LucidNightmare Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 So when we broke up my boyfriend told me he'd keep me on facebook so he could see how im doing without any contact. I guess he found out I was stalking his FB too much and blocked me, than unblocked me but didnt add me back as a friend . My guess is that it meant "chill out stop stalking me, or ill totally block u" Anyway I had a nice night out and posted pictures and made them public, so he still could see and he blocked me again. Was it a bad idea to post them publicly for him to see? Or is it a good thing so he can see how good im doing without him. My goal is to get him back. Oh and he still has our pictures together on his FB too.
Sar112 Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 I don't think posting the pictures was a mistake - it more than likely made him realise that seeing you getting on with life without him is difficult and that maybe he needs a bit of time himself without contact/looking at what it is you are doing. Try not to overthink and just get on with things as much as you can. Don't worry too much about not being friends on social media etc... if anything I would say it is a good thing. It means you can't 'stalk' him and find anything out that might upset you and in my experience it also means that him not knowing what you are doing will just make him all the more curious! My recent ex had blocked/unblocked me on his phone numerous times which in a way I suppose - goes to show their indecision re whether they want to talk to you or not. Not necessarily a bad sign.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 (edited) How could it possibly be a mistake to get on with your life and post if you like? You did nothing wrong. He's playing silly games with all this blocking/unblocking nonsense. Social media has added so much stress to already-difficult break-ups. I also don't see how he could know you've been visiting his profile a lot. For your own benefit, you shouldn't. Sooner or later you will probably see something you don't like and the wound will be ripped open again. I had an ex do this, and you know why? Because he'd started seeing someone new and was trying to hide it from me. I deleted him for good after that. Don't keep checking whether or not he has blocked you. You'll drive yourself crazy wondering what it means. Live your life and don't worry so much about what he thinks. Edited December 27, 2015 by ExpatInItaly
AspenBaldwin Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Block him and stop looking for validation from this so called person. 2
Strength in Healing Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 Your problem is from operating under the mindset that you want him back, and that that's even a possibility. I empathize with you, though, but that was your error. It's over. The chain has been severed. The greatest pain is facing that fact, and running towards it instead of away. You will heal and you will heal right. Ignore it and you'll be running forward, but facing backwards towards the past.
ExtraSpice Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I wouldn't say you made a mistake. You're moving on with your life, nothing wrong with that. As for him knowing that you stalk him too much, there are very few ways someone could find that out and they are not easy. So I don't think that is a possibility. The blocking and unblocking is probably his own indecisiveness. I agree with Strength in Healing regarding operating under the mindset that you want him back and whether that is even a possibility. Also if seeing your pictures gets him jealous and that is what makes him want you back then that is probably not a good restart of the relationship. Not the type of foundation you want. As difficult as it may be best to move forward with the mindset that that relationship is over. I know it is easier said than done. In the end you know yourself best, so make whatever decision you think will benefit you the most in the long term.
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 So when we broke up my boyfriend told me he'd keep me on facebook so he could see how im doing without any contact. I guess he found out I was stalking his FB too much and blocked me, than unblocked me but didnt add me back as a friend . My guess is that it meant "chill out stop stalking me, or ill totally block u" Anyway I had a nice night out and posted pictures and made them public, so he still could see and he blocked me again. Was it a bad idea to post them publicly for him to see? Or is it a good thing so he can see how good im doing without him. My goal is to get him back. Oh and he still has our pictures together on his FB too. How did he find out you were stalking his FB profile????
Stressed_26 Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 My recent ex had blocked/unblocked me on his phone numerous times which in a way I suppose - goes to show their indecision re whether they want to talk to you or not. Not necessarily a bad sign. How do you know without dialing if someone has unblocked you on their phone ? thanks
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