honeybunch2k5 Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 [font=century gothic][/font][color=blue][/color] What does it mean when your boyfriend no longer holds your hand? I mean, my boyfriend will hold my hand but only occasionally and I have to start it. When we first started dating he was much more affectionate. He wasn't all over me, but he'd hold my hand and kiss me much more often. I guess every now and then he'll give me a little Pda like touching my butt and resting his head on my shoulder. But I still feel like he's not quite as interested in me. How can I get my bf to be more affectionate out of bed again? The only time he even kisses me is maybe during sex. And even that's not as much fun anymore ( but it's still good). He never calls me except when he's horny and wants me to come over. He'll say such and such woman looks good but he rarely tells me I'm pretty. Every now and then he'll tell me I have a nice body. Even guys i don't know can tell me I'm pretty. Opinions? We've been together only 4 months. I wish I hadn't had sex w/ him otherwise I most likely wouldn't put up w/ this.
st8toftheheart Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 Originally posted by honeybunch2k5 We've been together only 4 months. I wish I hadn't had sex w/ him otherwise I most likely wouldn't put up w/ this. You answered your own question. Just because you had sex with him doesn't mean you are chained to him and have to stop being you and having your needs met. Talk to him, and if he doesn't change leave him.
RecordProducer Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 It sounds like he is not madly in love with you, but you also don't sound like you're too much in love with him. His affection meant a lot to you and now that the honeymoon's over your vanity is broken. If you're not happy with him, don't date him. He might become more affectionate if he sees that other guys desire you and compliment you. Wear sexy clothes and flirt innocently with guys to wake up the hunter in him. He will appreciate his toy more if he sees that other kids want it too. You sound very young. Touching is not the only thing that proves love.
lil_country_cowgirl Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 flirt with other guys to get his attention, if he still doesnt pay much attention to u lose tha jackass
noname Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 be honest with him and tell him about your needs. everybody is different, he might not be a hand holder, but he held your hand in the beginning because you wanted him to, and he is now settling back into his comfort zone. i grew up in a family that didn't touch and hug and kiss and all that stuff, and as a result i am not really touchy feely. doesn't mean i love any less, i just didn't realize how much it means to some women because i long to be touched myself. it is all relative, because my woman grew up with all sorts of affection, but she touches very little herself. my point is that sometimes you have to bring certain things to peoples attention in order for them to get it. flirting with other guys will most likely make more problems than you are ready to deal with...
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