOL. Hahahhaha Best post!

It would be amazing to see his reaction

Lois_Griffin Established Member

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What would you do ? Would you re-add him? Would you ignore him forever?

The guy is a complete douche canoe. He's probably messaging 15 other women while he's messaging you.

 

 

I wouldn't spit on this loser if he were on fire on the sidewalk.

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GingerVixen Established Member

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No your friend is.

 

 

As a man, well I still am though not young and being married not dating. Though if I was dating I would be asking her out because I am very attracted to her.

 

 

I would want a relationship and to have sex. Though when I would go out with her on that first date I would not expect anything though I would be hoping to get a second date and build a relationship.

 

 

So in short I would not expect anything though hope she would like me enough to at least get to 1st base though more importantly get a second date.

 

 

It is wrong for men and women to use each other.

 

Thank you very much.

 

Assertive men like you behave this way.

 

That is why I cant trust this guy. He has a bizarre behavior.

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I am allowed to be wrong on occasion! Misread your post. Imagine how insufferable my arrogance would be if I was never wrong. I apologize. Carry on.

 

It is okay... I was just trying to make myself clear

road Established Member

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I would have told him sth along the lines of:

-what if we get 3 men involved?-

-I would love to watch you have sex with another man-

etc.

 

See how much was he willing to do to you or let you do to him. Haha :laugh:

 

LOL. Hahahhaha Best post!

It would be amazing to see his reaction

 

 

 

No way never getting in a situation where swords even accidentally can get crossed.

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That's what I heard from one of my friends when I told her what happened.

 

Well. Met this 32 year old guy in OkCupid (I have deleted my profile already), very successful lawyer and very famous in his business. Smart, educated, funny, sarcastic. We had great rapport. We NEVER sexted and the conversation used to be flirty but never explicit or sexual because I knew how to control the subject of the conversation. He lives very far away from me, but I usually travel to his city for business. I told him I was coming to his city in a few months, we arranged a date but he basically stood me up saying he had guests and work to do. I gave him the benefit of doubt, didn't freak out and made other plans. He kept texting me. He said "Please do not delete me or stop talking to me, we could at least be pen pals." Ok. I agreed to be a pen pal. I am not expecting anything since I have been dating other guys in my REAL life.

 

Then last week my boss told me he wanted me to travel to NYC, where this guy lives. I honestly NEVER PLANNED to have sex with this guy. I only wanted to meet him and talk to him, since he is an interesting, fun person. Perhaps kiss and makeout? Yeah. Sex? No. Sex leads to emotional involvement and since I don't want to be emotionally involved with a guy who lives miles away from me, I never wanted to have sex with him. But I know he was expecting sex.

 

Anyway, we were having a very nice conversation, he was sharing details about his family, sending me pictures of him with his siblings, talking about politics and economy... everything was amazing. Then we had this ridiculous conversation here:

 

Me: - Hey, I gotta tell you something... I am coming to NYC next month.

- That's very welcome news. Damn, I am really falling asleep (he had taken an overnight flight and he had told me already he was tired)

- You should get some rest, then

- Yeah... There's room for one in my bed right now. I could use a cuddle buddy right now.

- You're very daring for someone in a sleepwalking state, aren't you?

- Well.. In fact there's room for two more if you want to bring a friend ;)

 

Right when he said that, I was immediately turned off. Sounded so much something a horny frat boy would say. Pathetic. I told him "I knew you would say that one day, don't be a jerk" and he said "lol.. hilarious, newsflash - I'm a man!" Which could be the worst possible answer a man could give, and that only confirmed he is in fact a horndog.

 

The thing is... I don't want a guy who makes this type of jokes, I know jokes like these are usually not jokes and he is probably thinking I am looking for a hookup, thus testing waters to see if I would agree to have a threesome. I deleted his number, blocked him in Instagram and moved on. I have my standards and I am not meeting a guy like this.

 

Anyway... I AM NOT LOOKING FOR ADVICE. I have made my decision already. I wrote this because I told my friend about this and she said 'I think you should realize that in this Netflix and chill era guys usually say things like that and joke this way. You should lower your standards in this Netflix and chill era and be more forgiving".

 

Now... Really? So because guys are acting like horndogs I have to accept that and go on dates with men that don't make me feel comfortable?? Am I the one who's being demanding here? Am I too picky for looking for a polite, decent man who does not mention the possibility of having a threesome before even meeting me?

 

Am I the one who's wrong?

 

 

 

In a sense, you ARE the one who's wrong.

 

 

Such guys are like that because you keep allowing it to happen.

 

 

Forgetting the fact that once you (believed you) found (the new, New) Perry Mason on OK Cupid, you should have expected a giant flaw or lie...

 

 

The fact that you "knew he would say that one day" assures that you are either dishonest yourself, OR that you should have bailed-out from interacting with this guy long before you did.

 

 

The truth in all of this is that you were giddy with intrigue over this person despite the fact that you "knew he would (reference threesomes?) one day". And it is exactly because of that raw male state that you were riveted to this guy (for far too long).

 

 

PS - I've never watched Netflix in my life.

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Lawyers are known for their swelled heads and ego, so this doesn't surprise me in the least.

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GingerVixen Established Member

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In a sense, you ARE the one who's wrong.

 

 

Such guys are like that because you keep allowing it to happen.

 

 

Forgetting the fact that once you (believed you) found (the new, New) Perry Mason on OK Cupid, you should have expected a giant flaw or lie...

 

 

The fact that you "knew he would say that one day" assures that you are either dishonest yourself, OR that you should have bailed-out from interacting with this guy long before you did.

 

 

The truth in all of this is that you were giddy with intrigue over this person despite the fact that you "knew he would (reference threesomes?) one day". And it is exactly because of that raw male state that you were riveted to this guy (for far too long).

 

 

PS - I've never watched Netflix in my life.

 

I keep allowing this to happen? lol! Do you even know the other guys I talk to? Please don't generalize.

 

When I said "I knew you would say that one day" is that although he gave off very clear "womanizer-ish" vibes he had never, until that moment, treated me like a womanizer would do... Yes he would flirt but apart from thecocky jokes he was Nice to talk to.

 

However, since he gives off that vibe I was expecting that sooner or later the mask would fall off. But I tried not to label him. I tried to give him the Benefit of doubt. I try not to see people in a Black or white way.

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It's seems op is more interested in the guys supposed job than him lol.

 

It does seem odd that a famous famous attorney who is 32 and speaks to diplomats and politicians daily is on a free dating site and wasting time talking to girls that live far away lol.

 

Is this how women view men? Sort of like a job and possible status for them wrapped up in a male body?

 

Ok he is demeaning you. Lives far away. But is a famous attorney. I guess it balances out?

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It's seems op is more interested in the guys supposed job than him lol.

 

It does seem odd that a famous famous attorney who is 32 and speaks to diplomats and politicians daily is on a free dating site and wasting time talking to girls that live far away lol.

 

Is this how women view men? Sort of like a job and possible status for them wrapped up in a male body?

 

Ok he is demeaning you. Lives far away. But is a famous attorney. I guess it balances out?

 

I wont consider your offensive comment about me because you made that thread about sugar babies and it is clear you're OBSESSED with the idea. I guess someone ditched you for a sugar daddy? Well guess what not all women are interested in men's money.

 

I am not a good digger. I am not interested in his job. I like intelligent men and I was interested in HIM. If i was interested in his money I would have sex with him because after all I wasnt looking for an emotional connection or real feelings, just money. Who cares about respect when all you want from a man is money?

 

You should think twice before starting to gratuitously offend people in a board

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I wont consider your offensive comment about me because you made that thread about sugar babies and it is clear you're OBSESSED with the idea. I guess someone ditched you for a sugar daddy? Well guess what not all women are interested in men's money.

 

I am not a good digger. I am not interested in his job. I like intelligent men and I was interested in HIM. If i was interested in his money I would have sex with him because after all I wasnt looking for an emotional connection or real feelings, just money. Who cares about respect when all you want from a man is money?

 

You should think twice before starting to gratuitously offend people in a board

 

Sorry. I just noticed you must have pointed out how famous and successful he is in almost every post. I guess when guys post about a girl it is more about them, than their job.

 

Maybe find a guy who lives by you who isn't so famous and successful? Probably a higher chance he will treat you well.

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Sorry. I just noticed you must have pointed out how famous and successful he is in almost every post. I guess when guys post about a girl it is more about them, than their job.

 

Maybe find a guy who lives by you who isn't so famous and successful? Probably a higher chance he will treat you well.

 

Please don't assume that only because YOU THINK most women are interested in a men's job, that all women behave like your absurd assumptions.

 

I mentioned his job to give something about his background to the readers. So that they could understand the guy's attitude better. Many of them concluded he is arrogant because of his job and I agree.

 

You don't even know me to make these assumptions. imo and considering your other threads you are really immature. Try not to be so extremist.

 

And not all men who are rich and sucessful treat women badly. This is one more of your immature generalizations.

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What a wonderful start to the new year. No break for the weary. I'll close this and have moderation take a look at it.

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