Terry8889 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 5 years ago I met this guy in college, he was 19 I was 22, after a few months of dating I moved in with him, not bc we were crazy in love and trying to start a family but there were other reasons. Anyways, we lived together for about 8-9 months until he broke up with me bc he said he felt that he was still a kid and he didn't want to be tied down to anybody yet, he wanted to explore whats out there, etc. I was devastated bc I had no family to run to or move in with at the time. So even after the break up I had to stay with him and sleep in the same bed for about a month until I found somewhere to rent. During that time he kept reminding me that I had to leave the place or he was gonna move out. I thought that was mean but I had to suck it up bc as I said I had nowhere to run to as soon as he broke up with me. Anyway, I eventually moved out, moved on with my life, dated other people, etc. I recently found out that he got married this year bc I have one of his relatives on social media, it kinda bothered me at first but then I let it go it. Now 5 years later, and for the past 6 months he had occasionally sent me messages with random conversations not leading to anything specific until Thanksgiving week when he asked what I was doing that weekend and I said I was gonna be busy with some stuff and why he was asking, he said bc he was gonna come to my area and wanted to see if I was gonna be around, so in my mind I was like WTH? is he gonna try to introduce me to his wife or something? I told him that I knew he was now married and that I didn't want any involvement with a married man nor even as friends, to what he said He understood. and that was the end of the convo. I mean chatting on social media is okay but meeting is another level. What do you guys think? I have no idea what his intentions are. Is it normal to introduce your wife to your ex? or was he just trying to meet me for something else. Any opinions or similar stories?
oberkeat Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 5 years ago I met this guy in college, he was 19 I was 22, after a few months of dating I moved in with him, not bc we were crazy in love and trying to start a family but there were other reasons. Anyways, we lived together for about 8-9 months until he broke up with me bc he said he felt that he was still a kid and he didn't want to be tied down to anybody yet, he wanted to explore whats out there, etc. I was devastated bc I had no family to run to or move in with at the time. So even after the break up I had to stay with him and sleep in the same bed for about a month until I found somewhere to rent. During that time he kept reminding me that I had to leave the place or he was gonna move out. I thought that was mean but I had to suck it up bc as I said I had nowhere to run to as soon as he broke up with me. Anyway, I eventually moved out, moved on with my life, dated other people, etc. I recently found out that he got married this year bc I have one of his relatives on social media, it kinda bothered me at first but then I let it go it. Now 5 years later, and for the past 6 months he had occasionally sent me messages with random conversations not leading to anything specific until Thanksgiving week when he asked what I was doing that weekend and I said I was gonna be busy with some stuff and why he was asking, he said bc he was gonna come to my area and wanted to see if I was gonna be around, so in my mind I was like WTH? is he gonna try to introduce me to his wife or something? I told him that I knew he was now married and that I didn't want any involvement with a married man nor even as friends, to what he said He understood.and that was the end of the convo. I mean chatting on social media is okay but meeting is another level. What do you guys think? I have no idea what his intentions are. Is it normal to introduce your wife to your ex? or was he just trying to meet me for something else. Any opinions or similar stories? Don't be naive: he's obviously looking for sex outside his marriage. Unless you're comfortable with being a side chick, or you're one of those women who likes unavailable men, you should probably stop talking to him. 3
losangelena Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Don't be naive: he's obviously looking for sex outside his marriage. Unless you're comfortable with being a side chick, or you're one of those women who likes unavailable men, you should probably stop talking to him. I agree with this. Keep a wide berth of this guy.
Author Terry8889 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 When we were dating I met one of his exes. I mean he didn't introduce me to her. We just happen to see her in the college cafeteria and we all sat together for lunch. I obviously did not know who she was that day I thought she was just a friend but weeks later he said that was his ex. I was like wow really if I would have known I would have felt very awkward sitting to have lunch with her. That is why I have doubts about his real intentions now that he is contacting me. I mean I do believe he might want sex but bc of this past event I describe I wonder if his intention is to introduce me to his wife and so we can all be friends LMAO idkkk
Amalyn Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Is it normal to introduce your wife to your ex? No. It's not normal and I would proceed with caution. Maybe not even proceed at all.
losangelena Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 When we were dating I met one of his exes. I mean he didn't introduce me to her. We just happen to see her in the college cafeteria and we all sat together for lunch. I obviously did not know who she was that day I thought she was just a friend but weeks later he said that was his ex. I was like wow really if I would have known I would have felt very awkward sitting to have lunch with her. That is why I have doubts about his real intentions now that he is contacting me. I mean I do believe he might want sex but bc of this past event I describe I wonder if his intention is to introduce me to his wife and so we can all be friends LMAO idkkk I wouldn't worry about what is exact intentions are. Are you actually friends? Did you go to his wedding? If not, then decline his offer and don't worry about it. 1
Author Terry8889 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 I wouldn't worry about what is exact intentions are. Are you actually friends? Did you go to his wedding? If not, then decline his offer and don't worry about it. Noo we are not friends, I didn't go to his wedding. I deleted him off my social media 3 times during this 5 years but he kept adding me again. So now after this long he suddenly wants to see me even though he is married? I mean I don't really want to see him again anyway but I am just curious about real his intentions.
Author Terry8889 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 His intentions? You know he doesn't have good intentions for a married man! No need to communicate with him at all!!! yeah I guess you guys are right
mortensorchid Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 He wants his ego stroked because he married this other woman and wants to know the one who got away is still panting after him and will give in if he should want to do so. 1
Author Terry8889 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 He wants his ego stroked because he married this other woman and wants to know the one who got away is still panting after him and will give in if he should want to do so. I didn't think about that, it could be it. You are right he probably wants to see if I give in and if I still pant after him, so he can have some fun outside of his marriage or wants to have his ego stroked. I wonder if he has marriage issues and that is why he is doing this. No good man who is happily married and respects his wife talks to his ex and tries to meet with her.
Popsicle Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 You handled it well. Stick to what you said, and no, he didn't want to introduce you to his wife. He wanted an affair. 1
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