guy93 Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 how can a poor guy compete with the guys who take a girl to dinner? what dates can replace that? I know money is not everything, but it is in my case with my problem of not making a good impression
PegNosePete Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 There are plenty of free or cheap things you can do together. 1
MoreAmore Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Make a picnic you made yourself for a local park Take her for a nice hike in a gorgeous locale Star watching winter: ice skating Discount days at museums Brewery tours Volunteering at a charity together - I did this for a first date and maybe it was just me but I loved it. Board games - if you find a locale to do it, or at home if you know each other well enough ahead of the date to know it's not a pretext for sex. The activity dates are your friend. They are cheaper or free and great bonding. Good weather helps, too. There's a premium for inside public places. It's definitely easier dating cheaply in the warm months. Things get easier as you know a woman, too - movies/dinner at home are cheaper than movies/dinner out. I dated a guy last year for a while who was having hard times and we had tons of activity dates. We went to his apartment the second date to try to cook a tricky recipe together and he did NOT try to push into intimacy (or I wouldn't have gone out with him again) and it was all wonderful. Cheaper dates certainly require creativity, and online might be harder for you because people are more stuck on a script. 2
Zippy2000 Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I had this issue when the credit cruch happened around 2007/2008 and money was tight. I d make dinner myself Took her out for a walk in the park/beach If you have access to a car I would take her out for a drive somewhere Look out for cheap deals on the net Not sure which part of the world you are from but I would use Loyalty cards We have "Groupon" internet half price deals here although not everyone would choose this for a date On rainy days have a cosy night in and get in popcorn or treats to a movie of her choice. Local Free open days in town Avoid "off peak" train times/book in advance for cheap deals Lots of other ideas but you can jazz them up or personalise them with yout own quirks if you like. 2
Snakechammah Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Cooking!! That's the best way to save money and still bond! My crush invited me to his place for our 3rd date. I thought he was going to create some kind of masterchef meal and all I needed to do was show up... but nooo... the slave driver that he is! He met me at the supermarket, where he picked out some basic items (veges, salmon, mushroom) and off we went to his place together. So the entire date was a cooking date. Basically, there I was in my tight bodycon dress thinking it was going to be romantic dinner with candles and sweet music - but instead I was perspiring in the kitchen peeling the damn onions! It turned out to be one of the best dates of my life. It was CHEAP to the max but the cooking and bonding were incredible! It also made me feel a little wifey and closer to him! It's always the company that matters! You can try this too, provided that your date isn't a princessy type, of course. 1
TheArtist Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Not that I'm cheap but going out for expensive dinners all the time aren't really my thing either. I love the closeness that naturally happens when you work together on something such as cooking. I've been on dates to museums before and they're always great, especially if you keep it lighthearted. Walks in the countryside, especially if your girl likes nature, are just ideal. You can take a packed lunch with you and admire the distant hills while you eat and laugh together. 1
No_Go Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Absolutely - my first BF was broke, but managed to take me out on very exciting dates for free! He knew all the street festivals, art galleries, hidden corners, beaches, lakes, walks in nature, even mundane things were fun with him. It is not about money but selection of dates. This guy turned to be an a**hole later, but I still remember with smile the adventures that we had together. how can a poor guy compete with the guys who take a girl to dinner? what dates can replace that? I know money is not everything, but it is in my case with my problem of not making a good impression 1
hasaquestion Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 First of all, if she is into you, the details of exactly what you do don't matter that much. And vice versa. So don't worry that much about the details. I would avoid hosting first or second dates at your own place unless necessary. Progression is an important element of dating. She's not close enough to you yet to come over. Activity dates are always a good idea. One thing to consider is whether or not there is something else to do around them. For example if you have a good time at the museum on a discount Saturday, can you take a walk together afterwards? Always plan a date with possible venue changes. It gives her an opportunity to let you lead her if she's having a great time. Dance lessons are a good activity date. Comedy shows as well. Got to keep an eye on Groupon and see what comes up. There are things to do you just have to look for them. I know a museum in the city I live in is free on certain days of the month if you have a BoA credit card. 1
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 how can a poor guy compete with the guys who take a girl to dinner? what dates can replace that? I know money is not everything, but it is in my case with my problem of not making a good impression Ask her out for a coffee, or ice cream in the park, or maybe just walking in the city. If she really enjoys your company a fancy dinner will mean nothing. And if she is only looking for guys who are willing to take her out on a dinner date, she's not worth it 1
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