LuckyxGuapa Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 I have been dating this guy for 4 months. At first, he couldn't get enough of me and would ring and text me all the time. We saw each other 2/3 times a week. A few weeks ago, I went on holiday for a week and saw him the night I got home. The morning after, it was like he went to bed that night and woke up a completely different person. He started being distant, and would hardly initiate any texts or ring me. We still saw each other, but it felt hard work to get him to agree. One night I was round and I started to talk to him about what was going on, and I became quite upset. He said he had just been busy at work, but he still wanted to date me. That Saturday we went out for drinks where he said "seeing you upset the other night hit home how much I like you... And I never want to lose you". A few weeks after that he started to become distant again, so I confronted him over what was happening. He said he didn't know what he wanted and wasn't sure if he was ready to be in a relationship, and maybe we are better off as friends. I said I would give him space but then he started sulking and said he still wanted me to text him. I was so confused. Ever since, things have just gone bad to worse. I never hear from him and then feel stupid for reaching out. He rang me last week where he said "your welcome round mine anytime", and we made arrangements to see each other the following Wednesday. I went round and we spoke about what was going on, and finally got some sense out of him. He said that he didn't feel a spark between us and couldn't picture a future together with me. I was devastated, but held it together. He said he still wanted to be friends and would hope to see me again, BUT I would have to be the one to ask him, as he "doesn't miss me enough to get the urge to see me or text me " I thanked him for his honesty and said there was nothing else left say. I asked him to delete my number and we would go our separate ways. He started asking why it was so final, and "we can still text each other like hey how you doing, and your always welcome round here anytime". So I reminded him that he had just told me he doesn't get a big enough urge to speak to me or see me, I'm not going to be the one to text him all the time , cause that makes me feel stupid and he has to want to see me too, so what's the point. He didn't really have an answer. He text me yesterday saying "merry Christmas beautiful xxx". I'm just so confused. It's all mind games. I don't know whether to just go no contact, work on myself and hope I forget him and move on
xcupid Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Go NC. It's over. He said there's no spark. Believe him.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 It's already over. Don't set yourself up to Plan B for when he gets lonely and wants affection. He was crystal clear that there's no future together. Go No Contact and forget him.
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