Left or right? Or delete the whole app?

[The Way I Am]

So I decided to try Tinder this evening even tho every person I know who uses online dating seems like they've had their soul sucked out of them by it.

 

It's been about and hour and I got 4 matches and 2 notices that said someone super liked me or whatever it's called.

 

 

This is kind of a dumb thing to ask, but I'm not sure what to do for the 2nd super like.

 

 

To get it out of the way, I fully admit that I'm somewhat shallow and have maybe impossible standards. But I also have no qualms with being alone the rest of my life even if I prefer not to - so those aren't going to change.

 

 

The guy's not bad looking, but there's nothing in his photos that draws me to him. Physically, he's almost my type but not quite. I like wirey thin to slightly muscular guys with thick dark brown or red hair. He's just a bit heavier than I'm attracted to, has red hair, and is a bit balding.

 

 

I do like that his profile admits that he likes geeky things, because that's the type of guy I like. And he looks like maybe he's got one of those personalities that makes him more attractive than physicality alone.

 

 

Logically, I think the answer is to swipe right, give it a shot and see if anything works out. But I don't want to because I have a lot of anxiety about disappointing or hurting people. Even the guys who I thought were hot I don't really want to talk to, because I don't want to have to reject them if I'm not into them. Or have to deal with the stress if I end up liking them more than they like me. And it's so much less of a hassle to just not deal with men's bullsh*t.

 

 

Actually, maybe I should just delete the app, because I dread the idea of talking to any of them. But I decided to actually try to this way and see if it leads to any less disastrous results than dating people I met in person. I'd like to travel the world and have someone I love experience it with me rather than going alone.

 

 

Now I don't know if maybe this belongs in rants instead.

Edited December 26, 2015 by The Way I Am

[The Way I Am]

Now I got a message, and I'm nervous to even look at it. I think I've heard about and read too many bad experiences. Maybe this was a bad idea.

[The Way I Am]

I went with left. Still undecided on deleting.

[MidwestUSA]

If it's causing this much anxiety, I'd delete the app, and find another way to meet people. But that's me. Best of luck!

[Snakechammah]

Darling come on, it's just an app.

 

Swiping left or right does not equate to eating the red pill or blue pill.

 

If you're curious, which I think you are, then swipe whatever it is that will allow you to get to know him better.

 

I don't use Tinder for it's reputation as a hook-up site, so I have no idea what left/right will do.

 

If you want to DATE, go ahead and date. Don't go having unrealistic expectations because there is no such thing as a perfect man. Red hair, short hair, no hair... if something sparks your curiosity, why not?

 

It's just a date... heck it's not even it, it's just swiping left or right to enable contact (if that is what it is!)

 

So why not? Don't overthink it!