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5 years ago I met this guy in college, he was 19 I was 22,

after a few months of dating I moved in with him,

not bc we were crazy in love and trying to start a home

but bc other reasons. Anyways, we lived together for

about 8-9 months and then he broke up with me bc he said

he felt that he was still a kid and he didn't want to be tied down

just yet, he wanted to explore whats out there, etc. I obviously

was devastated bc I had no family to run to or move in with. So

eventually even after the break up we lived and slept in the same

bed for a month until I found somewhere to go, but during that time

he kept reminding me that I had to leave the place or he was gonna

move out, I thought that was mean but I had to suck it up bc as I said

I had nowhere to run to as soon as he broke up with me. Anyway,

I finally moved out, moved on with my life, dated other people, etc.

I have one of his relatives on social media and that is how I found out

that he recently got married, it kinda bothered me at first but then

it didn't affect so much after all.

BTW he never mentioned that he got married or talked about his wife or anything

 

Now 5 years after he dumped me, and for the past 6 months he had occasionally sent me messages with random conversations not really leading to anything specific until on Thanksgiving week he asked what I was doing that weekend and I said I was gonna be busy with some stuff and why he was asking, he said bc he was gonna come to my area and wanted to see if I was gonna be around, so in my mind I was like WTH? is he gonna try to introduce me to his wife or something? I told him that I knew he was now married and that I didn't want any involvement with a married man nor even as friends, to what he said He understood. and that was the end of the convo. I mean chatting on social media is okay but meeting is another level.

 

What do you guys think? I have no idea what his intentions are. Is it normal to introduce your wife to your ex? or was he just trying to meet me for something else. Any opinions or similar stories?

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Ignore him. keep that door locked forever.

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5 years ago I met this guy in college, he was 19 I was 22,

after a few months of dating I moved in with him,

not bc we were crazy in love and trying to start a family

but there were other reasons. Anyways, we lived together for

about 8-9 months until he broke up with me bc he said

he felt that he was still a kid and he didn't want to be tied down

to anybody yet, he wanted to explore whats out there, etc.

I was devastated bc I had no family to run to or move in with at the time.

So even after the break up I had to stay with him and sleep in the same

bed for about a month until I found somewhere to rent. During that time

he kept reminding me that I had to leave the place or he was gonna

move out. I thought that was mean but I had to suck it up bc as I said

I had nowhere to run to as soon as he broke up with me. Anyway,

I eventually moved out, moved on with my life, dated other people, etc.

I recently found out that he got married this year bc I have one of his relatives

on social media, it kinda bothered me at first but then I let it go it.

 

Now 5 years later, and for the past 6 months he had occasionally sent me messages with random conversations not leading to anything specific until Thanksgiving week when he asked what I was doing that weekend and I said I was gonna be busy with some stuff and why he was asking, he said bc he was gonna come to my area and wanted to see if I was gonna be around, so in my mind I was like WTH? is he gonna try to introduce me to his wife or something? I told him that I knew he was now married and that I didn't want any involvement with a married man nor even as friends, to what he said He understood. and that was the end of the convo. I mean chatting on social media is okay but meeting is another level.

 

What do you guys think? I have no idea what his intentions are. Is it normal to introduce your wife to your ex? or was he just trying to meet me for something else. Any opinions or similar stories?

 

(sorry I wanted to edit the original post but the system would not let me)

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