AT15 Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I want to move on emotionally from my ex, but I still love him. I've had contact with him. I don't reciprocate any of the "I miss u" statements. I do love feeling him tho. I don't know how to go no contact tho. Because, I just want to accept that he is not relationship material. But, my heart still loves him. He hasn't told me he still loves me. But, I feel he does. But, I don't know. I'm not confused. I just wish I didn't think about him non stop. I'm a good girlfriend. And I think another man woul/could give me so much more than what the ex could give. The ex says things like "I miss your support." Like... what? You miss sucking up my good energy? That's what you miss? I just think a man that loves you wants to give of himself. Add to your existence. But he is just thinking about how much I showed him love. It just sucks. I would like to be with someone who says " I miss making breakfast for you in the morning." Or "I miss watching sleep." But I miss how you supported me and made me believe in myself... That doesn't mean you love me.
K2z Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 Why not talk with him about your wishes and expectations? See if he steps up.
Shadowburn Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I want to move on emotionally from my ex, but I still love him. I've had contact with him. I don't reciprocate any of the "I miss u" statements. I do love feeling him tho. I don't know how to go no contact tho. Because, I just want to accept that he is not relationship material. But, my heart still loves him. He hasn't told me he still loves me. But, I feel he does. But, I don't know. I'm not confused. I just wish I didn't think about him non stop. I'm a good girlfriend. And I think another man woul/could give me so much more than what the ex could give. The ex says things like "I miss your support." Like... what? You miss sucking up my good energy? That's what you miss? I just think a man that loves you wants to give of himself. Add to your existence. But he is just thinking about how much I showed him love. It just sucks. I would like to be with someone who says " I miss making breakfast for you in the morning." Or "I miss watching sleep." But I miss how you supported me and made me believe in myself... That doesn't mean you love me. He sounds like a user. He misses what you were providing him and how you made him feel. You deserve better, and you are right to expect more. Can you ask him for NC? Say you need some space right now to concentrate on your own life. Looks like you know what to, he just prevents you from moving on by continuing to hang around.
CripplingMe Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 What's the background of your relationship? How long, ages, reasons for BU?
katiegrl Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 He misses your support means he misses the attention you gave him, and he misses your friendship. I wouldn't bother talking with him about this (to see if he steps up)....he is giving what he has in him to give (to you) and if he wanted to give you more...he would be! Asking for it isn't gonna make him want to give ... and you can't force someone to love you, the way you want them too. He either loves you and wants to give (all on his own) or he doesn't. And I would appear he doesn't (sorry). He misses your friendship....so if you're okay with simply being friends, and a shoulder for him to lean on....then continue contact. It doesn't sound like you are okay with that though....so if you were smart, you would walk away and try and find a guy who loves you the way you deserve to be loved.... Which isn't him. Again, sorry hun I know it's hard.... Good luck. hugs
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 If he really wanted you back, he would say "I need you. I want you back." He didn't say that. He said "I miss your support". Because that's what he misses. Your support. You were the good girlfriend. He doesn't love you. Move on.
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