The crazy and sometimes hurtful things MW/MM say..add yours to the list and comment!

[Crazyninja]

Quick intro 6 months into A with MW who's older/kids/ass of a husband.

Was stressed and paranoid and all the other crazy emotions with it but I think I'm past that... We will see perhaps is a good day?

 

Feel free to Comment or add your MW/MM idiotic comments and your thoughts and feelings...

 

After all someone else's perspective is always a good idea and id be interested if they all take the same crap...

 

1. My husband is irrelevant (umm no he's not if he was you would leave)

2. I love you (can't love two people at the same time)

3. I can't wait to marry you. (So you can cheat and have an affair on me?)

4. One day we will be together (wake up?)

5. I'm stuck because of the kids. (Excuse, kids hurt more from horrid relationships, your just cake eating)

 

 

I'll post as they come in I guess...

[oceansaway]

1. I wish things were different. (They could if you wanted them to be)

2. I love you (they'll say anything to keep ya around)

3. Your the only one I want (really...who are you with everyday..not me)

4. I can't be without you (I guess we will see if that's true)

5. I miss you (If you did...you'd be with me)

6. I can't wait to see you (Weeks go by)

7. Without you my life is dead (again...we'll see)

 

Get out while you can and spare yourself heartache. They all live a lie everyday to their spouse and to you. Would you really want that if she was yours???? You could never trust her. I know that now from my exMM.

 

Wishing you the best

[Crazyninja]

Funny enough I've heard all that and more! And my replies are similar to yours.

 

But still It's hard to leave than what people think...

[lemondrop21]

"You can have fulfilling relationships with two people [at once]."

 

How "fulfilling" for those two who are sharing you.

[Crazyninja]

Just got this one...in reply to me asking if I was missed:

 

It's been really really hard.... I'm used to you around, meeting for a quick cuppa, ringing, for a little chat.... I love all of that! I think it's been easier for me the last few days than you because I'm surrounded by people and always distracted! I miss you and I can't wait to see you! Xxx

 

 

Anyone have a take on it?

 

Mine is : because I have others I don't really need you around until people are not here?

 

Any other ideas ?

[oceansaway]

Just got this one...in reply to me asking if I was missed:

 

It's been really really hard.... I'm used to you around, meeting for a quick cuppa, ringing, for a little chat.... I love all of that! I think it's been easier for me the last few days than you because I'm surrounded by people and always distracted! I miss you and I can't wait to see you! Xxx

 

 

Anyone have a take on it?

 

Mine is : because I have others I don't really need you around until people are not here?

 

 

 

Any other ideas ?

 

Your reading that correctly! It seems to me that when they are busy and distracted by whatever/whomever....they are fine. Until reality sets back in and they are back to their boring regular day to day life is when they think/need you/us. Makes you kinda feel used (in my opinion)

[Poppy47]

1. I wish things were different. (They could if you wanted them to be)

2. I love you (they'll say anything to keep ya around)

3. Your the only one I want (really...who are you with everyday..not me)

4. I can't be without you (I guess we will see if that's true)

5. I miss you (If you did...you'd be with me)

6. I can't wait to see you (Weeks go by)

7. Without you my life is dead (again...we'll see)

 

Get out while you can and spare yourself heartache. They all live a lie everyday to their spouse and to you. Would you really want that if she was yours???? You could never trust her. I know that now from my exMM.

 

Wishing you the best

 

My feeling is that MM/MW are capable of believing what they say themselves

 

Poppy.

[compassion42]

It's cheaper to keep her (way to damage my self worth...and burst my bubble of what a great person you are)

[Buccaneer55]

Mine is a little different because in my situation she is separated but he's currently in town from another country.

 

I just want you, me, and my kid as a family (Then why aren't we?)

 

He's cheated on me and it was a physically,emotionally, and mentally abusive relationship. (Then why are you spending every day and night with him, why have you only talked to me once in an entire week)

[Dela]

oh, something me and MM talked about few weeks ago and i got the answer

 

"you are not disposable" !!!

 

oh wow... turns out i am

[Crazyninja]

Here's a good one....from MW

 

 

"I'm being nice and civil to him because it's Anything for an easy life...."

 

And

 

"I'm sorry your in a crap situation I didn't mean for this to happy"

 

Well why the hell are you having an affair with a younger man!

 

And change something so I'm not! Like leave your unhappy marriage or tell me to go away

 

 

I do find it fascinating how we know the responses to reply with but how many of you actually say your responses to your MM/MW?

 

I haven't yet .... Starting to lose enough patience to open my mouth though so who knows

[compassion42]

I am wanting to express some of these things to MM but my " always be nice" personality usually prevents me from saying how I really feel.

[JacksBack]

got one yesterday...

 

"I wish you could come to" = OMG, whatever you do, do not show up

[Crazyninja]

I know what you mean all ways nice.... Just incase you say something wrong and they change there mind about you or you think it will sway there decision to choose you or not!

 

I'm calling it doormat mode... As we let them walk all over us emotionally !

 

but still doesn't stop us from being nice haha

[xxoo]

Here's a good one....from MW

 

 

"I'm being nice and civil to him because it's Anything for an easy life...."

 

And

 

"I'm sorry your in a crap situation I didn't mean for this to happy"

 

Well why the hell are you having an affair with a younger man!

 

And change something so I'm not! Like leave your unhappy marriage or tell me to go away

 

 

 

Because she's selfish. She's not going to change the situation that suits her best (intact marriage plus you on the side).

[Brokenlady]

1. Don't finish me off, my wife wants to give me oral when I get home.

 

2. I want to perform oral on you and then give my wife a big kiss when I go home.

 

3. Right after we had sex he met his wife at his church to teach marriage classes to people wanting to get married in the church.

 

4. You don't understand, divorce will ruin my kids lives.

 

5. I had to tell my xW the engagement ring I bought you is a friendship ring. And it's your fault she found out about it so I'm going to sleep over at her house tonight to calm her down.

 

I could go on, but I already feel like that's enough vomit worthy things that should've prevented me from marrying this clown after his divorce. And he's no better now that I divorced him- he flips through our wedding album with his girlfriend. Seriously, Ick.

[Brokenlady]

"You can have fulfilling relationships with two people [at once]."

 

How "fulfilling" for those two who are sharing you.

 

They don't care about that. Selfishness abounds.

[xxoo]

1. Don't finish me off, my wife wants to give me oral when I get home.

 

2. I want to perform oral on you and then give my wife a big kiss when I go home.

 

3. Right after we had sex he met his wife at his church to teach marriage classes to people wanting to get married in the church.

 

4. You don't understand, divorce will ruin my kids lives.

 

5. I had to tell my xW the engagement ring I bought you is a friendship ring. And it's your fault she found out about it so I'm going to sleep over at her house tonight to calm her down.

 

I could go on, but I already feel like that's enough vomit worthy things that should've prevented me from marrying this clown after his divorce. And he's no better now that I divorced him- he flips through our wedding album with his girlfriend. Seriously, Ick.

 

Ewww! It sounds like he has a kink for cheating, and he's pretty upfront about it

[pacific_vibrations]

1. you hurt me so bad when you started dating _____ (HELLO, you're married)

2. so if you're gonna see other people, that means i'm single too (HELLO, you're married)

3. come up with an excuse for me to tell BW so i can come visit you

4. BW insisted i take her phone and call you and try to get you back (found out he just stole her phone to get around me blocking him)

 

and so many more..

[Adoraxx]

1. "I'm soooo crazy about my W!! ... But I'm crazy about you too."

2. "I will come see you SOON!!!" (Months go by and nothing to be seen)

3. "I miss you so much!! Hope to see you SOON!!" (Ditto)

4. "Hm... I only miss you sometimes. Sometimes I miss you but when I'm with my W and children, I don't miss you at all."

5. "It's nice and quiet when I don't hear from you."

6. "I don't want No Contact! I WILL come see you!!!" (not true)

[winterkeep]

Well there was the "If you didn't have some idea then you aren't as intelligent as I thought" comment when I discovered he was married.

 

But the worst by far was his trying to lure me back in with messages on what great parents we'd have made, how perfect our child would have been and how we'd have been together if I'd have had it after the termination he wanted me to have that I was still grieving from.

 

There are more but that stands out the most and upsets me again just writing it so I think I'll stop.

[LimeBlue]

- "Am I trading one for another"

- "I don't know if you are a trade up"

- "I am moving out in a month" (This was in Oct)

- "I will by moved out by end of Jan" (Already the 5th and he has not even looked for a place)

- "I want to live life and I am not sure where you fit in to that"

- "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" (Then continues his happy married life)

- "I love you" (Wish I could believe this but I do not)

- "I want to move out but I cannot abandon my wife"