Lymphocyte Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 (edited) So i met this girl a few months ago while we were both out drinking. We hit it off that night, but not much more happened. And we were both fairly drunk that night. We go to the same university so after that i kept bumping into her, i'd try establishing eye contact with her. But i felt that she wasn't that into it so i kinda forgot about her. Then some time after we kinda just started locking eyes one day. This continued for a while, then it became "hi"s. I added her on facebook. Eventuelly we got into a short conversation, which lead to me asking her out for the first time. She kindly rejected and said she had other plans. Then i asked her out one more time shortly after that, this time she agreed. We went for a walk and talked the entire date as if we were old friends. It went well. Couple of days after that i asked her out again, this time she also agreed. We went out for a drink. After talking for a couple of hours. We went for a walk, in which we ended up at her place (she lead us there). We talked some more, then we kissed, talked some more, kissed, cuddled. Suddenly it had gotten pretty late (and she had to get up early the next day). She asked me if i would like to stay the night, i said yes. We end up in bed, start making out, dry humping. We do this on and off for a while, she start saying something about that she wasn't planning on having sex, i get the impression that she really want to have sex, its just that she know she shouldn't. I tell her i am a virgin, she responds with "Then i don't think we should have sex tonight". We make out, and dry hump some more. We went a little further than what i think either of us had expected that night. Finally we end up sleeping. Next morning we cuddle a little, then she has to go. I give her a short kiss goodbye. It ends there. We are now both home for christmas, but we are from the same area. I've asked her out two times after that night, this was in the week or so before she has kindly declined both times. Saying that she had other plans, but she never makes it clear that she doesn't want to, it's just that she has got other plans. She always returns my texts and answer in full, always with a smiley. And my impression is that she is a girl that make a lot of plans, and often has a lot of stuff to do. And i tend to ask the day before which i have realized might be a little short notice. The other day i randomly ran into her while i was meeting some friends, in which she greeted me, and she also initiated a hug, even though i sat kinda akwardly. We exchanged a few words, kinda akwardly, we were both taken with some suprise i guess. I text very little, since it makes "reading people" way much harder. So the only times i usually send her something is when i ask her out. And text/chat wise she also takes very little (read none) initiative, i have initiated all dates, though she is very fourthcoming in planning and executing them when we first agree on something. I don't have much experience with dating, so i am not sure what to make out of this. She is an pretty extroverted girl, who in person seems fairly uncomplicated. Now, neither of us has the time to meet before some time in the new year. I kinda like her, but i don't know where i stand with her. And i don't really want to chase something that will lead nowhere. What do you guys think? Now i wonder, is it weird/bad to have 2-3 weeks of practically no communication when you are dating someone? I dont know what to text her if i were to try to keep things "happening". This forum seems to have a lot of good advice, so i thought i'd give you guys a shot. Thanks. Edited December 27, 2015 by Lymphocyte Wrong in title.
Snakechammah Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 You know, some girls may prefer their men to have more experience than them, so you being a virgin may not sit well with *some* girls. How old are you both? Is this your first love or something? You have so much to look forward to and such inconvenience in love seems pretty minor to what you're about to experience after uni!! Don't worry too much about her hot-and-cold attitude. Focus on your studies, your future, your career and after you've made tons of money, many girls will queue up for your attention. As for now, just enjoy dating, don't put so many eggs into one basket/girl. 1
Author Lymphocyte Posted December 28, 2015 Author Posted December 28, 2015 Yeah, i know, i am reaching an age which more and more girls start having problems with just that. We're both 23. Not first love, not sure if i feel that strongly for her (not yet, at least), but i like her. In the past i've had some issues with being assertive, and expressing my feelings, which has lead me to quite a few lost oppurtinities. That being said, it always seems so long between each time i actually meet someone i would consider an romantic interest. I probably meet too few women.
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