KittyKat67 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 (edited) or birthday wishes from a so called bff EVER. The reason in the past I never really said anything was because I was so depressed in my earlier years and she always made me feel loved when we talked, very nurturing friend. However, its starting to grate on my nerves that I remember every birthday of heres, and sent her a Christmas card. Also every time we talk, she hogs the conversation and then as to go, she always has to be the first one to say she has to go, its weird. She even liked the christmas pic I posted on facebook yesterday christmas, but never said merry christmas. She does have 3 teenage kids that she says she is too busy alot to really talk a long time. Hello, your kids are teenagers, they don't need you to superise them 24/7. Am I being too sensitive? I have known her for 15 years. She never has been one to wish anyone anytning even her own immediate family, so I just figured thats her. The part that is irritating is that she gloates when she gets gifts but never buys anyone ANYTHING. She says birthdays are not a sign of how much you love or like someone, but she threw herself a bday party before. so it does matter. **I will add, we got into a huge fight we did not talk for 5 years. We just got back into eachotehrs lives last year, and up to about a month ago, talked to eachother every day even if it was brief. NO merr christmas, that was just so uncaring, I swear. Edited December 26, 2015 by KittyKat67
newmoon Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 you can't hold people to your standards or you'll end up disappointed every time. just because you say happy b-day or merry christmas doesn't mean everyone will, even a close friend. just because you give gifts and show gratitude it doesn't mean others do, or will. i've had many people in my life like that as well, and eventually i release them from my life. it's mis-matched values and people are just different. if you don't like her, break off the friendship again. 1
preraph Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 I'm not saying everyone with kids is like this because they're not. My friend with kids is making time (although in the coming week) for us to get together for Christmas. But a lot of women, once they have kids, they just put everyone else way down the priority list and many times abandon them altogether. They are busy, though probably no busier than many of the rest of us, and they just don't care as much anymore. Also, lots of parents, once they're parents, decide "Christmas is only for kids," so just be glad she's not expecting you to gift all her kids without her gifting you in return, because there are plenty who do take that attitude. I call them ex-friends.
whichwayisup Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Focus on the bigger picture here rather than one or two days when she hasn't said happy bday or merry xmas. Your friendship is tender and new since starting it over again recently so just try not to over react and put expectations on her. you know she's one not to spend money on others, she is very busy with 3 teens and even though the contact isn't as much as you'd like it to be, she's still in your life as a friend. Accept her and her flaws, nobody is perfect.
basil67 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Wow, people actually get bent out of shape over this stuff? I'd better lift my game.
Author KittyKat67 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 Focus on the bigger picture here rather than one or two days when she hasn't said happy bday or merry xmas. Your friendship is tender and new since starting it over again recently so just try not to over react and put expectations on her. you know she's one not to spend money on others, she is very busy with 3 teens and even though the contact isn't as much as you'd like it to be, she's still in your life as a friend. Accept her and her flaws, nobody is perfect. true, good point thanks for the perspective 1
Author KittyKat67 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 Wow, people actually get bent out of shape over this stuff? I'd better lift my game. to the sky..lol:rolleyes:
Author KittyKat67 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 Focus on the bigger picture here rather than one or two days when she hasn't said happy bday or merry xmas. Your friendship is tender and new since starting it over again recently so just try not to over react and put expectations on her. you know she's one not to spend money on others, she is very busy with 3 teens and even though the contact isn't as much as you'd like it to be, she's still in your life as a friend. Accept her and her flaws, nobody is perfect. so true thanks 1
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