Britney25 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 So I'm kinda bummed. The guy I went out with 2 times so far because we are long distance and been intimate with but no sex hasn't texted me Merry Christmas at all. I didn't either because I thought he's the Man right....well is it a bad sign? Am I over reacting?
Amalyn Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 This is 2015. Text him Merry Christmas first.
soph-walker Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 So I'm kinda bummed. The guy I went out with 2 times so far because we are long distance and been intimate with but no sex hasn't texted me Merry Christmas at all. I didn't either because I thought he's the Man right....well is it a bad sign? Am I over reacting? I would text him, you've got nothing to lose. On the flip side, guy I went on one date with and haven't heard from since, actually texted me saying Merry Christmas (and nothing else?!) - I don't get this! If you do text him, I would say more than merry Christmas as the text I received was nice but it's not really opened much dialogue- I would ask a fairly casual open question if it was me?
Author Britney25 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 I would text him, you've got nothing to lose. On the flip side, guy I went on one date with and haven't heard from since, actually texted me saying Merry Christmas (and nothing else?!) - I don't get this! If you do text him, I would say more than merry Christmas as the text I received was nice but it's not really opened much dialogue- I would ask a fairly casual open question if it was me? Wow that is different. Not sure either what that means. Yes but I feel if I text him now its kinds too late cuz its the 26th and I don't want to make him think damn I didn't wish her but yet she's so thinking about me. I mean I like the guy but doesn't it speak volumes he didn't wish me first? Not even on social media.
Author Britney25 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 Well, just text him. See if he responds. I feel like its too late now..
Fuerza Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Awman don't expect guys to approach you all the time, especially for something stupid like this. If you want to wish him a merry christmas, from a kind hearted stand point than just do it! I've taken the initiative as well with some guys I had contact with, who cares who says it first. Men can be busy lol. You can still send him a belated merry christmas and ask how the last holidays went or something.
Author Britney25 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 Awman don't expect guys to approach you all the time, especially for something stupid like this. If you want to wish him a merry christmas, from a kind hearted stand point than just do it! I've taken the initiative as well with some guys I had contact with, who cares who says it first. Men can be busy lol. You can still send him a belated merry christmas and ask how the last holidays went or something. Yeah but the thing is all the other guys that want me took the time to actually send me a merry Christmas text and from him nothing...the actual guy I care about. So that's why I'm confused? It seems he doesn't care enough to do it you know
Glass Hut Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Yeah but the thing is all the other guys that want me took the time to actually send me a merry Christmas text and from him nothing...the actual guy I care about. So that's why I'm confused? It seems he doesn't care enough to do it you know If he had texted you Merry Christmas, he wouldn't have been the one you care about, he would have been one of all the other guys. So it's a good thing he didn't, apparently.
Amalyn Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Why not text him and ask him if he had a good Christmas?
Author Britney25 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 If he had texted you Merry Christmas, he wouldn't have been the one you care about, he would have been one of all the other guys. So it's a good thing he didn't, apparently. So he's playing a game?
soph-walker Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 If he had texted you Merry Christmas, he wouldn't have been the one you care about, he would have been one of all the other guys. So it's a good thing he didn't, apparently. I'm not sure I would read too much into a seasonal wishes kind of text, it's nice though to receive it, but I definitely wouldn't hesitate to drop a quick text...
Author Britney25 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 I'm not sure I would read too much into a seasonal wishes kind of text, it's nice though to receive it, but I definitely wouldn't hesitate to drop a quick text... You mean as the guy? Or I should text the message? Or just wait for happy New Year text now haha
soph-walker Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Wow that is different. Not sure either what that means. Yes but I feel if I text him now its kinds too late cuz its the 26th and I don't want to make him think damn I didn't wish her but yet she's so thinking about me. I mean I like the guy but doesn't it speak volumes he didn't wish me first? Not even on social media. I'm guessing he was drunk when he texted me. Strange! OP, A few years ago I would have been quite rigid in my way of seeing his lack of texting, but being a little older and wiser (haha) I now realise guys don't always behave in the way we would expect or even like them to, and also that there's nothing wrong with that. And also if you think you may have a shot with someone, there are subtle ways to let them know you are thinking of them
soph-walker Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Wow that is different. Not sure either what that means. Yes but I feel if I text him now its kinds too late cuz its the 26th and I don't want to make him think damn I didn't wish her but yet she's so thinking about me. I mean I like the guy but doesn't it speak volumes he didn't wish me first? Not even on social media. You mean as the guy? Or I should text the message? Or just wait for happy New Year text now haha Sorry, I meant if I had received texts saying merry Christmas from guys, I wouldn't read too much into it, I would think 'oh that's nice' and not a whole lot more. I had that reaction from the guy that texted me. I think what I was trying to put across generally was that if you want to text him, you should do but leave the message with something he can reply to..a question or something.
Author Britney25 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 I'm guessing he was drunk when he texted me. Strange! OP, A few years ago I would have been quite rigid in my way of seeing his lack of texting, but being a little older and wiser (haha) I now realise guys don't always behave in the way we would expect or even like them to, and also that there's nothing wrong with that. And also if you think you may have a shot with someone, there are subtle ways to let them know you are thinking of them Thing is he doesn't initiate a lot of texts with me..hes active on my social media liking and commenting....last time I sent him a flirty text he got back to me one week later BTW.
katiegrl Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 (edited) This is 2015. Text him Merry Christmas first. I am fairly certain women were always sending Christmas wishes to the men they liked ..this isn't something new or progressive. Except the texting part. Hell, my mom pursued my dad for heaven's sake, she was the one who proposed marriage! I have no doubt she was the first to send Merry Christmas wishes. She chased him! And got him! This was back in the 60's! There was no texting, but women would bake cookies, make a nice dinner, etc to show her interest. Things have not really changed as much as we think ...except that some women believe the man has to chase her and do all the work...lest he is stringing her along or playing her ....which belief is very wrong IMO. Edited December 26, 2015 by katiegrl
Xiomn Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 last time I sent him a flirty text he got back to me one week later BTW. .......and he is interested in you, you think? I'm not seeing it.
soph-walker Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Thing is he doesn't initiate a lot of texts with me..hes active on my social media liking and commenting....last time I sent him a flirty text he got back to me one week later BTW. There could be a hundred reasons why he didn't get back to you after a week. I would say though, I think if you have shown your keen mess for a guy and he doesn't reciprocate or act on it then I would say he's not that interested. If you're not sure at all, I would ask him if he wants to hang out (suggest a day and time)- if he says he can't do that and doesn't come up with another day he may be free then it's time to let him sail down the river. If he point blank doesn't reply to your message, then you know he is not interested at all
Author Britney25 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 There could be a hundred reasons why he didn't get back to you after a week. I would say though, I think if you have shown your keen mess for a guy and he doesn't reciprocate or act on it then I would say he's not that interested. If you're not sure at all, I would ask him if he wants to hang out (suggest a day and time)- if he says he can't do that and doesn't come up with another day he may be free then it's time to let him sail down the river. If he point blank doesn't reply to your message, then you know he is not interested at all Thing is he lives in another state. OK so why is he following me on instagram , he likes my photos too. Does he want me only for fun , casual time? BTW thanks for your advice
Author Britney25 Posted December 27, 2015 Author Posted December 27, 2015 .......and he is interested in you, you think? I'm not seeing it. OK then why get back to me anyway?
Xiomn Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 (edited) OK then why get back to me anyway? You sound like me in a thread I created entitled 'Starting to wonder whether she is truly interested in me or not' I used to say that a lot.. turns out she wasn't interested. instead it was why continue to accept dates. If he was interested he would have texted within 24 hours, 1 week? lol...............no. Edited December 27, 2015 by Xiomn
soph-walker Posted December 27, 2015 Posted December 27, 2015 Thing is he lives in another state. OK so why is he following me on instagram , he likes my photos too. Does he want me only for fun , casual time? BTW thanks for your advice I wouldn't get hung up on the fact he follows you on Instagram, on paper/in real life that doesn't mean anything. Don't mistake 'internet' activity for 'interest'. Unless he's contacting you to ask when he can see you again, he's probably not worth wasting thoughts on.
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