Demonica Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Hi loveshack! I've got a big problem here ( I do have to start out by saying that I love his mom and she's the sweetest person ever my problem is only with my bf. Background: long distance relationship; me (22) him (26); dating: 6 months+ We have a very loving relationship but due to our busy work schedules and the 4 hour time difference (im ahead 4 hours) we don't talk much some days.. But whether or not we are together he makes time to call his mother and sometimes have a long chat even when he is visiting me (he lives 2 hrs from his parents currently). My main issue is that he's the type of person who if he tells one person about his day (always his mom) he'll go into full detail and when it comes time to talk to me on the phone or text he will just be very vague because he's said before that he's too lazy to repeat what he's said to his mom so he just lets his mom tell his dad what he said lol An example of our convo: Me: hey how was ur day? (Btw his mom doesnt even have to ask him he'll just tell her everything right away) Him: just was busy at work like always wbu? That's the gist of it and I dunno I haven't felt comfortable enough to bring this topic up with Him as its his mother and I rly like her but I just feel left out and its Rly making it hard for me to connect with him when I know im not getting the full scoop lol if that makes any sense I think communication is Rly important and I feel like he's been lazy with me. Anyways thank you for reading sorry if it was so long!! Any advice are welcome thank you!!!
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 Any advice are welcome thank you! Get a closer boyfriend. Whether that's him or someone new, doesn't matter.
kendahke Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 1. He's had 22 years, the first 18 of them daily in-person interaction, with her compared to 6 months long distance with you. Big huge difference in familiarity. 2. Have you two ever seen each other or spent time with one another for longer than a month in person or has this all taken place over phone/skype/texting, etc.? My advice is to find someone closer with whom you have daily in-person interaction with. It's his prerogative to go into detail about his day with his mom and to not re-hash the whole thing with you. This really isn't a relationship--it's more electronic pen pals. 4 hours is pretty much on opposite sides of a continent. Connection can only go so far before beginning to lose interest.
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