justanotherguy1 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 I dont like thinking bout this relationship sometimes, because i feel i waste my time for something that wasnt the best thing. Someone talk some sense into me. We were together for almost 3 years. college relationship. things were up and down but ultimately a good relationship. This year she said she didnt love me no more. basically she didnt want this anymore, so me being a bitch lol, cried and begged, tried so hard to make it work but wasnt happenning. so i left it went nc, she dropped breadcrumbs now and then, droopped hints in geting back together when i asked her if she wanted to she said no. Not why im writing this though. She really didnt do much for me, i mean she was there and we talked every single day. But she never made a substansial effort or any real risks for me, never went out of her way for me and i was a walk over. when we could not see each other she nnever made an attemp to see me, never real called or anything i did everything, and i did it because at that time things were hard for her and i was being the other shoulder very well. We never even had sex or anything, things supposed to open up this year more i wouldve met her parents and stuff but she decided otherwise. Im no relationship expert so im asking you guys who have been in relationships and actually had that love and support. Was i even in a relationship? I dont think so. and i wanna get over this more quickly because it wasnt worth wild. For me its the first time i actually had someone, someone to talk to, to listen and just share things with. And i get the feeling that its because of that i was blindsighted and put her 1st. Ive been dealing wih depression all my life and life has never been easy but im taking it day by day and trying my best. She never really supported me, at work or at school, i felt so sad, i even broke down sometimes and she was never there and i dont know why i was such a fool to stay. so many more things i left out but this is the jist of it. I want to hear your opinions guys. I know its gonna do me alot of good. AND MERRY CHRISTMAS
Captivating Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Hi Justanother-AWESOME-guy, Merry Christmas! You know it sound like you did everything you supposed to for her and the relationship. She has never put herself out there, making any efforts for you, showing her love, devotion, affection, caring towards you. You guys didn't even have sex. She is either socially retarded, unable to function in a relationship. Or she didn't love you but enjoyed your attention taking advantage of your feelings. Either way she is a mess. Sadly, it was a one way street. You really seem to be a wonderful guy, you are sweet, emotionally rich, very analytical. You have a good head on your shoulders If I were you I wouldn't communicate with her anymore, AT ALL, she had her chance. She only wants an ego boost from you it seems like. The best prediction for future behavior is past behavior. She did zero effort so far. I doubt she has changed One day she will realize what she did. Get out there and start dating again !!! Keep an open mind but be somewhat picky when it comes to personality, pick someone who is similar to you. Sweet, caring and affectionate. You will be fine, don't worry Keep us posted! 1
Author justanotherguy1 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 Hey thank you for the reply. Lol doesn't seem like too much people are interested. But thank you. I really appreciate it. And you are 100% right, I thought when things opened up we would've been better but she didn't care, or even love me to the extent to just be a friend when I needed one. Hurts sometimes to think how I let myself be treated. Wish I knew better.
Captivating Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 You have just posted this thread today, so I believe others will join too. You know, when we are in love with someone we tend to not see major red flags We all have been through this, so don't worry, you are not alone. You get wiser with each relationship. Watch this video,it's interesting :
Captivating Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Your thread is on the top of the list, right under the first two automated ones, maybe people cant's see it. Maybe you could ask the system administrator to move it to the middle of the list of the first page ??
Author justanotherguy1 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 Tat was a really good video thank you. Everything the guy said was true. We get so caught up with someone we stop seeing them as a person and who they really are. thats what happenned to me and i got blinded by love or just the idea of having someone.
Author justanotherguy1 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 Your thread is on the top of the list, right under the first two automated ones, maybe people cant's see it. Maybe you could ask the system administrator to move it to the middle of the list of the first page ?? Thats ok. I was just hoping to get some opinions from other people her who have had relationships and experience. kinda help guide me and think straight.
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