NopeNah Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 But I can't.. From a 'man's man',this is hard to type,but I feel like I need to cry and can't? Almost to the point that I'm about to explode,wanting to cry(lil' bitch!). Instead I workout,beat the hell out of my punching bag,sleep with one night stands and drink..It's starting to really piss me off!
ScienceGal Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I am not sure what the situation is, but are you spending enough time alone? For me, I can bottle things up so much and I am so busy, that I often don't have the time to process my feelings, let alone cry. I also rely on other outlets, such as exercise. Eventually though, the tears will come. Best to give yourself the down time and alone time in order to let it come out.
BC1980 Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 But I can't.. From a 'man's man',this is hard to type,but I feel like I need to cry and can't? Almost to the point that I'm about to explode,wanting to cry(lil' bitch!). Instead I workout,beat the hell out of my punching bag,sleep with one night stands and drink..It's starting to really piss me off! Well, I'd say you got about half of it right. Exercise and a punching bag can be nice therapy, but I'd lay off the drinking. I don't see a problem with a one night stand if you leave it there. Anger is normal. You need to get it out somehow. Keep up with the exercise and punching bag, and, eventually, those feelings will become less and less.
Author NopeNah Posted December 28, 2015 Author Posted December 28, 2015 I am not sure what the situation is, but are you spending enough time alone? For me, I can bottle things up so much and I am so busy, that I often don't have the time to process my feelings, let alone cry. I also rely on other outlets, such as exercise. Eventually though, the tears will come. Best to give yourself the down time and alone time in order to let it come out. I took off from last Tuesday until after the 1st of the year.. I spent 10 days,alone(after a couple weeks partying),to process where I'm at in my head and came to nothing. I have a very busy work and social life,as well.. Just don't want to keep this feeling..I do not like it! It's the feeling of complete frustration.
privategal Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 Maybe its depression. Get a check up to be sure. Also if you have pushed down alot of thing's they don't actually get solved and are maybe coming up again as you didn't face the emotion. Its ok to cry. Lastly many people suffer from seasonal affective disorder this time of year. Try Vitamin D too! Hope you feel better!
K2z Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I totally get where you are coming from. If tears flowed as easily for us as they seem to do for women, we could discharge feelings much more easily. Instead, we have trained ourselves for a lifetime not to cry, and we don't have that pressure valve available to us as easily as it should be. The tears will come though, at some point. Don't force them.
BlueIris Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 But I can't.. From a 'man's man',this is hard to type,but I feel like I need to cry and can't? Almost to the point that I'm about to explode,wanting to cry(lil' bitch!). Instead I workout,beat the hell out of my punching bag,sleep with one night stands and drink..It's starting to really piss me off! I understand. Is there a movie or thought you can think of that might open the gates? Maybe look up a meditation on YouTube that could help you open to it? Sometimes rocking or bending over can help. People say, "shedding a tear," because it is a shedding, a great release. Back when I was a single mom and so overloaded and felt so alone, I watched a movie once that made me cry and then I just went with it. It felt so good afterwards, to just let go of the sadness, and to feel that it's ok to be sad. I hope you find your release, Praying4Daylight. It's ok to cry. I see it as strong to honor your feelings.
Chronotrgr Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I know the feeling, although since being with my ex, I have cried far more than I ever have in my life, I don't know if it was my feelings that overwhelmed me or the ex herself for never letting up during arguments, now that we have split up I cry here and there in little drabs but I feel like there's something inside me trying to push to the surface and I'm finding it hard to find the time alone to process it and let it out, I have a feeling I'm in for a tidal wave when I finally let loose.
SoThatHappened Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Let that stuff out man. I can probably count how many times I cried on one hand for 5 years. After my heart was ripped out, I held it in until I just broke down, sobbing like a "lil bitch." Felt a lot better. Punch the bag, lay off the booze, but first get that stuff out of you. It eats you from the inside out.
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