luvflower Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 I do think most people stay in their relationships for various reasons, not just one. And the reasons are probably not always just, ,"he/she's so kind ". There are real life issues that do need to be considered. E.g., some men who have children make sure that the woman he dates/marries is good with children or at least his children. But they may also stay together because they compliment one another in many ways like personality, incomes and social habits... Another poster mentioned she has her own money... Ok that's great. Lots of women have their own money, but it's nice to have someone who compliments that and doesn't get intimidated by that, not use you for it and doesn't take your financial independence as you " not needing him to take charge ". I personally prefer a (worthy) man who does take charge, no matter how much money in making. So I think finances is a real issue in relationships. If it wasn't, so many couples wouldn't have discord over it. 1
Author surferchic Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 I do think most people stay in their relationships for various reasons, not just one. And the reasons are probably not always just, ,"he/she's so kind ". There are real life issues that do need to be considered. E.g., some men who have children make sure that the woman he dates/marries is good with children or at least his children. But they may also stay together because they compliment one another in many ways like personality, incomes and social habits... Another poster mentioned she has her own money... Ok that's great. Lots of women have their own money, but it's nice to have someone who compliments that and doesn't get intimidated by that, not use you for it and doesn't take your financial independence as you " not needing him to take charge ". I personally prefer a (worthy) man who does take charge, no matter how much money in making. So I think finances is a real issue in relationships. If it wasn't, so many couples wouldn't have discord over it. Yeah, I agree with this. My ex was take charge, but it became so intense that it thought that it was supposed to keep me in check to the point where I had no "voice" often times.
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