GlobeTrotter9 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 (edited) Hi, So to cut a long story short - my girlfriend of three years broke up with me on very short notice a few weeks ago and I've been struggling greatly since. Since we broke up a girl from my home town (I currently live abroad) has been talking to me almost daily and has just been great to me throughout this whole ordeal. At the time I didn't think much of it apart from her just being nice but I came home for christmas a few days ago and we met up. I think its quite clear she likes me and she stayed over at my house that night. We just cuddled and watched films all night but all the signs were there that we could have gone further and now I don't know what to do! She's a lovely girl and when I'm talking to her and hanging out I suddenly feel ok about everything thats happend lately. But at the same time I know that I'm definitely not ready for a new relationship yet as I'm nowhere near over my ex and I still live abroad. I don't want to hurt this girls feelings in any ways and I've never had any experiences like this before. What should I do?! Edited December 26, 2015 by GlobeTrotter9
justanotherguy1 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 She sounds like a really nice girl and the fact that she can make you feel better when you are at a difficult point in life says alot. A lot of people would say for u to take it slow since you just got out of something, i would say the same, but you never know how good something might me unless you take a risk. My advice, give it a go. And think with the big head and positive emotions. If she treats you well and makes you feel good. Thats all you need to know to help make your decision.
Author GlobeTrotter9 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 Yeah she's been amazing to me these last few weeks. We never used to talk that much when I was still living back at home but I feel like I've really got to know her these last few weeks. A big part of me is saying what you're suggesting and just go for it but theres a small little bit at the back of my mind that keeps hesitating. I don't want to rush into anything and hurt both of us if it doesn't work out. My ex broke my heart and I know what it feels like to be put in a position like that. The whole living abroad thing makes it more complicated too.
justanotherguy1 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Are you permanantly living abroad. And for how long. I think thats really the only major problem. a relationship needs that time together and the closeness. especially for young people, well as far as i have seen.
Author GlobeTrotter9 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 I'm studying for my masters now and will be qualifying here too so the chances of me moving back again anytime soon now are extremely slim. I understand what you mean though, I don't think I could do long distance.
allofme Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 I think you should think twice before doing anything. She is a nice girl and she certainly made you feel good. Sometimes immediately after a break up, we can mistaken this warm feeling with affection. I'm sure we've all been there. And more importantly it's gonna be long distance. I think you should draw the line before she gets hurt.
justanotherguy1 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 It would be very hard for you to carry a ldr And like you said the chances of u coming back are slim. Sit down and talk to her, doesnt reallg seem like it would reach far but atleast you could have a close friend and who knows maybe you fuys might hook up for the night. All the best in your studies. Take care .
Heartbrokenguy80 Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Hi, So to cut a long story short - my girlfriend of three years broke up with me on very short notice a few weeks ago and I've been struggling greatly since. Since we broke up a girl from my home town (I currently live abroad) has been talking to me almost daily and has just been great to me throughout this whole ordeal. At the time I didn't think much of it apart from her just being nice but I came home for christmas a few days ago and we met up. I think its quite clear she likes me and she stayed over at my house that night. We just cuddled and watched films all night but all the signs were there that we could have gone further and now I don't know what to do! She's a lovely girl and when I'm talking to her and hanging out I suddenly feel ok about everything thats happend lately. But at the same time I know that I'm definitely not ready for a new relationship yet as I'm nowhere near over my ex and I still live abroad. I don't want to hurt this girls feelings in any ways and I've never had any experiences like this before. What should I do?! Do not go into a rship when ur ex is still in ur mind. I will hurt urself and her. Especially a sweet girl like her. U wouldn't want her to go through what u went through right. Take time. You can go out with her as a friend but not too close to make her misunderstand
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