LookAtThisPOst Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 I was at an event the other night, a picnic area at night and a lot of my friends showed up and their friends friend. Like a dozen people. I was able to point out the couples (some I already knew were couples), but you can usually tell someone is a couple by when they show PDA at some point. And I'm not talking about kissing or making out, but some type of cuddling or hand holding. These two, they totally looked platonic. Even though they sat next to each other, they never showed ANY kind of affection to each other whatsoever. They maintained their buffer between each other. They never even made much eye contact. They don't live together either. That said can it be surmised they are LIKELY not to be a couple based on that? When I was getting to know her, she never referred to him as "boyfriend' in any fashion or context. I didn't outright ask "Hey, is that your boyfriend or friend?" Didn't want to ask in front of him either.
d0nnivain Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Maybe they are a new couple. Maybe they just aren't demonstrative. Of course you can ask for clarification but do so graciously. If their relationship is working for them, let it be.
xxoo Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Why do you need to know their status as a couple? It's personal between the two of them. 4
GemmaUK Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Maybe like your title says they were a couple who don't like PDA? It's up to them isn't it? I also don't quite understand why you would need to know if they were a couple but if there was a particular need for some reason then you should probably have just asked. 1
losangelena Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 I got the sense that maybe he wanted to ask the woman out? Maybe not. 1
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 (edited) I got the sense that maybe he wanted to ask the woman out? Maybe not. Well, I kind of thought she was interested as she was rather initiating the "getting to know you" process. I was letting her lead the conversation. So this was rather an exceptional situation. Just got me thinking, so I'm finding out through a good friend of mine that knows her. Was trying to gauge her availability as she also lived rather local to me and whoever she was with lived pretty far from her. Edited December 27, 2015 by LookAtThisPOst
anika99 Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Maybe they argued shortly before arriving and then put on their happy faces for others even though there was still tension between them.
losangelena Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 I'd say it's virtually impossible to know. Some couples just aren't that affectionate, or yeah what anika said, maybe they had a recent fight. When my ex and I were together, I felt almost more comfortable initiating conversations with guys because there was no pressure/expectation, because I was with someone. Maybe she struck up a conversation to be friendly. Based on what you've written, it sounds quite inconclusive.
GemmaUK Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Well, I kind of thought she was interested as she was rather initiating the "getting to know you" process. I was letting her lead the conversation. So this was rather an exceptional situation. Just got me thinking, so I'm finding out through a good friend of mine that knows her. Was trying to gauge her availability as she also lived rather local to me and whoever she was with lived pretty far from her. Was she flirting or just being sociable?
newmoon Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 maybe they are a couple with an open relationship. and by showing less affection in public or at parties it means they can be open to others approaching them, or in approaching others. who knows these days:confused:
CrystalCastles Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Why is this any of your business? I don't like doing PDA. My relationship is very private to me and I'm not very demonstrative. It doesn't mean I value my partners any less than someone who is all over their boyfriend in public. One of my close friends is like that too. People have different ideas about what is ok and what they are comfortable with, there's no right or wrong way to do it.
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 I can't understand why the way couples act in public could possibly be any of your business - but if your question is actually : "I am interested in this woman and I can't tell by the way she acted whether that guy is her boyfriend or not" - the answer is to just ask her out. She'll either say yes or no. If she has a boyfriend she might tell you that, or just say no. That's all YOU need to know. 1
preraph Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 If she'd been flirting, she'd have been demonstrative to YOU and touching and obvious flirty stuff. Sounds like she was just making small talk to me, like you're supposed to do with everyone at a party. Many couples do not touch in public. And if she's that way and you're not, why would you even be interested??
Akashsingh Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I generally dont like PDA. So it depends on the people.
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