Jc396 Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 Im 4 months out of a long term 5 year relationship so Im still in the awkward not knowing how to talk to guys phase. I met this guy Saturday night at a friends get together and we seemed to have a lot in common. I asked for his number and he gave it to me so i texted him my name so he will my number as well. After the party he texted me his name (which I already knew) and he told me goodnight (it was 3am) and i told him goodnight. He then continued to text me for about another hour then finally told me goodnight. I expected him to text me yesterday but he didn't. I don't really want a relationship but I'm open to get to know him even if its as friends. Should I initiate a text with him even i met him two days ago and don't even know for sure if he interested?
TaraMaiden2 Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 So... hang on.... you want to find out if 'he's interested' even though you really don't want a relationship....? Oh...Kay.... So, what do you want then? If you don't really want a relationship, don't text him. Why would you text him? If he's interested he will make the next move. If you hear nothing, then he's obviously NOT interested, and you've avoided the risk of a possible relationship issue. 1
brokengirl85 Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 Dont text him. You've already asked for his number (way more than I'd ever do with a guy because if he's interested, he'll ask for MY number)
Gaeta Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I don't really want a relationship but I'm open to get to know him even if its as friends. About your text him this ? ^ It doesn't matter if you text or not because ....you don't want a relationship anyway so there is no rules applying here.
Standard-Fare Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 Is this someone you'd definitely be running into again in the not-so-distant future? (via friends or whatever) If that's a yes, I'd say just hang back and see what, if anything, happens the next time you see this guy. But if you'd otherwise never see him again, what do you have to lose by texting him again? If you don't have the nerve to to suggest hanging out, you should text him something specific that warrants a response. So not something vague like "How's your day going? :)" but more like, a reference to something you know about him from talking at the party. Example: "Have you ever seen [such and such movie]? Just caught that on Netflix, I recommend it." Or "I'm going to be in your area this weekend with a friend, do you have any suggestions of a good bar?" (Okay, kind of lame examples but you get the point.) If he leaves you hanging, then you can assume he's not interested in taking things any further. Also relevant: He may have been drunk during those previous late-night texts, explaining why he was so talkative then but then dropped off.
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