DontBreakEven Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 (Just so no confusion, this is a same-sex dating scenario, so pardon the pronouns .. but obviously can be used in any type of dating situation.) Been talking to someone for a short time now, and every couple days she will say stuff in texts about other girls. Like, she will be at the gym, and we will be going back and forth on text and joking with each other and having our typically good conversation, and then out of the blue she will be like "OMG. The front desk girl just hit on me. I think she likes me. I've been trying to figure out if she is straight." Or, she has this friend, M, and she seems to try to make me jealous of M. Saying stuff like, "Going to the club tonight with M and some friends. I hope I don't follow her around like a lost puppy all night." I finally got so annoyed with it all that I just started replying back that she should really go for it with M. Like, life is too short, why not go for it? She didn't pick up on my sarcasm and responded "I think she likes me". Wtf is going on here ??
d0nnivain Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 She's either trying to make you jealous, clueless that you like her, clueless that her actions hurt you or she's trying to let you down gently. Alas, I think you will have to bite the bullet & ask her which it is.
Ic1 Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Does she know you like her? Would she expect an open relationship? (If it ever got there). I'd try playing the same card to her once to get her reaction, or lack of it. It's possible she just likes the ego boost of thinking someone has a crush on her. But there's a red flag as well.
Gaeta Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 This is her way to friendzone you. She doesn't like you 'that way'. You will have to come out with your feelings if you want to change the dynamic of your relationship. 1
Popsicle Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Ugh. Annoying. I'd say that you are chatting/texting too much. People who enjoy the friendzone (being in it or putting you in it) love to chat. I'd do less chatting with her and get together with her in person more. If you can't do that, then just leave her alone and move on. She's too immature and into games.
bluefeather Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Sounds like she is playing around with you.. leading you on.. keeping you close enough to be useful, but not close enough to anything committing. Or she is trying to inch you towards a threesome/open-style relationship. The first one is unkind and the second would be an immature attempt, save from just talking to you about it. You sound immature too by telling her to just go for it. If you want her, tell her you want her. If you try to play back like that, you go into her game, and you might loose.
oberkeat Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 (Just so no confusion, this is a same-sex dating scenario, so pardon the pronouns .. but obviously can be used in any type of dating situation.) Been talking to someone for a short time now, and every couple days she will say stuff in texts about other girls. Like, she will be at the gym, and we will be going back and forth on text and joking with each other and having our typically good conversation, and then out of the blue she will be like "OMG. The front desk girl just hit on me. I think she likes me. I've been trying to figure out if she is straight." Or, she has this friend, M, and she seems to try to make me jealous of M. Saying stuff like, "Going to the club tonight with M and some friends. I hope I don't follow her around like a lost puppy all night." I finally got so annoyed with it all that I just started replying back that she should really go for it with M. Like, life is too short, why not go for it? She didn't pick up on my sarcasm and responded "I think she likes me". Wtf is going on here ?? I disagree with blue feather; I don't think this girl is up to anything sinister. It really sounds like she just views you as a friend. She may have no clue that you like her romantically, or she may suspect it and is not interested. Hard to say which without talking to her about it. If you're unable or unwilling to just be friends with her, you need to talk to her about taking things to the next level. Guessing or waiting for her to make a move isn't working.
bluefeather Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 It really sounds like she just views you as a friend. She may have no clue that you like her romantically... The title of the thread is "Comments about other girls while dating" so I assume they are romantically involved.
oberkeat Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 The title of the thread is "Comments about other girls while dating" so I assume they are romantically involved. Reading OP's post, it's really unclear. OP needs to clarify that.
Author DontBreakEven Posted December 28, 2015 Author Posted December 28, 2015 Sorry I wasn't clear. We have been talking for 2 weeks. Haven't even gone on a date yet. Date is this weekend
kassy Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I wouldn't. Date a guy who texted me like this before we went on a date... I don't know what's going on but whatever it is it sounds like drama
bluefeather Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 Sorry I wasn't clear. We have been talking for 2 weeks. Haven't even gone on a date yet. Date is this weekend :facepalm: Then I retract pretty much everything I said...
ExpatInItaly Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 Hm. Who asked who for the date? It sounds like she either is using an immature way to show you she's desirable, or she isn't so interested in you romantically. I'd be cautious moving forward. I wouldn't bother going on a date with a guy who did that.
ZA Dater Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 (Just so no confusion, this is a same-sex dating scenario, so pardon the pronouns .. but obviously can be used in any type of dating situation.) Been talking to someone for a short time now, and every couple days she will say stuff in texts about other girls. Like, she will be at the gym, and we will be going back and forth on text and joking with each other and having our typically good conversation, and then out of the blue she will be like "OMG. The front desk girl just hit on me. I think she likes me. I've been trying to figure out if she is straight." Or, she has this friend, M, and she seems to try to make me jealous of M. Saying stuff like, "Going to the club tonight with M and some friends. I hope I don't follow her around like a lost puppy all night." I finally got so annoyed with it all that I just started replying back that she should really go for it with M. Like, life is too short, why not go for it? She didn't pick up on my sarcasm and responded "I think she likes me". Wtf is going on here ?? Seems rather tasteless to me to comment on other people in front of your date.
smackie9 Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 You are not dating so she can make any kind of comment she wants. Her behavior should be telling you clearly she is only interested in casual not looking for a relationship.
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