Calidude6 Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 (edited) I was out at the bars with my friends. We walked up to one bar and she was there in line with her sister and friends. As I walked by, I didn't give her any contact. I didn't stare or look. I guess I'm still mad at her for what she's done to me but I wanted to show I didn't care anymore or had no interest. Did I do the right thing? Once I got in the bar, the sister saw me but I kept walking and out of no where she pops up in my way of walking and I kind of bumped her with my shoulder. I didn't look back or say sorry. I think I should of at least said sorry as I didn't mean to but I wasn't trying to give her the time of the day. It still sucks how a good person like myself gets betrayed by the person you loved and cared about. I just don't get how she could do that and still show no care or act like I'm nothing and never was nothing to her. Maybe she is ashamed of herself or feel guilty. Anyways.....hope I did the right thing which I think I did. I didn't need to show her any contact. I don't know why I want this but all I want from her is to say sorry to me for what she's done. She was a great girl. Oh well.... Edited December 27, 2015 by Calidude6
Blanco Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Best idea in these situations is to briefly acknowledge her and move along. No need for chit-chat or big fake smiles and hugs. But totally ignoring her when you clearly saw her shows her that you're still wrapped up in this and harboring resentment. 4
Author Calidude6 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 Best idea in these situations is to briefly acknowledge her and move along. No need for chit-chat or big fake smiles and hugs. But totally ignoring her when you clearly saw her shows her that you're still wrapped up in this and harboring resentment. Main reason why I didn't acknowledge her was because last time we ran into each other. I said to her and her friends and she didn't even look at me or saying as if I was a nobody. I felt disrespected and it was in front of my mom too. She did say hi to my and hug her thought but what she did to me after our relationship was like a slap in the face. I kind of wish I gave her some eye contact but I just couldn't I guess.
Marc878 Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Treat her like the mailman. You know her but she's nothing to you.
Author Calidude6 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 I don't know why but apart of me wants to text her and say I'm sorry for bumping into her as I didn't mean to.
losangelena Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 I don't know why but apart of me wants to text her and say I'm sorry for bumping into her as I didn't mean to. Well of course. I mean, obviously it's natural to feel ambivalent about seeing exes. In the moment I'm sure it was easier/felt better to just avoid her, pretend you didn't see her, or not acknowledge her in any way. Now that you've had some time to reflect maybe you can judge your own behavior a little bit. OP I'd say just let it go. You were not at your best, but given what's come before that's understandable. I don't think texting her will alleviate much of anything. Y'all are exes for a reason. Sorry. 1
Author Calidude6 Posted December 28, 2015 Author Posted December 28, 2015 (edited) Well of course. I mean, obviously it's natural to feel ambivalent about seeing exes. In the moment I'm sure it was easier/felt better to just avoid her, pretend you didn't see her, or not acknowledge her in any way. Now that you've had some time to reflect maybe you can judge your own behavior a little bit. OP I'd say just let it go. You were not at your best, but given what's come before that's understandable. I don't think texting her will alleviate much of anything. Y'all are exes for a reason. Sorry. I meant physically bumped into her with my shoulder by accident. She came out of no where as I was walking and I tried to move to the side my shoulder bumped her lol. I just didn't want her to think I did that purpose because I didn't. I didn't even look back to say sorry, I just kept walking. Edited December 28, 2015 by Calidude6
BC1980 Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I meant physically bumped into her with my shoulder by accident. She came out of no where as I was walking and I tried to move to the side my shoulder bumped her lol. I just didn't want her to think I did that purpose because I didn't. I didn't even look back to say sorry, I just kept walking. I doubt she even cares or is still thinking about it. It would seem weirder to text an apology today. She might not even respond. These situations are always weird. It's just awkward for all involved. Leave it be. Taking will make it worse. 1
ScienceGal Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 When I ran into my ex we met eyes and both immediately looked away. Not even a smile or a nod. I was more taken by surprise and just panicked. You did what felt right to you in the moment, and that's totally fine. 2
losangelena Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I meant physically bumped into her with my shoulder by accident. She came out of no where as I was walking and I tried to move to the side my shoulder bumped her lol. I just didn't want her to think I did that purpose because I didn't. I didn't even look back to say sorry, I just kept walking. I know what you meant. I think it was a bit rude of you to bump her and not acknowledge her, but what I'm saying is that I don't think it would make much of a difference if you text her now.
casey.lives Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 i think you should forget about it. people reconcile with life all the time, on their own.
ScienceGal Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 Sorry, I forgot to add that I think you should let it go. No need to reach out now.
Gaby Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 You did right to ignore, its just somebody now not a friend or a lover anymore. Just another stranger that walks by you
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