How do you not surround your life around the one you Love?

[EC]

So a couple people have told me that I surround my life around my boyfriend. That I depend on him too much for my happiness.

 

Now I can see where it can seem that way and where in some cases they are right.

 

I think it might seem that way because its and LDR and so when he comes down to visit we are tied at the hip and we spend about every second together. But only because it would be about a month before we would see each other again. I think people forget that.

 

Also I believe since he is not here in my everyday life..I view him as my escape from my everyday. My relief. So its not 'him' exactly but what he represents to me. Its not that I idolize him or anything but he is my escape which is why I need 'him' so much.

 

I have friends, I go out, I work. Its not like I'm sitting constantly thinking about him and how we are not together or when we are going to be together. Its not even like that. I tried explaining this but they till said I surrounded my life and happiness around him?

 

And like my question said how do you not surround your life around your love?

[st8toftheheart]

Surrounding yourself around you love to me signifies that you need to be with them every minute of every day of everyweek forever in order to feel comeplete. No relationships beyond your own, not acitivties that don't involve each other. You are litterally one mind one body one soul. Although it sounds nice, its actually has alot of down sides too.

 

But that doesn't seem the case here. If you talk about your boyfriend alot when with people maybe that's what they think you're surrounding your life with yout love.

 

But if you go out and do things on your won, essentially continue to life your life as if it you were without a love, then the fact that when he comes into town and you want to spend every moment with him is completely normal.

[EC]

Surrounding yourself around you love to me signifies that you need to be with them every minute of every day of everyweek forever in order to feel comeplete. No relationships beyond your own, not acitivties that don't involve each other. You are litterally one mind one body one soul. Although it sounds nice, its actually has alot of down sides too.

 

But that doesn't seem the case here. If you talk about your boyfriend alot when with people maybe that's what they think you're surrounding your life with yout love.

 

But if you go out and do things on your won, essentially continue to life your life as if it you were without a love, then the fact that when he comes into town and you want to spend every moment with him is completely normal.

 

Exactly. I talk about him a lot because when i meet up with my Girlfriends all we talk about is relationships.

 

Or when I take days off I plan everything around when i can see him or I can't do that because hes coming down. Or I can't waste this money because I need to save it for when we meet up. But I mean thats only because hes far and I feel as if Yes I do have to Plan around him and him around me because of the distance. Not because I depend on him or NEED him to be happy or to feel complete.

[BrotherAaron]

Aw EC you're just overanalyzing all of this.

 

What you're doing is ensuring that you will be able to spend time with him. That's fine. It's normal to think about then one you love when they aren't around. You should be able to be a good judge of how much is too much. You have the most complete information on the matter.

[alphamale]

women usually tend to make their world revolve around their man. this is fine 'n dandy and quite normal.

 

for a man to make his world revolve around his woman is the kiss of death.

[Illusion24]

for a man to make his world revolve around his woman is the kiss of death.

 

How so Alpha...If love is love then what's the difference between the love 'from' a man and the love 'from' a woman???

[whichwayisup]

Originally posted by alphamale

women usually tend to make their world revolve around their man. this is fine 'n dandy and quite normal.

 

for a man to make his world revolve around his woman is the kiss of death.

 

Maybe for men like you Alpha, but there are MANY MEN who make their women be first in their lives and make their life around them. Can we say FAMILY?

[alphamale]

Originally posted by NeverSayNever

How so Alpha...

Ask COC...he'll tell u all about it.

[Illusion24]

Originally posted by alphamale

Ask COC...he'll tell u all about it.

 

I didn't ask him..I asked you ! I'm curious to see your answer

[alphamale]

Originally posted by NeverSayNever

I didn't ask him..I asked you ! I'm curious to see your answer

I've already written this a hundred times. You know my stance and philosophies and you also know what i meant.

[seahorse]

Originally posted by alphamale

women usually tend to make their world revolve around their man. this is fine 'n dandy and quite normal.

 

for a man to make his world revolve around his woman is the kiss of death.

 

I actually agree with you there Alpha (amazing eh?) but only on the second part. (see, knew there was a glitch somewhere).

 

My world doesn't revolve around my bf and I hope his doesn't revolve around me. We do see each other a bit more often than EC sees her bf though. People are much better as individuals who prefer to spend a fair bit of their spare time with one person, than joined as one and having no life of their own at any time.

[Naive]

I think that it's inevitable to have your life revolve around someone who you spend almost all your time with. I don't try to stop it, I just let it be. It does not necessarily have to be a BAD thing.