shurtugal93 Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Does this guy like me? Let's call him X. The first time I met him was when I joined the band club at my college (in Japan) and the club went for dinner. He asked our mutual friend "Hey, who's she?" so he was told I grew up in the US (I'm Asian-American) so he started teasing me in English. I got to be friends with his friends, and that day, they asked me who my favorite Japanese actor is. I said "A". Then one of his friends said "Hey, doesn't X kinda look like A?" then X said "Yeah, yeah!! I'm A!!" TWICE in English. The next time I met him was when the club went drinking. We made each other drink. Then he suddenly said "Stop drinking, any more than this will be bad for you." but I was like "It's ok, I can still walk properly" and then stood up. But there was a bag on the floor so I tripped. He caught me so I ended up on top of him and his hand got scratched. That day some other guy asked me "Do you have a boyfriend?" but I'm in a stage where I think I don't love him anymore, so I said "uuuuuh yeah but I'm not sure if I like him or not." X heard this. Anyways, even after I stopped drinking, we sat at the same table and he kept on drinking and got extremely drunk. He literally collapsed and said "I'm A... Do you wanna f*ck me..." but I dunno, I guess he wasn't in his right mind? I merely replied "not yet." The next time the club went drinking, I was talking about comics with X's friend. X suddenly said (in English) "you like comics?" and then his friend asked me who's my fave character. I said "Okita" who is a character from a historical comic book. Then X was like "Okita's actually my ancestor!!" That day everyone was drinking, and one of X's friends was joking around and saying "f*ck you~~" to me, then X said the same thing to me in a joke-ish manner. I was slightly drunk so I was like "what, you want to f*ck me?" But then X looked beside me. There was a male alumni who is a very violent prankster and who dislikes me. After seeing that guy, X said "...no" Then, he whispered to me: "It's kinda dangerous here right now!" I still don't get this. Does he maybe think that dangerous guy was gonna force us to have sex? Or maybe if he likes me he was scared everyone else in the club was gonna find out? Later on, our mutual friend said "last time we went drinking you guys got super drunk and were on top of each other~" and then X replied "I saved this girl~ my hand still hurts though haha" That day, when we were sitting alone at a table, X could barely talk to me for some reason.. We message each other sometimes but it's usually only when we need to. I reply quite late because I'm so busy, but for some reason his replies are extremely fast (mostly within 5 minutes) and he uses English on purpose. But he doesn't ask me questions. He does send me emoticons; like, when I said "I'm glad I have a friend who loves movies" he sent me an emoticon of a happy person playing the drums, and when I said "Do your best for the concert!" he sent me an emoticon with a happy flying cat. At the live concert a week ago, our eyes met more than before. Even at the dinner party that night, he was sitting next to me even though he could have sat farther away. He accidentally put his hand on mine so we both got really surprised. That day, there was a member who rarely comes, and he asked X who I am. X murmured something to him, like "she grew up in America, she speaks five languages" and he said a lot more but I couldn't hear. I asked the member "What did he say?" and the member said "He says you're really pretty, that you're magnificent" so I think I kinda blushed. Seeing my reaction, the member said to X "Hmm, but like seeing that, blabla (couldn't hear)" When we were going back home, I got on the train with X and a mutual friend (male) who also grew up in the US. I was talking with him, then X suddenly said "you guys suck at Japanese~~" in a joke-ish manner. Then the three of us were talking until our mutual friend got off. Then both of us couldn't talk very much. But because X had said that day that he wasn't feeling well, I tapped his back and said "Take care!" before getting off the train. The next day, I messaged him "How are you feeling?" and he replied (in English, again) "I'm fine, thank you~" So I said "glad to hear that" and he was like "Merci!" (he knows I speak French) 4 days ago, there was another live concert. When he was on the stage, our eyes met several times. It was the kind of live you watch standing wherever you want, and when he wasn't on stage, he watched the live while standing right next to me, TWICE. He couldn't seem to talk to me directly except for saying hi, but when his friend started teasing me, he came along and did the same. When we were going back home, we had to get on opposite trains, and for some reason, he was looking at me from afar, just before I left. On Christmas Day, I sent "merry Christmas" and he replied to me. So I sent back "What're you doing today~?" and he was like "I'm at the Hogwarts attraction with my gf" and sent me a photo of the Hogwarts castle. I thought it would not be nice if I kept messaging him while he's on a date so I only replied back 3 times. But the weird thing is his replies were all within 2 minutes... (the gf isn't in our club) Is this guy interested in me? I seriously don't understand him. I can only see him when the band club meets so I dunno what to do, any suggestions on how to act?
ExpatInItaly Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 I think he's attracted to you but knows you're not single. And apparently he isn't either. So don't do anything. Or, break up with your boyfriend and let him know you're single. Not much else you can do.
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