Slbreaux Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Hanging with this guy who was way more into me than I him, but I just got divorced and it was fun, nothing serious. He persists to ask me out every day and text as well as sext multiple times a day. We hung out with his family, and met each other's kids. I began to act a tiny bit interested and it all changed. No more asking me out on dates and begging me to come over. Barely any texting at all. I'm not heart broken or anything just so dang confused as to what happened. Any thoughts?
oberkeat Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Hanging with this guy who was way more into me than I him, but I just got divorced and it was fun, nothing serious. He persists to ask me out every day and text as well as sext multiple times a day. We hung out with his family, and met each other's kids. I began to act a tiny bit interested and it all changed. No more asking me out on dates and begging me to come over. Barely any texting at all. I'm not heart broken or anything just so dang confused as to what happened. Any thoughts? Did you ever actually have sex with him? You didn't mention that part. If not, well then he probably got tired of being teased and decided to quit wasting his time. 3
Author Slbreaux Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 We did sleep together very early on however I was extremly drunk and don't quite remember. And the Persuing and him actually wanting to "take me on a real date" in his words, began to be more frequent and the texting became more intimate and meaningful. He would always talk about wether or not I was sleeping w anyone, and say good he was not either, things like that. I
xcupid Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Did you show any interest of being more than a FWB? If not, maybe he was looking for something more serious and you weren't showing enough interest and he felt he was wasting his time. 1
Redhead14 Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Hanging with this guy who was way more into me than I him, but I just got divorced and it was fun, nothing serious. He persists to ask me out every day and text as well as sext multiple times a day. We hung out with his family, and met each other's kids. I began to act a tiny bit interested and it all changed. No more asking me out on dates and begging me to come over. Barely any texting at all. I'm not heart broken or anything just so dang confused as to what happened. Any thoughts? Why worry about it? It was FWB. That's all he wanted and all you thought you wanted. You started getting more invested and he sensed it. He's a good guy, actually. Keep moving. Figure yourself out now that you are single and what you want for yourself. Don't have sex with men for a while because now you know that does create a bond for women regardless of how "cool" they think they are or want to be. You've just come through a divorce . . . give yourself some time.
smackie9 Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Why are you asking us???? Confront him about it, only he knows.
Author Slbreaux Posted December 29, 2015 Author Posted December 29, 2015 Did you show any interest of being more than a FWB? If not, maybe he was looking for something more serious and you weren't showing enough interest and he felt he was wasting his time. After him constantly asking what I wanted from him, and wether I was sleeping with anyone else, and some good times hanging out I did tell him that I was beginning to feel a bit.... It seems that is when it all changed!, I gave him what he wanted and he pulled away hard.. No more continued sexting and trying to get me to come over, just a few meet ups, and so I finally told him forget what I said, let's just go back to being friends... When I did tell him how I felt, he said he wanted to continue to get to know each other and keep having fun.... However it's just different and his attitude has made me cRe less however I'm so confused
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Hanging with this guy who was way more into me than I him, but I just got divorced and it was fun, nothing serious. He persists to ask me out every day and text as well as sext multiple times a day. We hung out with his family, and met each other's kids. I began to act a tiny bit interested and it all changed. No more asking me out on dates and begging me to come over. Barely any texting at all. I'm not heart broken or anything just so dang confused as to what happened. Any thoughts? So you have been having sex with him for how long?? And how long has he been acting weird? Are you still having sex with him?
GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 After him constantly asking what I wanted from him, and wether I was sleeping with anyone else, and some good times hanging out I did tell him that I was beginning to feel a bit.... It seems that is when it all changed!, I gave him what he wanted and he pulled away hard.. No more continued sexting and trying to get me to come over, just a few meet ups, and so I finally told him forget what I said, let's just go back to being friends... When I did tell him how I felt, he said he wanted to continue to get to know each other and keep having fun.... However it's just different and his attitude has made me cRe less however I'm so confused He knows you started to have feelings for him. Most guys know that MOST WOMEN don't handle very well this whole "friends with benefits" thing. When they realize you're expecting more that they are willing to give you, they pull away. If he's pulling back, just mirror his attitude and pull back as well. 1
frus69 Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Thoughts are he's back with his ex Or has chosen the other woman ( whom you don't know existed the whole time)
Author Slbreaux Posted January 1, 2016 Author Posted January 1, 2016 Turns out pulling away actually worked, and the situation seems to be back to normal, whatever normal is. I feel it's all a game and for now I'm winning... He did lead me on, but he also taught me some dos and don'ts of the whole dating game. I'm way out of practice and need to definitely not be tied to one man.... All men are so different and I think playing the field is the perfect spot for me to be in right now!
ExpatInItaly Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Maybe you're not the only woman in the picture. Be careful moving forward
phineas Posted January 1, 2016 Posted January 1, 2016 Why don't you grow up & stop playing games. Honestly I can't understand why a man would chase or even continue to spend time with a woman who slept with him once then stopped. Nobody "wins" in these situations you know.
Author Slbreaux Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 Well this has all been very helpful.
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